I really hope those in charge of child support guidelines and laws READ this
I was a single mom of three boys when I moved to Texas from the state of Utah. I never really received child support on a regular basis, I would get a garnishment of taxes here and there but not regular payments. I totally understand how hard it is to make it on your own as a single mom. BUT i would much rather have my sons than for them to live with their dad.
I eventually met a great guy, he happened to be a single father of a 3 year old daughter. He was VERY involved and loving. He and his ex wife had a custody arrangement that involved having the little girl one year, then trading and having her the next year and so on. The ex-wife saw that he was doing well for himself, embarking on a new happy life with me and my children and decided to unleash hell upon us. She took this once very involved father and took basically all of his parental rights away and demanded maximum child support. Even though he had the child for an entire year and a half without the mother or her help, the state of Texas still pushed for back child support. The girls mother is a drug addict and alcoholic with 3 DWI's ( all in ONE years time, when their baby was a year old). She has a history of violence and mental illness. When my boyfriend was being served papers, he asked the courts if the court date was to discuss custody OR support. They said it was merely a support hearing but to his suprise it was covering ALL aspects of his paternal rights. He was virtually unprepared and steamrolled into signing all their papers.
Completely by suprise we got pregnant with our own child. While I was pregnant, his ex had him thrown in jail for nonpayment of back child support ( the amount Texas has men paying is RIDICULOUS!)
The state of Texas is NOT for the enhancement of families. Rather it deteriorates the quality of life for ALL children involved. What good does it do to throw a father in jail because he can't come up with the FULL amount especially when he has OTHER biological children he needs to provide for? In his court orders, he has visitation laid out stating he gets his daugther 41 days out of the summer. We put in writing the day and time we would pick her up and the mother denied him seeing her AT ALL. But if we want to fight that we will have to retain a lawyer. If he doesnt pay his child support, the state has a team of lawyer lined up to put him in jail. This is criminal! That little girl is going to grow up without a father, with only an angry drunk mother to guide her through life and it will be the state of Texas that will be responsible for it.
On another note, I transferred my child support cases from Utah to Texas about 6 months ago...and they just NOW put in the payment history for them. I have received NO child support for my children. My guess is because it's not an original Texas order. They only want to pursue something if it's THEIR order. Screw everyone else...that's the Texas way! Way to go Texas!