HE DIVORCE HIS KIDS TOO

by JEANETT HOLMES
(SPRINGVILLE, AL.USA)

I WAS DIVORCE IN 2001 AND THOUGHT MY DAYS OF BEING IN HELL WHERE OVER. BUT TO MY SUPRISE MY WALK HAD JUST BEGAIN.FIRST HE REFUSED TO SIGN ANY PAPERS SIMPLY BECAUSE ACORDNG TO THE ALABAMA CHILDS SUPPORT LAWS AND HIS INCOME $700.00 DOLLARS A MONTH FOR TWO BOYS WAS JUST TO DAMN MUCH !SO LIKE A LOT OF WEMAN OF WOULD DO ANYTHING TO GET OUT OF AN TEN YEAR ABUSIVE MARRIAGE, I AGREED TO ASET AMOUNT OF 465.00 DOLLARS A MONTH. I ALSO THOUGHT THAT SINCE THIS WAS THE AMOUNT HE WANTED, HE WOULD HAVE NO POMBLEM PAYING .OUR DIVORCE WAS FINAL IN FEB.2001 WHICH MENT 30 DAYS AFTER THAT HE WAS TO SEED IN HIS FIRST PWYMENT .Ooo AND TO ALL OF YOU MEN READING THIS YES I WAS WORKING A FULL TIME JOB WITH A SON TWO AND THE OTHER EIGHT I WAS PAYING ALL OF THE DAY CARE BILLS AND ALL SCHOOL EXPENSIVE FOR THE EIGHT YEAR OLD. I TOOK MY TWO BOYS AND LEFT THE FAMILY HOME THAT WE HAD PURCHASED ONLY THREE YEARS EARLIER , BECAUSE HE WANTED THE HOUSE ONLY TO LET IT BE FORCLOSED ON SIX MONTHS LATER . ANYWAY BACK TO FEB.2001 MY DIVORCE WAS OVER I HAD FOUND A NEW HOME FOR MYSELF AND MY TWO BOYS , I WAS A SINGLE MOM . I JUST HAD NO IDEAL HOW MUCH THE WORD SINGLE REALLY MENT SINGLE IN EVERY WAY YOU COULD THINK. IN 2001 MY CHILDREN RECIVED ON PAYMENT FROM THEIR FATHER. WHICH SHORLY AFTER OUR DIVORCE HE REMARRIED , AND I THOUGHT NOW THAT HE HAS A WIFE AND SHE HAS TWO CHILDREN FROM A FIRST MARRIAGE THAT SHE WOULD KNOW HAVE HARD IT IS TO BE A SINGLE MOM AND WOULD HELP SEE HIS CHILDS SUPPORT WAS PAID AFTER ALL HE SAID HIS BOYS WAS THE MOST INPORTANT THING TO HIM.TO MAKE THIS EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD STORY SHORT, PHILIP BRIAN Sr.OF GASDEND AL IS OVER $15,000. DOLLARS BEHIND AND UNLESS I CAN COME UP WITH THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS FOR AN ATTONEY ,I THE ONE THE SINGLE ONE THAT GET TO TELL MY SON THAT IS NOW IN THE TWETH GRADE THAT COLLEGE IS JUST A DREAM ,AND TO MY TEN YEAR SANTA IS ALMOST BROKE AGAIN THIS YEAR. OR I COULD PAY FOR COLLEGE FOR THREE YEARS AND BUY THAT PS3 THAT THEY ASK FOR, FOR CHRISTAMS IF ONLY THEY HAD A FATHER THAT'S CHILDERN WAS WROTH 465.00 DOLLARS A MONTH THEIR DREAMS TODAY MAY HAVE COME TRUE.AND IF I KNEW THE WORD SINGLE WOULD CHANGE THE CROUSE OF MY BOYS LIFE.SINGLE MOMS AND THEIR CHILDREN LIFE COULD BE SO MUCH EASIER IF WE HAD LAWS FOR THEM .I HAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD HOW CAN ALABAMA LAWS IN ORDER FOR A SINGLE MOM TO GET CHILD SOPPURT YOU NEED AN ATTORNEY IF HE GET'S BEHINDE YOU NEED AN ATTORNEY AND IF YOU CAN NOT AFORD ON LIKE MOST SINGLE MOM'S YOU ARE JUST SHIT OUT OF LUCK.YES YOU CAN GARNISH HIS WAGES, YOU CAN PUT A LIEN ON HIS PROPERTY HELL YOU CAN EVEN HAVE HIS LICENSE REVOKED AND THESE THINGS NEED TO BE DONE AND YOU CAN HAVE THEM DONE . IF YOU HAVE A MONEY TREE IN YOUR BACK YARD.OR YOU CAN ASK FOR LEGAL AID IF YOU HAVE MONEY THAT YOU CAN LIVE ON FOR THE NEXT YEAR OR SO .I THINK IT SHOULD BE A LAW PAST THAT WHEN I.C.W.O IS ORDERED AND HE OR SHE HAS FALLEN BEHINDED THRITY DAYS WITH OUT GOOD REASON THAT THE D.A OFFICE THAT ACTION 1st REVOKE THEIR LICENSE-2nd PLACE LIENS ON ANY PROPERTY AND THREE STRIKES YOUR OUT .AS I AM SHURE ALL SINGLE MOMS AND DADS WILL SAY HE WOULD BE HELPING THE SAME IN JAIL OR OUT AND ANY COST THAT MY OCORE SHOULD BE PLACED IN THE HANDS OF THE ONE BREAKING A COURT ORDER .I THINK IF SOMEONE WITH BIG ENOUGH BALLS WOULD HELP CHANGE THE LAW SO THAT CHILDREN IN BROOKEN HOME'S DREAM COULD REALLY COME TRUE AND NOT HAVE TO GIVE THEM UP BECAUSE OF A SINGLE MOM ON A SINGLE INCOME. WHO KNOWS MEM MAY BECOME MEM AGAIN IF THEY KNEW THE LAW WAS NOT GOING TO LET THEM DIVORCE THEIR KIDS TOO.