Grandmother

I think the child support check should be based on what a person can afford. How is one to live, pay rent, make a car payment pay bills etc. If one fourth of your paycheck is going to child support! whats even sadder is the ex wife is making more money than the man and even getting free loans for college and spending it on expensive hair cuts and clothing. The ex is also using the children as a weapon, stealing them from father not relating where they are etc. accusing male of shoving her etc. knowing full well everything out of her mouth is a lie. Its a case of "she said " he said" yet Texas always seems to side with mother. Its suppose to help the children, but mostly it lines the pockets of mothers that spend it NOT on the children but on clothing for herself.

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illinois child support laws need reformed
by: gma s

my sons wife seeing another man and filed for divorce in illinois and she makes twice the earnings he does and after he pays his living expenses and child support he has no money for food, what the hell is wrong with illinois? illinois needs to get their heads out of their asses because the fathers have to live too and they need to look at how much each person makes and take it into consideration because the illinois child support laws are not fair at all and if the father wants to be more involved in their childrens lives then the system needs to give each parent equal time with them and if both employed each support them when they have them, why should the non-custodial parent have to suffer when they didnt want the divorce in first place and only want to have their children.

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hearts torn apart
by: Anonymous

wow my son gave me my first grand daughter who i helped him raise the first three years of her life i was his mom so, i was mom to her. my son was dad i was grand ma but all she heard was him calling me mom. he meet a girl about 4 years in to my grandbabys life,she also has a daughter one year older, right away my grand child was punished and made ashamed cause she would call me mom. they are married now my daughter in law put a complete stop on the life as we new it i do understand but i know ifeel hurt and i do worry about my grand child we do have a special bond and that is okay isnt it to punish her she would be told she could not see me i live 2 blocks away and months go by and no contact i have learned that thats the way it is but we have lost so much and it is very sad that parents have to be so controlling . i really dont understand

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'A VERY PROUD GRANDMA"
by: Anonymous

"I HV BEEN THERE SINCE MY 1RST & ONLY GRANDSON, DA LUV OF MY LIFE; I WATCHED HIM BEING BORN,I CUT DA CORD & I WZ DA 1RST 2 HLD HIM! HE'S A VRY HAPPY BABY!FULL OF JOY ! MY DTR HAS NO RELATIONSHIP WIT HER 3YR OLD AT ALL! SINCE SHE PUT HIM N MY CARE IT'S BEEN DRAMA EVERY SINCE,DA ARGUING CONSTANTLY EVERYTIME SHE CMS ARND! SHE'S ALWAYS MKING THREATS 2 ME ABT WHT SHE'S GONNA DI! SHE CAUSED CONFUSION 4 EACH BDAY PARTY R GATHERING! SHE DZNT TAKE CARE OF HIM & NOW SHE SAYS SHE WNTS HER BABY & DA TRIP PART ABT IT HE SAYS HE DZNT WNT 2 GO & DIS IS WHT SHE SAYS HE DNT HV ANY WANTS & IF HE TAKES SICK BEHIND ME( I ADMIT IT I HV HIM SPOILED;BT DATS WHT GRANDMA'S DO)HE'LL GET OVER IT! NAH SHE LIVES N TEXAS WHERE I JST MVED FRM GETTING AWAY FRM DA DRAMA SHE CARRRIES WIT HER! WHT SHLD I DO?I CN NT & WILL NT LET MY (LITTLE ENERGY DRINK DWN(!

