Good father treated bad
My ex-wife left me and took our kids shortly after my brother committed suicide. I was at what I thought was the lowest point in my life. Since then we have been to custody court and I was oredered to pay child and spousal support of almost $900.00 bi-weekly. Before that our Attorneys agreed that I pay her $1200.00 a month to help her with her bills which I did, trying to do the right thing and be a good person. That alone ended up being $7000.00 before we even made it to court.
Since Jan. 2011 I have made all the required payments and have all my receipts. My ex decided she wants to financialy ruin me and even said so in a nasty E-mail sent to me. She went through DCSE and had the money taken directly out of my paycheck. That kinda hurt because I had my bills set up so that I was able to keep up with everything but since then I'm now falling behind in my household bills.
I work a schedule where during one week I have off two days in the middle of the week and the other I have off the first of the week and a three day weekend and am suppose to have shared physical custody of our 2 children. She refuses to get a better job to help herself and has made up her own rules and decides when she wants to take any of my visitation days she wants and not even attempt to return or make up those days.
I am suppose to be allowed to contact the children 2 times a day when she has them but again she makes up her own rules and doesn't answer the phone so I cannot speak to them which she knows gets me upset. I basically have no relationship with my daughter any longer since my ex has turned her against me. Since Christmas I have spent less than 24 hrs with her. On top of all this DCSE has sent me a letter stating that I am almost 4k behind in support even thought they take money directly from my paycheck. I love my children and would give my life for them as I'm sure any loving father would.
I think the courts need to take a fresh look at what's going on and realize that they need to update the court codes they use (from 1950's)since I thought, times had changed. I feel that in this day and age, not too many fathers are actively present and involved in their kids lives, and here I am fighting so hard to be part of their lives and feel like I am being punished for being a good father and for what I thought a good husband.
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