His ex is making it hard for him to live

Im with a new boyfriend who has a son and his ex girlfriend is just taking all of his money. She works maybe 2 or 3 times a week while he works 6 days at a terrible job just to pay her. His last check he got less than what he gives her for shild support. How is he supposed to live like that. She is out shopping for a new car and just bought a new laptop. His money is not going to his son its going to her and we know it. Hes only 22 and shes getting 600 a month from him when he barely brings home that much. He cant afford a car to get a better job and cant afford to go back to school to finish for his nursing degree, but she doesnt care. Isnt there something that can help him. Is he able to know what his money is being spent on. He is a great dad and loves his son. She didnt even want to keep the baby but he said no Im his dad I want him. He wanted custody but she fought it just to get his money. She is a terrible person. And he is trying to get his life in order but its hard because of her. All she worries about is is money and its just not right.


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Let's hear it for the noncustodials!
by: Anonymous

I agree...my husband's ex is one of those blood sucking custodials who has no concern about the true well being of the child. She loves her children because they are a source of income. Talk about parent alienation syndrome! She has totally alienated my stepson from his father and has done the same thing with the others too. He has not seen his son more than 5 times in 2 years, and that includes holidays and birthdays. My husband is unemployed with no source of income and she continues to hound the court for back support. The kid is now 18, has a full time job and is living better than we are. What's worse...she took his exemption this year even though he was not in arrears at that point - and yes - she had signed the waiver which allows the exemption. What a baby momma that one! I never have been allowed to be a part of my stepson's life. My advise to anyone thinking about a relationship with someone with "priors"...run, run, run and don't look back.

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Reverse Situation with a Momma's Boy
by: Anonymous

My situation is in reverse. I am the mother of three daughters. I left their father because he didn't want to cut the umbilical cord from his mother, among other reasons. However, his family has money and mine does not.

After I left, thing were relatively civil. My ex and I spoke to one another and divided time with our kids pretty evenly. He told me the whole time that as soon as I found a place, as I was living with family at the time, that the girls were going to live with me. I was fine with that and even preferred that. Then the new girlfriend came into the picture. She became buddy-buddy with his mommy and then it all went to hell in a hand basket.

To make a long story short, I pay him $700 per month is child support. That amount also took daycare costs into consideration. Since court, the kids have been pulled from daycare and no longer go. On top of that, he spends barely any time with the girls. Our youngest stays with one of his Aunts most of the time. The other two, stay with his mom most of the time. The kids told me that they "might" spend one night a week with him and "maybe" his weekend with him.

My kids have expressed their dislike for the new girlfriend and her small son. That is the reason that they don't spend much time at home, AT ALL. The fact of the matter is, when I call my ex to see where our kids are going to be for the night, sometimes he doesn't even know and I have start calling his family members until I find them. That is when I am luck enough to get an answer!

As far as the child support is concerned, to me it is just money. I have no qualms, what-so-ever, about paying. However, if the kids are never with him, they don't go to daycare anymore, and there is no evidence that he is spending any of it for things that the kids need. I just had the kids over the weekend and they needed shoes. They all told me that they always see the new girlfriend shopping and getting new things, but daddy never takes them shopping.

To top it off, he lied in court about 2 of his sources of income. One is a full time job that was documented in court. However, the other two he gets paid in cash and lied, under oath, about getting paid. I spent 13 years of my life with this man. I know, first hand, that he does nothing without getting paid for it. He was able to hide 2 sources of income by just merely lying to the judge!!! (This makes me have tremendous faith in our justice system, by the way!!!)


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Baby mama dramas
by: Anonymous

LMFAO! At all the baby mama women commenting here. It is her business because they are together and she only wants the best for her boyfriend. She cares and loves him that's why she's that way. You baby mamas are full of drama and have no life. You feed on child support and that's you all do. I will judge each and everyone of you until one baby mama proves me wrong.

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To the more money comment
by: Anonymous

I agree that at present the support should be discussed between both parents and not the girlfriend, however I do think that it is a issue the girlfriend needs to consider and discuss with the boyfriend. I definitely would have gotten out of my current relationship much less had a child with him if I would have known how all this child support ordeal would be. Now is that fair to the father as well? He can't have another child and try to be happy with a new family, yet the mother can have 4 more children and complain that it's too hard for her? No offense but who told her to open her legs so many times? She was the one that cheated and made his life miserable not him. I'm all for paying the support that is required by each state law, not just a relative number the mom thinks is right. And it should be divided equally among all kids present. Not one child receiving more than the other the way some custodial parents think it should be. I mean is that fair to my own son that his older brother receive more? How is that supposed to look, that daddy loves his brother but not him. Let me tell you that as experiencing this first hand myself, it is not beneficial for the kids because it will just create animosity between them. I mean I love my older brother because of all that we have been through but I definitely hated seeing him in the new jordans or Nike sneakers and I would have to wear the payless shoes because there wasn't enough money left over. Now when I see him I just say hi and go about my way because it's all about materials now, and sadly he's turning my nephew and niece the same way

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Make it easy
by: Anonymous

Here is what I have to say to both custodial and noncustodial parents. I am a mother in Indiana that agreed with my ex to emancipate my son at the age of 18 be cause yes it is all about money. listen to yourselves. you all have to work extra jobs, you can't pay your bills. You BOTH decided to split, so why fight over money. Why go the courts and let them dictate to you how much money per week and who will pay what? I got sick of it. I can take care of him myself and if his dad wants to give money, he does. That's the way it should be. You should agree amongst yourselves as adults, otherwise you truly are only for yourselves, not for your children.