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Two made child Two raise child.
by: Anonymous

Look people, Yes there are some sorry mother's and fathers but overall....Most mothers doesn't have the option of just walking out of a childs life and honestly what real mother would..but this happens everyday with fathers that just don't want to accept their responsibilities. There'salways someone that says the women should have looked for a better man instead of a badboy..."PEOPLE CHANGE WHEN RESPOSIBILITY COMES INTO PLAY...AND THESE MOTHERS THAT WONT LET THEIR SON GROW UP NEED TO GET OUT OF THE WAY AND SIMPLY BE "GRANDPARENTS"

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baby gone away with no real grounds
by: Anonymous

my daughters baby taken from my home when i was taking care of it for 3 months just 4 days ago and my daughter to be in court the next day and with a relative to take in child but i was not to be in it why i am devastated cause my daugther is the reason for child to go. but i had 80 year old man in basement and they said he had to be court ordered to hospital and i cared for him and sister whats going jon

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How to enforce visitation in Texas without a lawyer ...if you have the guts!
by: Dan

In Texas, it has been a State Jail Felony for over 10 years for either parent to "take or retain a child in violation of a Court Order..." Texas Penal Code Section 25.03.

However, in most Texas Counties, they pretend it is not a crime and Texas District Attorneys almost all refuse to take and prosecute these cases...and have pressured law enforcement to lie to desperate parents who call to seek their help.

I went through this myself with my ex...but knew the law and was determined not to go broke feeding an attorney.

So I bulled my way up to a higher level Officer in our Sheriff's department and when he readily agreed that "yes it is a felony, but we don't enforce it because the DA won't let us"..explained to him that the DA wasn't his boss the people were, and if he would not do his job and enforce the law...that I would utilizing Texas's Citizens Arrest Statute and that if I was forced to do that the next time he would see my pickup it would have two big signs accusing the DA and his department of being the biggest Criminals in my County!

Citizens Arrest is found in Texas Code of Criminal Procedures Article 14.01 and provides:

"A peace officer or any other person may arrest for a felony or breach of the peace."

So in Texas at least, you, or grandma or aunts and uncles can collectively arrest the ex if need be if the cops will not do their job.

This takes guts...I was actually initially warned that I might end up arrested for "kidnapping" or "domestic violence"...but I stood my ground and told them I was prepared to take my chances and would tell the jury I had no choice since they would not do their job...and i did not have thousands to waste on an attorney!

The Officer called my ex and told her he would personally arrest her and take her to jail if she did not give me the kids!

I have a website about corruption in my County and you can read about this felony and my story along with other interesting information there!

http://www.wilcoshysterbuster.com

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Grandmother Took child out of State
by: Anonymous

A year ago my child's grandmother physically brought my son to me because of her health issue and the fact that his mother was in prison. I keep him for almost a year was awared ONE DOLLAR in child support. The mother was release from prison and took my son back but then went back to prison and now the Grandmother has moved to Washington from Missouri, the reason I know this is because I recd. child support enforcement papers in the mail. What can I do?

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deadbeat grandmother
by: Anonymous

my child is raising her child alone with no help from the state nor the deadbeat dad now the paternal grandmother wants the ss# to "open an account" with which we know is a flat out lie considering she lives on the system herself lives in a habitat home her son has a drinking and drug problem and has been to court over this which went as slap on the wrist and they continue to harass and bully my child. Before anyone who opened their stupid pie hole about rights to grandparents, should have researched the dangerous, ignorant, immature people(if you want to go there)about how truly people look at children as a number sad really because i would lay my life on the line for many children who are in the tug or war game which in no fun at all, they are the ones who will suffer the most and to all the deadbeats out there GOD knows all May He have mercy on your solea

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sad grandma
by: Anonymous

What do u do when she wants to take your grandson out of state?

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OH MY GOSH
by: Anonymous

My son got mixed up with a girl when he was just out of hit teens and i really didnt like her very much but when she had my first grandson i feel in love with her and my grandson. now my son didnt want to stay with her so she took him to court to pay support. well he only pays just enough to keep him out of jail when she takes him back to court every 2 years. he has since remarried and now has a sweet little girl with the new wife,he does every thing in his power to get out of paying his support, he works under the table or he just dont work. he does not see his son he doesnt even try, she goes out of her way to let him see the child she has begged him to be apart of his sons life, and my son is just not interested. the child is a very smart,caring and loving little boy who because all he ever wanted was his dads attention and did not get it, so depressed now he needs to see health drs. hes a big part of my life and i eat it up when hes around, so i ask who are the fathers hurting? the ex-wives? there pocket? the new wife? NO they are hurting the children, so as parents, grandparents we need to start educating our children about birth control and what the consequences of their actions will be. i love my son and i love my grandson, and it kills me to watch my grandsons life be screwed up because i didnt do my job. god bless all lets teach then right from wrong...

