I'm a Dad of too Girls. Each child has a different Mother. My oldest is now 23. After being a foolish youger man I am now paying back child support and have just over 1 year left to go. It makes me feel real good that I am standing up and making this right in my oldest eyes as I want her to see that I do love her and that even though I neglected thoses payments I'm doing the best that I can to make things right.
Now I'll tell you about what I'm faced with. My youngest Mother at the time of our divorce had a income of over $150,000.00 a year. While my income was $40,000.00. There was no child support awarded to her Mother at that time as the incomes with the understanding that I would help with the needs of my child. My ex-wife for years has lived high on the hog taking trips, driving very expensive cars have a home with a morgage of over $3,000.00 a month. Two years ago she lost her job due to the financially down fall of this country. I live in a 10'x 20' shed. Yes I said shed. I live like this so that I can meet the back child support payments and meet the needs of my youngest daughter.
I have even done my best to help even more to help so that the ex would have less to worry about. I recived a phone call from the ex letting me know that she has a hard time paying her morgage and P.G@E witch is over a 1,000.00 a month. She worded here conversation with me making it sound as if I have never done anything financially for my Daughter. Ive paid in full for my little girl's braces, give here $25.00 a week for school lunches, buy her cloths, and shoes, I alss gave here money for weekend fun and other things that I am able to do. I Have found out that she can go to court and get up to $1,200.00 a month from me at the drop of a hat. I'm going to loose my car, shed and not be able to finish paying my back support. I love both of my Daughters very much and want to take care of them both so they both will know that there Dad loves them. Here is the courts view point on Dads. They don't care. If you are a struggling Father trying to do what is right by your childern and faced with a hard financially time doing so you will not get any help from our court system. There is truley no hope or understanding when it comes to your rights financially. They call this country(LAND OF THE FREE) Bull! This is they land of greed, black mail and coruption. There is no help for you.