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I EMPATHIZE
by: Anonymous

I also have been paying 481.00 wkly. and I understand how it can be hard. I grossed 52k last yr. and my net was 24k. ??? I work on commision and some paychecks (bi-weekly) are less than 100.00! I have a mortage, utilities, ins., food, gas, etc... I usually have to get food from my church. I don't get ANYTHING for myself or my children. The sad thing is that I have been to court 3 times in the past yr. for reduction and the judge in this one horse town just laughs and says "get creative". The whole time my ex is taking her boyfriends kids to the mall, getting their nails done, going on vacations, stuff like that. Now when they come over my house they expect me to take them out to do this kind of stuff. They don't understand that daddy does'nt have the money. My ex is turning them into material girls. I do not have a problem paying my child support but 480.00 a week for 2 children ages 12 and 8!!!! They don't go to daycare or after school care but their mom claims they do. How can 2 kids need 480.00 a week? my ex makes 20.00 an hr. I think the child support sys. is about as ignorant as our government. It would be easier for me to quit my job, draw unemployment(just because I have paid into the sys.), and work for cash just like the illegal immigrants. If the sys. screws you, screw the sys. but not your children. If I did'nt pay child support to my ex. she would lose her house, car, mind, status, and eventually her children. Gold Digger!!!!

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His Business
by: The Bread Winner

I be understanding that he may not be able to afford the $600 a month but since you want to be in his business you may want to do more research. He can always go back get an attornery and request a modification but if he doesn't take the steps then he's going to keep paying the cost. Secondly I dont think you should be pointing out her business because who's to say she's even getting the full $600 and lets not forget if the child is of daycare age then that's where that whole check just went. I will say this it seems like your making excuses for him because he can go back to Nursing School it's too much free money that's out there but you may just be his handicapp because your making too many excuses for him. If you love him then guide him in a positive direction versue a path of destruction because when you get tired and leave he's still not going to handle up on his child support or education issue.

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It SUCKS!!!
by: mommy

GET OUT NOW!!!!!!
I have been dealing with this rotten issue for 14 years now. When I met my husband I never thought it would be this hard. I was in grad school at the time, and thought we'd be fine once I got out and started teaching. I WAS SADLY MISTAKEN!!!!!! One daughter is on her way to being married, but the other just turned 17, and after having her mother literally drop her on our doorstep 8 years ago, she now has decided that she wants to run off and live with her. Of course the ONLY reason that mom wants her back is because she wants the money. Now, just when we thought there was a light at the end of the tunnel, we'll be stuck paying 350.00/wk in child support for the next 4 years!!!!!
When does it end?????
There's no such thing as justice when it comes to family court!!!!

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To stepmom of 3
by: Anonymous

Opinion and or advice from me. I am not judging anyone, just calling it like I see it. Yes I am a custodial parent...blood sucking NO! I only want my children to have what they are entitled to from the non custodial parent. The non custodial parent is responsible for care as well.
As far as accounting for where the child support money goes...I am ALL for it exspecially if there is in question....drug use, homeless, hungar/starvation.

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TO MORE $
by: Stepmother of 3

FIRST OF YOU MUST BE A BLOOD SUCKING CUSTODIAL PARENT!!!! I'M I RIGHT!!!! IF SHE IS GOING TO BE IN THE CHILDS LIFE THAN IT IS HER BUSINESS!!!! I AM MARRIED TO A MAN THAT IS GOING THREW THE SAME SUPID BS THAT HER BOYFREIND IS GOING THRU!!!! SHE WANT'S ANSWERS JUST LIKE THE REST OF US THAT ARE STUCK IN THIS SAME BS SYSTEM THAT WE CALL JUSTICE... WHAT A BUNCH OF CRAP!!!! DON'T JUDGE SOMEONE UNTIL YOU WALK A MILE IN HER SHOES!!!! I HOPE AND PRAY SOME DAY THAT ALL NON CUSTIODAL PARENTS, GET TREATED EQUAL IN THE COURT OF LAW. SO THEY ARE SUPPORTING THEIR CHILDREN AND THAT ALL THE CHILD SUPPORT MONEY THAT IS PAYED OUT HAS TO BE ACCOUNTED FOR SO THAT CUSTODIAL PARENTS CAN'T SPEND IT ON DRUGS, BEER, CARS, AND WHAT EVER THEY FEEL THE WORLD OWES THEM! SO JUST KEEP YOUR COMMENTS TO YOURSELF!!!!

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More $
by: Anonymous

This situation with your boyfriend is none of your business. If the ex is just wanting his money to take care of their kid...or to buy whatever thats her business. One can only hope that she is providing shelter, food, clothes, health care and education...and lots of love. I think you are worried about the money and if so have your new boyfriend get a 2nd job! You will only make it worse by butting in where you don't belong.

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