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grandson being abused and neglected yet my son still has to pay child support
by: Anonymous

My grandson is being starved and beaten and verbally abused by his custodial mother, his maternal grandfather who is also a pedophile, and by his stepfather and his stepfathers family. The mother is so dumb she even lets her schizophrenic brother abuse my grandson. I have reported the mom to CPS a number of times. They won't even investigate the situation because they say I am biased as I am the paternal grandmother. We can't afford a lawyer which is our only option to help this poor child. To top it all off he is disabled and the mother also gets social security for him which she does not use to help him either. He is not allowed to have friends. He can't participate in after school activities. He is underweight and under fed. I have seen them refuse to feed him myself. He is beaten with a belt that has metal studs on it. At least if my son had him he would feed him and let him have friends. My grandson's mother and her family, boyfriend are crazy. I worry he will die if not removed from them. Despite all of this crap my son still has to pay child support. Consequently, he can't even afford a lawyer to get his son out of this mess. Sometimes the child is not better off with the mother. Some mothers are bad. All mothers should have to show receipts and be regulated to prove they are not abusing the system. They should also have to do mandatory random drug tests and mandatory background tests on all those who they have living with them. Child support was started to help children. This is not helping my grandson one bit. It is just another form of welfare that leads to corruption for so many. If the mother is doing her job she will pass all of the tests and no harm will be done. If not the child will be sent to his father will he will be cared for properly. Just because you are a mom does not mean you are a good one!!!! I would like to start up a organization to protect these kids and help their dads do it!

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UNFAIR TO FATHERS
by: GLENDA TAYLOR

MY SON IS PAYING CHILDSUPPORT AND HE WAS NOT MADE TO DO IT,HE IS DOING IT BECAUSE HE WANTS TO. THEY HAVE NEVER LET HIM TAKE THE CHILD HOME WITH HIM OR EVEN COME TO SEE US.NOW SINCE SHE IS SHACKING UP WITH HER BOYFRIEND,SHE IS LETTING THE CHILD COME OVER.THE CHILD LIVES WITH THE GRANDPARENTS AND SHE LIVES WITH THE BOYFRIEND.SHE IS ON PROBATION AND SHE NEVER BUYS NOTHING OR GIVES NOTHING TO HER DAY.HE IS THE ONE WHO WATCHES THE CHILD.IT IS A VERY UNFAIR SET UP.MY SON DOES NOT REALLY HAVE 2 OR 3 THOUSAND DOLLARS TO SPEND ON A LAWYER.IF HE DID HE WOULD GET CUSTODY.AND ON TOP OF THAT CHILD SUPPORT IS HOLDING HIS LISCENSES BECAUSE HE DID NOT PAY CHILD SUPPORT THE LAST TIME HE WAS IN JAIL FOR BREAKING PROBATION

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Out of Wedlock cases
by: Anonymous

A lot of the discussion here pertains to divorce, but what about out of wedlock cases. It takes two to create a child and the father shouldn't be the chastised one in the situation where there is no marriage. My husband has a four year old from a previous relationship in which he wasn't married. He initially agreed to pay the mother a substantial portion of his earnings because she was unemployed when they separated. She is the custodial parent. She now works and put the child in a private school with expensive tuition without consulting my husband, the child's father. She controls visitation, my husband more like a babysitter than a joint custody participant. My husband has filed a motion to reduce child support of which she filed opposition. After reading these blogs, weary it will not go in his favor. Or worse, she gets more support to support her lifestyle and her position as controller of the child. The courts are destroying families. If people didn't rely on courts to solve their grievances, they would think twice about life decisions.

