I WISH I HAD THE ANSWER
(Somewhere in these United States)
I have read so many sad and compelling stories on this subject. I truly do not know where to begin. The scriptures bare out to examine ourselves. Many will and many will not agree with that but hey children are involve and they pay the price. The courts are MONEY HUNGRY because they know(in their eyes and mind) we have screw up our lives. They don't know the emotion the stress. As adults we are anrgy we want revenge we want freedom we are hurt we want what is due to the children and ourselves. And again the courts don't care and then one hires a lawyer, many times they are just as worst, understand they handle many cases at one time do the math. Maybe their needs to be a non profit organization that the courts will honor due to this economical hardship and have the law in FULL effect to benefit all parties especialy the children. But I can see that being a mess as well. Like I said in my title
"I wish I had the answer" I can only said one has to take a good look in their own door in their sitution and find what is the best thing to do for what the situation calls for at that time and hopefully for the future. Which no one can predict but give some light and hope.
Example: In my case, Yes I am frustrated my divorce was final in 2002, Child support is still going on now in 2010 over this lenght of time my child has recieved a total of $250.00 ok better something than nothing That's what I tell my child, We make good of it with a smile and a laugh. Keep in mind he continues to give excuses on why he can't and rather won't pay to the court. Ok! also with that he is the one that files the complaints for us to go to court I have to always counter act. Nevertheless now he has file on me contempt of court for visitation. Now this is where it get's hilarious.
The last time he has seen our child was 2002 uhm yea it's again 2010 our child is 16. I forgot to mention he has a drug problem being on crack and being in and out of jail. and now it's been documented in the court that he has a psychological mental disorder.
So no one can do what I do but again one must find out what is in the best interest for the situation at hand. In my case it has been told to me over and over again that he is working underneath the table. OK that is cool, plus he has put in a claim for disability for Social Security which possible yes might mean benefits for my child depending on which one was filed.
Now one might say I might have took off my nose dispite my face. Maybe!!
But this is my situation. I contact the Social Security Fraud Unit and gave the information for them to investigate. I also contact the IRS with the same information since he is working underneath table. The courts don't and won't hear me so it's not to say we will get anything any way. So let the two Federal government handle it. It doesn't mean that any action will take place. But one never knows. Think about it at least I did. I have been taking care of my child all this time yes the child support will help. I spend enough money just to go down to court for this senseless meaningless display of a mess. Gas, parking and brain power.
Like I said I wish I had the answer and I don't.
One must find out what works for them.