He ruined his own life. All she did is use what was available to try and get her children the support they rightly deserved while he danced around carefree.
May 07, 2009 Rating
I think you were too hard on your husband by: Anonymous
I don't know your full situation. But have you ever thought about what caused your divorce in the first place? Did he cheat? Did you cheat? Was he abusive to you or your children? Was he a criminal? Was it something that happened that was so abhorrent that you couldn't bare to be married to him any longer? While I understand that your husband needs to man up and be responsible for his children, how would you care for your children had their father died? What would you have done with the child support money he gave you had it been steady? Would you have put it up for your children's college fund? Did you try to aide your children and husband in maintaining their relationship? Did you bad mouth your husband in front of your children? Why did your husband say he didn't want to pay child support or any medical fees? My grandmother always told me to make sure that when I had a child I was having that child for me because men can up and leave at anytime. I just don't understand why you faught so hard to ruin this man's life. Messed up his credit, took away his ability to work, how will you get child support now? Is destroying his life really worth it? Yes, you were angry at first and yes you probably had every right to be. But look what that anger helped you to accomplish. You bettered yourself through education and now you are able to be a testimony to others. I hope you are not operating in hate. I hope it wasn't your hate that made your husband abandon his children. You should have just let him go on about his business. Him not taking care of your children is his own salvation. I don't understand taking all the time and energy it takes to ruin someone's life through the system. I do hope things work out for you.