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Nice guys finish last!!!
by: Anonymous

First of all a fair judge is like a unicorn, no one know if they have ever existed. In defense of the judges some of the laws they have to uphold are really and truly assinine. Since a member of our family was recently divorced and got screwed over big time by an ex who has no conscience and lied in court I have made the following observation: the better person you are the worse you will be treated. My advice to everyone is raise your chldren to look for themselves and only themselves. If it means getting pregnant to get your self supported by all means do so, you will get child support until they are 18. If you can have multiple children by multiple fathers even better. The state will support you and you will not have to deal with the reality of actually having a job. It worked really well for the ex daughter in law. 2 kids by 2 different fathers in l3 months.

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No Life, No Way
by: Anonymous

My 27 year old son is having to live with my husband and I in small one bedroom home because he can't afford a lawyer to try to get his child support refigured since his job changed. He now only brings home $100.00 a week because the rest is going to child support. Both mothers live with their parents by choice, have vehicles, etc. My son will never be able to afford a vehicle or a home. No life, no way, for him or us.

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grandparents rights
by: Anonymous

i agree grandparents should have when they put their life on hold to raise one of their grandchildren, they should be allowed to get custody to ensure the child is not taken away just because a parent sues for custody and the grandparent has supported the child from birth. mine is now 5 yrs old and in school and doing very well,and now im told his father who neither of us has ever seen may sue for custody since he has pd for child support for 2 yrs without our knowing because my daughter kept it to herself. now im suing for custody. grandparents SHOULD have RIGHTS TOO!!!

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Heart broken Grandma
by: Anonymous

My sons ex walked out on him and literally took everything in the house except his clothes and the dog.The ex started dating right away and moved in with relatives rent free,got food stamps,free money to go to school. My son had to come home to me,he was permitted by ex to see his daughter under the ex's terms( she always wanted to be with my son and got pissed when he said he didn't want to spend the time with her just his daughter)six months later my son started to date someone and the ex has since refused my son the right to see his daughter.The support payments are based on his old job which he doesn't have do to the economy, for 9 months he has been making 50% less, has traded his newer truck for an older one,stoped the gym membership,doesn't go out with friends,he can't even afford to pay all his bills cause he is paying so much in support. The ex's moms boyfriend has lots of money (from his family) so they have an expensive attorney.Delays consist of paper filed by my son got lost, the ex's attorney had to go out of town suddenly, then a continuence because the ex's attorney needed more time to gather info. all this after the ex admitted in court that she has made no attempt to allow my son to see his daughter nor does she. The judge ordered her to parenting classes and my son his visitation,however he has yet to see his daughter and the ex hasn't started the classes because of her attorney.My son has temporarily stopped paying his support hoping to get someones attention and speed up getting a court date. The system sure is screwed up, I don't agree with my son's decision,however I haven't seen my granddaughter in one year and ten months. I live in Florida where grandparents have no rights.I miss her so much and I am affraid she will not know who I am if I ever get to see her again.

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evil ex-wifes
by: Anonymous

Some people make mistakes in life. Like getting married at an early age and getting a divorce when children are involved. Why is that mothers get everthing after the divorce. They use their children as pawns against the father. How awful! The judges say they want the fathers involved but how can they when they let these women get away with things. Times have changed and so should the laws. Women today should be held accountable for the things they do to there ex's. I am a grandmother of one of those evil women who like to use her child against my son. He could walk away but he doesn't. he pays his child support monthly and his life goes on. It's her way or no way. I want to know what a mother's role is in a situation like this? If there are any judges reading this you need to sit back and truly listen to what is going on.

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Knowlege to Understand!
by: Star.

