Greedy Women

by David
(Alexandria, VA )

As a father, I pay (and always have) my Child Support on time. I will agree though, in most cases the Attorney Generals Office will view all non-custodial parents (usually the dads) as dead beats; even if the woman committed adultery and was the cause for the divorce. There are a lot of bad women out there who are never accountable for their actions. Consider this scenario; a couple marries, has children, and later divorces. Come to find out, one or more of the kids he's supporting doesn't belong to him. Guess what? He signed the Birth Certificate without any knowledge of his wife's indiscretions. Now, he is stuck paying child support and the woman cashes in! Where's the equality in that?

In my case, my wife and I adopted a girl from the state. Two weeks after the adoption, she ran off with the person she was cheating on me with. And, of course I have been paying ever since. Now, she wants a modification because she knows I make more money. What she fails to mention to the AG's office is that she all ready receives an adoption subsidy plus child support. So here's my question to them; if they decide to take more money in the interest of the child, why don't they also enforce the law that says the money is to be spent in the same interest as well? What is going on here is nothing more than tax-free spousal support because they have no mechanism in place to validate the money trail.

I do not agree with those who automatically think that a woman should be entitled to more money if the non-custodial parent makes more. Every situation is different. What the woman should be required to show is the amount necessary to provide for the child on a monthly basis. That amount should also be prorated in the case of joint expenditures. In other words, if a man has to pay support on one child and six others are in the house, the expenses should equate to total costs divided by six.

Just because I guys moves away and betters himself financially, shouldn't necessarily mean the custodial parent can dip deeper into his pockets every time. Again, its based on the needs of the child; not the mother!