I WISH I HAD THE ANSWER

by ME
(Somewhere in these United States)

I have read so many sad and compelling stories on this subject. I truly do not know where to begin. The scriptures bare out to examine ourselves. Many will and many will not agree with that but hey children are involve and they pay the price. The courts are MONEY HUNGRY because they know(in their eyes and mind) we have screw up our lives. They don't know the emotion the stress. As adults we are anrgy we want revenge we want freedom we are hurt we want what is due to the children and ourselves. And again the courts don't care and then one hires a lawyer, many times they are just as worst, understand they handle many cases at one time do the math. Maybe their needs to be a non profit organization that the courts will honor due to this economical hardship and have the law in FULL effect to benefit all parties especialy the children. But I can see that being a mess as well. Like I said in my title
"I wish I had the answer" I can only said one has to take a good look in their own door in their sitution and find what is the best thing to do for what the situation calls for at that time and hopefully for the future. Which no one can predict but give some light and hope.

Example: In my case, Yes I am frustrated my divorce was final in 2002, Child support is still going on now in 2010 over this lenght of time my child has recieved a total of $250.00 ok better something than nothing That's what I tell my child, We make good of it with a smile and a laugh. Keep in mind he continues to give excuses on why he can't and rather won't pay to the court. Ok! also with that he is the one that files the complaints for us to go to court I have to always counter act. Nevertheless now he has file on me contempt of court for visitation. Now this is where it get's hilarious.

The last time he has seen our child was 2002 uhm yea it's again 2010 our child is 16. I forgot to mention he has a drug problem being on crack and being in and out of jail. and now it's been documented in the court that he has a psychological mental disorder.

So no one can do what I do but again one must find out what is in the best interest for the situation at hand. In my case it has been told to me over and over again that he is working underneath the table. OK that is cool, plus he has put in a claim for disability for Social Security which possible yes might mean benefits for my child depending on which one was filed.
Now one might say I might have took off my nose dispite my face. Maybe!!

But this is my situation. I contact the Social Security Fraud Unit and gave the information for them to investigate. I also contact the IRS with the same information since he is working underneath table. The courts don't and won't hear me so it's not to say we will get anything any way. So let the two Federal government handle it. It doesn't mean that any action will take place. But one never knows. Think about it at least I did. I have been taking care of my child all this time yes the child support will help. I spend enough money just to go down to court for this senseless meaningless display of a mess. Gas, parking and brain power.

Like I said I wish I had the answer and I don't.
One must find out what works for them.

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Dec 09, 2010
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Nazi my ass
by: Anonymous

Bullshit, us women do not get every thing. and don't be mad scratch your ass and get glad. You're still living ain't you? Then thank God for your abled body health and get on. If you are working and have to pay child support, if the damn money you make ain't enough. Get off yo ass go back to school (That's if you ever been to one)get a career and get a better job hell the worse part is over. If you wanna be supid don't be half ass supid be all the way stupid. Hell I tell just about all the people I know not to graduate to prison but seems you have such a bad attutide that's where you're attitude is taking you. SLOW IT DOWN BUDDY.

Nov 30, 2010
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To The End Draweth Nigh
by: ME- Somewhere in the US of A

Well, interesting enough this comment wasn't a question or answer. It was and is a response to what many had wrote about the unjustice, unfairness a failed system that many have encounter because of what was suppose to be in some cases a functional relationship now has turn into a dysfuntional bitter relationship. You spoke/commented about Hitler-don't understand how this equate to and about child support. Hitler killed millions of the Jewish nation-Men-Women and children. You also commented and spoke of your family fought in WWII. Well one fights for what they believe in, so these women and men are fighting for what they believe in. My family members fought in these wars Korean, Vietnam, The Gulf. Again you fight for what you believe in and know what is right. You spoke of the concentration camps- Have you seen the old movie "PINK FLOYD-THE WALL".? You spoke/commented of the fondling us like perverts in the airports. Many of these children unfortunately have been fondle and yes physical and mentally killed. I truly don't get your comment but I have to understand everyone has one as well as their own opinion whether I agree or disagree. And whether or not I agree or disagree that you don't feel sorry for the Women-It takes two to have a child but it takes a Women to carry that child.
Have a good one :)

Nov 27, 2010
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THE END DRAWETH NIGH
by: Anonymous

I DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR YOU WOMEN AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THEY HAVE ALL KINDS OF PROGRAMS IN THIS GOVERMENT, FOR WOMEN ONLY! THIS IS NOT AMERICA ANYMORE! IT'S A LIBERAL NATIONAL SOCIALIST PARTY! ADOLF HITLER WOULD BE PROUND OF THE NEW FASCIST AMERICA!! MEN DON'T HAVE ANY CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS AT ALL ANYMORE! NONE!! NO FREEDOM, NO FUTURE, JUST A BIG BLACK AMERICAN NAZI BOOT IN YOUR FACE!!!!!!!!!!!

MY FAMILY FOUGHT THE NAZI IN WWII, AND I'LL FIGHT THEM TOO! I HATE AMERICAN NATIONAL SOCIALISTS!! I HATE THEM!! SOON THEY WILL START GOING IN OUR HOMES AND FONDLING US LIKE THE PERVERTS DO IN THE AIRPORTS!! WON'T BE LONG THEY WILL PUT US ALL IN WORK CAMPS AND CONCENTRATION CAMPS!! IT'S COMING THAT IS THE NEW LIBERAL NATIONAL SOCIALISTS PLAN!! IT'S COMING AS SURE AS YOU LIVE!!

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