Living in truth And Giving Out of Goodness is what we all shall learn and do! Bless the ones who Greed for the lust of life. Do it in Favor of your own sacrafice. Understand, Be happy your needed. Next time Have not one thought for your own. Let all knowlege that procedes from your lips be in favor of Your Child >(Your Life) If it is Heard from a Judges POV. The One with who is living good will show Anger. Show Kindness wile suffering and you will show strength and Wisdom along with that. I Have more on my hands than anyone who has written. I am not gonna Complain at all... My trust is in 1.. Don't think that life is easy handle what your given take it as a Blessing to be of use to another! Your gonna be the srength in there life.

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Plzzzzz-No poor daddy
by: Anonymous

There are always so many sides to all of these stories and frankly, there probably is "some" truth in al of them. I have divorced children, they have "joint" custody. Neither pays child support. However, they both are "supposed" to pay equal to insurance coverage, daycare, school costs and each is "supposed" to provide for the children with their own money. While this sounds like a good situation, it is hell on earth for the kids. Mother has a home (not bought by the father), a permanent home, is educated and actually raises the children appropriately and they are very loved. They go from that to the father who doesn't pay any rent as lives off his mom, children sleep on the floor, continuously up and down the dangerous highways and even though he doesn't pay any child support due to "joint" custody he can't even pay half of expenses like insurance and other necessiities that are supposed to be split. I cannot defend a "mama"s" boy grandma, you need to kick him out. Like I said there are two sides. Most men need to grow up. Some quit their good jobs so they won't have to pay support and when it backfires, poor daddy. When you had those children you should have known it costs a lot of money to take care of them. If grandma feels sorry her son doesn't have hardly any money, would you feel better if the children had none and he had plenty? I defend the mothers. I raised mine and the dad did not pay child support. He chased women and everyone felt sorry for him. Well they are now grown and educated. Dad is a drug user, still sorry and still petted. So yes, there are definitely two sides to a story lady.

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CHILD SUPPORT ABUSE
by: Anonymous

One thing that really bothers me is that they say child support is suppose to be for the children. If that is the case why are SO MANY children suffering because of it. My son that lives in the state of Ga. has to pay cs even when he has his daughter. (After 6 months he no longer has to pay)
That is the reason she never gets to stay with her father longer that 5 1/2 months. Also according to the grandmother in Tx. her daughter spends the majority of the cs on herself and her husband. I have another son that has custody of his 2 children and asks for not 1 penny. He feels like it will benefit the children in the long run. Thank God they dont have to deal with
all the drama over the stupid money. Now the mother can afford to take them out to dinner more often and do some extra's for them.

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Grandparents rights?
by: A Gramma

What do grandaprents do when the mother refuses to let the child see the father and gramma?

My grandbabies mom refuses to let us see him.My son pays child support and isnt behind in child support.But the mother will text him and say in order to see your son you need to pay your child support by the wk end.I feel like my grandson is a money pawn to her.

We cut his hair from his eyes 2 months ago,we havent seen or talked to him since.She text and said if we called her she would have us arrested for phone harressment.

This gramma is hurting because mommie is mad.

What rights do I have as a grandparent? My son hasnt seen his son either nor have we spoken to her,we have no idea how the child is.

What can we do to see him??

MLC Gramma

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STOP COMPLAINING
by: Anonymous

If you don't wanna pay 20 to 25 percent of your income-don't get divorced...ITS CALLED COMMENTMENT! If your earning low wages-go to school at night and improve your situation! Don't get remarried and reproduce 2 to 4 other children and complain that you have to pay CS on a child from a previous marriage/relationship-BIRTH CONTROL GO PURCHASE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! THERE ARE FREE CLINICS FOR THIS. I had a child from a previous relationship, my only one. I worked and went to school at night! My ex-payed child support on our daughter until she was 18-850.00 a month. She had the best home, school, health care, food, dance/cheer lesson and sports! ALL OF YOU WHO MARRY SOMEONE WITH PREVIOUS RESPONSIBLITIES STOP COMPLAINING-You new what you were marrying BEFORE the "I dos"!!! all of you grandmothers here is the run down on teenage girls

hair-65.00 and that is a deal
school cloths-300-500(hope your school doesn't make the kids wear uniforms)
prom 200-500
dance lesson 50 a month
braces 4500
femaine products and make up 15.00 per month
school supplies 50 per year
school lunches 10.00 to 20 per week
car Insurace on a 16 year old 300 per month

