How High is YOUR Arrearage?

by Jw
(Nebraska)

I am a single mother of 4 minor children, and do my very best to raise my kids with very little to no child support. Now mind you, the ex did pay quite nicely for 3yrs straight, but in January of '09, it once again came to an abrupt halt. I just lost my own job due to vicious rumors of the boss' wife, and I'm out there, everyday, looking for a new job. Money is gone, we are on food stamps, and my kids are on medicaid!

How pathetic is all of that? My children wouldn't be in this bind, if their father would pay his child support. I feel that he doesn't pay, because he feels he's being punished. Well, little do the deadbeat parents out there know, that child support is NOT a punishment by any definition it's simply monetary help for the custodial parent to make sure the children's needs are being met!! I mean, the custodial parent didn't make the child(ren) all by themselves!! You all know what I mean.

Anyhow, I have been in and out of the courtroom against my ex, no less than probably 30x's, trying to get the child support that my kids so rightfully deserve!!! It took several years to get a decent judge as well!!! Once we did, the ex was sent to jail, let out on home/work release, but with the ankle monitoring bracelet. Now the judge that did that, was AWESOME!!! But here my kids sit...no child support now since January...the father calls and lies to them that he is going back to work around Oct.1st, for the company that confirmed his termination by firing him! I am at a point in my life, where "why do I even bother?" I have no money for a lawyer, and don't know how to go about pulling his rump back into court 'pro-se'. I will figure something out for my kid's sakes tho!

Oh yea!.....my ex's child support starting Sept.1st, '09...will officially be over $50,000.00 in arrears!!!! What my kids wouldn't GIVE to have even $5k of that !!!! No matter the situation, he still owes what he owes...and so I feel for all of you out there, who are trying their hardest to make ends meet for your children! I know where you are coming from, especially if its ended up where you need your state's governmental help!

Good luck to you all!!!! May God Bless!!