IF SHE IS MINE, THAN WHY NOT TAKE A COURT APPOINTED DNA TEST??

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IF SHE IS MINE, THAN WHY NOT TAKE A COURT APPOINTED DNA TEST??

by raishard
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I had a one night stand with this female, I was 23 at the time and in military and she was older and way more experienced than me.she got pregnant and claimed it was mine but stated she would just claim I was the babys uncle??i was currently seeing someone else and just trying to get her to go away, plus I had never been thru the baby mamma drama before and she knew this, so when she found out that the girl I was dating was pregnant and I was happy she got very upset.

Anyway the baby was born and I wasnt sure if it was mine, but before I had said anything she had already set up a dna test and everything.she moved very quickly and due to my not knowing how things work in this situation, I believed she took advantage of the situation..we did some test that wasnt even in a lab with no witnes, the only results I received was an internet copy that she placed on my car even though I submitted my info and even when I call they have no record?, but as soon as the results came back she quickly had me sign a paternity affadivit on 6/10/02 the baby as born 5/10/02??the only eason I signed them is because of the results that she gave me so without an order I started paying support....well three years go by and im finished with nursing school and I start thinking how everthing went down using my current knowledge, I stop paying the money and tell her that I would like to go to court and get a court ordered support that way no one gets screwed in the long run, well she said no due to the fact that I had already signed affadivit...the child is 7 now and I have been trying to find her to serve her papers but the only thing I come up with is a po box number, over the years she has opened 4 different child supoort cases and even served me papers but did not follow thru on any of them...all I am asking for is a court appt dna test and father rights if she is mine..what is odds if we go to court that I get that???and will I be ordered back child support even if I have proof that I have been trying to find her??

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Jul 07, 2009
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DNA test
by: Kim

You can take her to court and have the court order her to have the DNA test. They can be very pricy, 8 years ago when my exhusband and I were getting a divorce it cost $900. The DNA test takes a sample from you, the child and the mother, the mom has a sample taken to give the lab tech a base line of where to start (you know she is the mom, then they have to just look at what DNA does not match the momto see if it matches you). I would suggest, if you want to be part of the child's life that you start now putting some money into a savings account for the child, and bring the proof of the account to court. Good luck and good on you for being a real man and tring to step up and be a father.

Jun 11, 2009
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P.I. Advice
by: G. Young

I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence.

Second, RECORD her comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.

Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee.

We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx

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Jun 11, 2009
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I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. Swab the cheek and wait for your written evidence. Second, RECORD her comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court. Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee. We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx

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Apr 02, 2009
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She did get you good
by: Anonymous

I remember how dumb I was in my 20s but I wasn't exposed to as much information as children are exposed to today. I have to ask you, why didn't you use a condom for a one night stand? I want you to teach your friends and family members that using protection is the only way to have casual sex!!!!!!! Period!!!!!!!!!
Moving on, stop giving this girl money. Just stop! If you have not have court ordered child support in place then you are not legally required to give her any money. If she does go through the courts you can ask for a court appointed DNA test. If the child comes back as yours you are responsible for paying for the DNA test. If the child is not yours she will be responsbile for paying for the DNA test. Until that point, there is really nothing for you to do. You can not be forced to pay back child support if there hasn't been a previous order in place.
Let me ask you are you going to marry the girl you are currently pregnant by? I sure hope you do, please don't start having multiple baby mamas. It's not cute, just read the tragic child support stories on this site and wise up!
If you want to talk more please hit me up at eshantell@hotmail.com

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