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try it
by: Anonymous

You and get real need a litte awaken. It should happen to You everthing that has happened to this NCParents. Then we will see who is whinning.

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grandmother
by: Anonymous

listen please my son was 27 when he married waiting for right lady less then a month after my only granddaughter was born her mom left my son and moved into her parents and filed for dicorce. since then i have not seen my grand daughter her mother and i had differences but what bothers me is that my son was accused of abuse and i lived next door to them not once did the police get called not once did i hear my son raise his voice to her but she was abusive to him. my son didint fught for his rights then and now he will pay for that forever he has not seen his daughter but still payes every month for her support the courts are very biased towards the woman and believe her every word .

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Still Whining
by: Anonymous

I agree with 'Get Real'. The NCP's placed themselves in their own situations. If more $ is needed because of the cost of living, so be it. You think a mother should be living off of $200/month for 2-3 kids from an Order that was in place 10 years prior??? Give me a break! You think the kids' needs will be the same or at the same cost as it would've been 10 years or so prior to the Order being in placed??? Give me a break! There's always drama & it should be expected. The thing is, who's more mature about themselves within the situation. If the CP is doing anything outside of the Orders, tell the courts/ get an attorney. Stop friggin whining! And the grandparents need to keep their noses out of the parent's business so much. If you're caring for the kids as much as or more than the parents, seek custody. Other than that, you'd think you'd raised your own children well enough to not have gotten into this mess in the first place! It's called RESPONSIBILITY!

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Child Support
by: Anonymous

I have 3 wonderful grandsons that my son has to pay child support for. He is an independant contractor so basically has his own business. When he went to court they did they figured the amount of child support on his total gross income before taking out his business expenses. Let's just say that he now basically brings no money home at times and has nothing to live on. Seriously. If it weren't for me he would be on the streets living. He can't afford to live anywhere else, he can't afford health insurance, not even from the state. He can't pay his bills, which then I try to keep up with. The court doesn't even want to listen about this. He doesn't not want to support his kids, of course he does, but he has to be able to survive as well. This really has nothing to do with the relationship with the mom as they have a good one. I just can't understand how the court system thinks that they can do this to a Dad, and then put them in jail because they can't pay? He is not a dead beat Dad, he is not a Dad who doesn't want anything to do with his kids. He's a great Dad. Some how there has to be a fairness, a way that these Dad's can pay child support but still be able to survive themselves. It is more than just about the Moms. THey need to think about the Dads

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Eventually it stops being about the kid(s)
by: Anonymous

I am a step mom to a non custodial parent. Everytime mommy gets a bug up her but my husband is in court so she can have more money. The judge don't even listen to his side of the story. When he was full time in school, the judge told him to quit and get a job, when he wasn't working and his dad was sick/dying the judge didnt want to hear it. She always brings up me and my income. Even when we had only been together for a few months. I have no part in what he pays yet they always add it into the mix. Everytime we hit a milestone she gets upset and he is in court. We can not get ahead. she is not the only "baby mama. yet, now he is paying close to 2000 a month in child support and insurance. I work a low paying job and we have our own bills to cover, but that doesnt matter. The problem here is the care for the children is not what people are worried about did the judge take into consideration she lives at home with her parents with a Bach degree and makes more than me, with a paid off car and no school loans NO!! shes just a woman!! So,, give her the money. But when the child needs something she will call, and we will get it for him.. when christmas comes around or his birthday, we will buy him those awesome gifts, when he comes over we take him where he wants to go, dinner, zoo, whatever. So really, really does she NEED more money or is it just spite and hatefulness. Isn't there a better way.

