I really hope those in charge of child support guidelines and laws READ this

by MM
(Austin TEXAS)

I was a single mom of three boys when I moved to Texas from the state of Utah. I never really received child support on a regular basis, I would get a garnishment of taxes here and there but not regular payments. I totally understand how hard it is to make it on your own as a single mom. BUT i would much rather have my sons than for them to live with their dad.


I eventually met a great guy, he happened to be a single father of a 3 year old daughter. He was VERY involved and loving. He and his ex wife had a custody arrangement that involved having the little girl one year, then trading and having her the next year and so on. The ex-wife saw that he was doing well for himself, embarking on a new happy life with me and my children and decided to unleash hell upon us. She took this once very involved father and took basically all of his parental rights away and demanded maximum child support. Even though he had the child for an entire year and a half without the mother or her help, the state of Texas still pushed for back child support. The girls mother is a drug addict and alcoholic with 3 DWI's ( all in ONE years time, when their baby was a year old). She has a history of violence and mental illness. When my boyfriend was being served papers, he asked the courts if the court date was to discuss custody OR support. They said it was merely a support hearing but to his suprise it was covering ALL aspects of his paternal rights. He was virtually unprepared and steamrolled into signing all their papers.

Completely by suprise we got pregnant with our own child. While I was pregnant, his ex had him thrown in jail for nonpayment of back child support ( the amount Texas has men paying is RIDICULOUS!)

The state of Texas is NOT for the enhancement of families. Rather it deteriorates the quality of life for ALL children involved. What good does it do to throw a father in jail because he can't come up with the FULL amount especially when he has OTHER biological children he needs to provide for? In his court orders, he has visitation laid out stating he gets his daugther 41 days out of the summer. We put in writing the day and time we would pick her up and the mother denied him seeing her AT ALL. But if we want to fight that we will have to retain a lawyer. If he doesnt pay his child support, the state has a team of lawyer lined up to put him in jail. This is criminal! That little girl is going to grow up without a father, with only an angry drunk mother to guide her through life and it will be the state of Texas that will be responsible for it.

On another note, I transferred my child support cases from Utah to Texas about 6 months ago...and they just NOW put in the payment history for them. I have received NO child support for my children. My guess is because it's not an original Texas order. They only want to pursue something if it's THEIR order. Screw everyone else...that's the Texas way! Way to go Texas!

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i agree
by: Anonymous

They only go after the fathers who are trying to do something because they are easy to find. If they have to do any work like actually look for the absent parent then they throw their hands up in the air and take it out on who is in front of them.

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by: Anonymous

Hello,

I understand your situation as I am in the same myself. My fiancee has just been thrown in jail even though he proved he had been trying to find a job and when he got projects he gave every cent to his ex who just spends it on herself. The mother has no interest in the child other than to try to get money from the father. She one point ran off with the child for seven months then another time for three months. My fiancee tried to find his daughter and even called the attorney general on it and he got no help yet when his ex took him to court she lied and said there were arrearages and so they put arrearages on him. Nothing ever happened to her for denying him his visitation. She's been trying to throw him in jail for some time now and has finally succeeded. The economy is hard right now and he has been hit by it. That does not mean he does not love his kids, in fact he has been very active in their lives. When he first split with his ex she threw the baby out with him so he had her, then she claimed she wanted to see the child and when he got there she attacked him, the police had to be called out and since she had the child in her arms he could not get her back. Then she filed and put arrearages as if she had the child all along. I think the state should take the time to view what is actually in the best interest of the child rather than just reviewing the surface. It's the kids who suffer and made to be without their parent. The judge told the mother to take his daughter to see him while he was serving his time, she has yet to do that. It's been a month already. Sad Sad Sad

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They will not read this
by: Anonymous

As you are finding our all states basicly strips a man of not only his hard earned money but his, freedom, his ability to have another Love, family or life. Because who wants a man buried in child support debt. While the women can go on about her life like nothing happened she gets the child, the house, the car, basicly everything. The child support laws were not designed with the family or child in mind but designed to keep the women out of walefare with no regards to anything else. Like I have been telling everyone they must fight, write your congressmen, govener, President tell them this is an unfair and unconstitutional law, and it needs to be changed! Your constitutional rights forbid anyone from being jail for a personal debt but the courts are doing it anyway, imagine that? But the courts say you are being put in jail for disobeying a court order?!?! WTF then why couldn't I have that guy thrown in jail when he was court order to pay me $4,000 for wrecking my car?!?!?!? Because it is a personal debt and against your constitutional rights to be jailed for a personal debt. Or maybe you should just take your husband to court for child support so they have to split his moneys with your children and a lot more of your money will stay home. And hopefully it will start bogging the system down to the point they have to change it. Because married women will be filing against there husbands from the day the child is born. They only give a care about the children in the system. Good luck and like I said we must all fight this unconstitutional law.

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