Helped Him Find His Worth

by Cynthia S
(Pahrump, NV)

I'm black, color-blind, and met my Mexican love walking to his illegal job while I was driving down the street in my new car in 1990. We hooked up after a meal at KFC. I fell in love w/him - he with I. We had 3 beautiful babies within a four year period - our first was a Christmas baby! He was unmarried, had no wife/woman, no family, no children, no hope, no vision, so a Christmas baby was a heavenly blessing.

I was a multi-game dealer on the Las Vegas Strip. I loved my man, but had to work hard at finding out everything about him. I'd already taken courses in Spanish, but wanted to learn more for and about him. Julio was extremely happy about having children and did not deny them. He declined a paternity test and seemed desperately helpless and lonely whenever a week or two would pass w/o seeing them. After some domestic problems with him, I left him when our youngest child (who is now 15) was almost 2 years old. I'd also learned that he'd had immigration problems and tried to marry a U.S. citizen in Colorado to become legal.

A couple of years later, I requested help to obtain child support for our 3 beautiful children. Soon after, he was ordered to pay. After I left him, he met a big white woman who was desperately lonely, demanding, and insecure. He had intimate relations w/ both her and her mother at the same time and threatened to leave her if she didn't agree to this behavior - so she did. She has played a major role in his decisions to not want to pay child support.

To date, he seems to have forgotten his past life while walking down the street to his illegal job. Without that moment, he would not have experienced having an American family or knowing his 3 beautiful, bi-racial ninos.