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Tips from Grandma age 51, do best for all
by: Anonymous

Tips from a Grandma that has experienced the pains...and still experiencing the results.

Forget the emotional stuff between you and your X and work together best you can for the child's sake. Remember you are teaching by everything the child sees and hears you do. Do NOt teach hate. Do NOT use the child as a pawn. The better both parents do the better it is for the child and how they will turn out in the future. The child likes both parents and should not feel pulled differently. Help your child grow up as normal as possible. The future is depending on how you treat people and your children now...the older you get the more you will understand this. Also, many people are effected, family, friends, society.
CEN

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It is always so sad
by: Anonymous

When it becomes more about the money than doing the right thing.

My ex d-i-l literally crippled my son, emotionally, mentally, and physically. Her infidelity led to divorce, and they ended up in a shared custody situation. My son requested full custody, but the court in its' wisdom, felt my grandson needed both parents, and under normal circumstances, I would agree.

This was 5 years ago, and while they tried to make it work, things are now at the point where she has disappeared with our grandson, and my son not only is unemployed, he faces child support payment arrearages over $20,000.

Can he afford legal fees to help locate his son? NO - if he could he wouldn't owe for child support. Has he the emotional, mental or physical strength he needs to face the situation? NO.

These situations affect not only the couple and the child, but the extended families, as well.

She wants money, the court and the lawyers all want money, and in the meantime my grandson grows up not knowing what-the-flip happened to his family.

There has to be a better way.

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Try being the Grandmother
by: Anonymous

I have a daughter that blessed me with my first born grandson, However, after being married only 8 months, she decided that marriage and motherhood was not for her. She moved in with my husband and I with our grandson. He was 3 months old. We have had him ever since, supported him, loved him, cared for him, changed our lives to accommodate him with no help from her or the father. When the baby was 11 months old, my daughter filed for divorce which sparked a custody battle. Not that the father wanted his son because he loves him, but for revenge against my daughter. I put out over $8000 to help my daughter (aka ME) keep my grandson. Ironically, she was pregnant now by another man, and the father of my grandson got his current girlfriend pregnant. They are both immature and have no business raising any children as they cannot raise themselves! After a year of fighting and the Judge thought even though the father hadn't seen his son in 7 months for his own selfish reasons, that the baby would go to him for 1 week and us for 1 week. My daughter sort of lived with me at the time. The last hearing, he didn't show so my daughter got what she wanted. Or...I did. Now I have always supported this baby, yet when child support was set, my daughter spent it all on herself. Long story short, I have my grandson still and he is now 4 years old, my almost 80 year old parents have her second child and she is pregnant yet again with another man's child. The court case was closed due to lack of activity, she is still married to her first husband that hasn't seen or tried to contact his son in 3 years now and I am the one trying to get child support for him. We go to court Sept 15th. He is in a private daycare where I pay $540-$675 a month, depending on how many weeks are in the month, he goes to Sunday school every week, he has a clean safe home, room of his own, more toys and clothes than any 10 kids has and all the love from us. Everything his parents cannot give him. After Granville vs Troxille ruining grandparents rights, this is a case that should be in the books as a reason for a grandparent to have the child.

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Dead Beat Parents
by: Anonymous

Why don't you try living on 25 dollars a month child support for two children and your income. Now I get 401 because he got a job. But he quit after a month of wage garnishment. I am also going to college but working full time to support my daughter. I also have 60,000 in medical debt on her which he doesn't have to help pay. Child support is to help the parent with day to day cost of raising their child. They can spend it on whatever they want as long as the child is being well taken care of. I live with my parents because I do not make enough for rent trying to pay past due medical bills. I also pay 300 a month for medical insurance for my daughter which he doent help pay for. So maybe you should quit your complaining and put yourself in my shoes for awhile. I have never denied him rights to see his daughter he just won't even talk with her on the phone. And I have to pay half the airfair if he wants to have visitation.

