My daughters father is from Africa, he has three degrees, two in nursing and one in social work. Now he is going back to school for another degree. He can afford to party and buy expensive clothing for himself. The state had originally revoked his license because he was behind in child support. He paid partial payments in Dec. 08 and Jan. 09 and they gave him back his license. I am owed almost $5000 in back child support and have only seen the tax intercept that I had to pay a fee of $25 to get. I don't understand why they won't do anything. I had to hound them and after four months they finally sent a letter to North Dakota so that they could find where he is employed. I feel stuck and don't feel like I can get any help. Nothing is being done and like you had said my daughters father was making roughly around $25 per hour or more working as a registered nurse and then quit. He constantly quits and they don't do anything about it. If I didn't provide for my daughter I would be thrown in jail but he seems to get off and that isn't fair to my daughter. He treats her like nothing, no phone calls or visitations. She is almost 7 yrs old and she has seen him probably about 5 to 10 times her entire life for at the most 15 mins each.
They should start doing something and they aren't. They just let these fathers go!
Jan 14, 2009 Rating
Be a Pain in their Back Sides by: Melissa G
I take it you are divorced? what you need to do if you are is write a letter to the court- Judge that saw over your divorce, child support agency and your Congress man or woman. Let them know only the facts about the divorce decree and what it states about what he is to pay and you get the phone numbers and keep calling them until you feel something is finally being done about it. Don't ever give up and if you have to go and get State aid and the process will go faster. Even though the child grows up the child support is still there and won't go away until its paid. Good Luck, Melissa G
Dec 08, 2008 Rating
I understand your fustration by: Anonymous
I have been fighting with the child support enforcement office in my state for years to keep my childs father current on his support. My daughter was four years old before we recieved any money. He can't seem to stay current on his responsibilites, the sad thing is that his ordered amount is $150.00 a month with nothing esle. He doesn,t have to pay for anything else. What is really upsetting is that the non-paying parents have more rights than the children. Its no wonder that so many single parents are on some kind of state assistance because the can't get their support that is ordered, and if they do the state takes their cut of it first not the child. It is a vicious circle where does it end. One other thing that is upsetting is that i can't denie him visitation. It would be different if he was in my childs life but he has made every attemt to exclude himself, and he has 5 or 6 other children. I just wish that the states would think about the children when they make their laws to enforce them.
Dec 03, 2008 Rating
State does nothing by: Anonymous
I feel for you. My ex is just over $8,000.00 behind in support and has not paid on his own in almost a year. His girlfriend gave him $200 back in September for support. That is all I have seen in almost a year. We have three children, one is in college and he is ordered to continue her support until she graduates. She calls on a regular basis broke.. I have nothing to send her and she knows as soon as her father pays anything I send it to her. Its their money. But given that I have 100% supported them for the past year, essentially some of that is mine as well. I recently moved out of state and am to send the two youngest to him for the summer. How am I to do that when he does not assist me in financially supporting them? I go through the state for collection and they tell me that in Washington state the courts are so back logged with cases such as mine that it would be well over a year before it went before a judge. His license is suspended but he drives anyway. There is a lien against his vehicle but the state has put a freeze on seizing autos for non payment at this time!! So much for the state helping me collect. I just don't understand why fathers don't pay their support! He chooses not to work since he lives with a girl that is willing to support him. Oh by the way ... she doesn't have custody of her children either. He sits back and plays farm boy getting paid under the table so he avoids collection. Trust me.. I have been through it all. The state claims they will help but they don't. Wonder how long I would get away with that... or how long before someone is at my door if I don't pay to send them to their father for the summer?
Nov 26, 2008 Rating
Sweet Home Alabama by: Anonymous
Federal law requires all monies to filter through state systems. What this does for the state is assure federal funding for their programs. It also keeps track of money due and money paid by the non-custodial parent. I predict private collection agencies will go out of business once the existing contracts (prior to federal law) are satisfied.
I commend you for working out a deal with the non-custodial parent on the payment amount. I wish my ex was just as nice. Most women want the max amount allowable by law and the state will do their best to help them get it. Again, the more money through their system, the more funding they receive. So, don't think the state doesn't care.
I would suggest contacting the state child support enforcement agency (referred to as attorney general-child support division in some states) and request a modification to the existing order. The state will have to find out where he works and subpoena his pay records. Then he will be ordered to court and forced to pay the established amount. Once the court order is signed, the state agency will contact his employer and provide them with a notice to withhold. The money will automatically go through the system and you will start receiving your checks. If he is in arrears, you will get more than the established amount until he is caught up. However, there is a limit to the amount they can withhold from his paycheck. In some states (if not all), I believe that amount is 50% of his net earnings. If the state took anymore than that, non-custodial parents probably couldn't survive and would quit their jobs. Everyone losess then.