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Child support
by: MOM

Ok Im a mom of 2 and step mom of 2. I get child support for one of my kids. Either father excercises their right to see thier kids.. My 2 step kids we pay a combined payment of close to 800/month.. The mothers are low lifes an we dont see either kid. So I hate to pay them child support BUT.. I like getting child support for the child that does get it in my home.. And I spend it any damn way I want.. I look at it as partial reimbursement for what I pay for every month.. Seeing as "dads" 400 a month does not even pay for her daycare muchless clothes, activities, an just any of the other stuff that a 5 year old may need or want. So your damn right I don't feel bad that I spend the child support on what I WANT!! My husband pays 800 month so his checks weekly are usually about 300 bring home.. so his baby mommas get his money for reimbursement.. Its just a big circle.. So in closing.. as long as the child is taken care of..thats all that matters..

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TIRED OF THE STATE OF ILLINOIS
by: Anonymous

I AM A FATHER WHO PAYS HIS CHILD SUPPORT EVERY 2 WEEKS AND I JUST RECEIVED A MODIFICATION ORDER FOR CHILD SUPPORT INCREASING IT $200.00 A MONTH. I HAVE 2 OTHER SIBLINGS I AM TRYING TO SUPPORT WORKING DAY IN AND DAY OUT. WHY IS THE STATE ABLE TO SLAM THE GOOD PARENTS AND NOT EVEN CHASE THE DEADBEAT FATHER MY STEP-DAUGHTER HAS THIS JUST MAKES NO SENSE AND I AM TIRED OF GETTING THE SHAFT ON SUPPORT EVERYTIME I TRY TO GET AHEAD IN LIFE.

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Happens Everyday
by: It is REAL

I beg to differ about her being a dead beat parent. The custodial parent gets over; no wonder so many men don't want to pay support. At least she gets to see her stepkids. My husband pays $700 a month for a daughter he does not see. All I want is for my son and his sister to have a relationship. No amount of child support could pay for that. Don't be so quick to judge!!! You couldn't walk two steps in her shoes!!

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SAD Case
by: SAD

The courts usuually do side with the mother in most cases because the majority of time the mom ends up with the kids. In this case one thinks twice about going to work everyday just to send most of the money to a household that is being vendictive. Right now my husband is making less money than he did when he was in the military and he pays double the child support. It seems as if the system wants the paying parent to struggle.

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On Both Sides
by: Anonymous

I am a mother of 3 boys, I have 2 Step daughters. My new husband of 3yrs just had his child support raised and he is only living on $70 a week now. He is a former member of the U.S. Army and lost his finger in a terrible accident way back in '91 while serving his country. He and my ex both work at the same factory making the same money, and he sees his girls 2x a week, he calls them everyday, and supports 2 households. But now I am unemployed, tring to go to school but now I need to find work in a hurry so I can help with just living. We don't go to eat, go to movies, buy anything other than the nessessities of life. His ex on the other hand farms the kids out, drinks like a fish, and gets her nails done while my step daughter wears clothes too small for her. Mom doesn't have the money!! Bull crap!!!

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Get Real
by: Anonymous

You sound like all the dead beat dads and moms that are out there. Get real!!!!

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System is broke!
by: Anonymous

There is a reason why the courts side with the mothers...it's up to the mother to do the right thing. I could tell my story too cause I have three stories to tell but to get to the point. There are a lot of no count mothers and dead beat dads that just makes the whole system suck with their evil, vindictive ways. My advice, be careful who you have relationships with because when you make your bed, you have to lay in it! In the end, the kids suffer. No amount of money can replace the love and care of two parents who should be providing the emotional and physical support a child needs and wants.

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