In need of help in KS NOW!!!!

by Barb
(SE, Kansas, USA)

First off we are in KS and have residential custody of all of the children. I have a few issues. My husbands exwife is wanting to see the kids at her leisure. She and her new husband are homeless living with a known meth addict and her husband. She has tormented the kids for the past 3 years now since we have had custody has cancelled visitation repeatedly with and mostly without calling. The kids are 14 12 11 and 9. She constantly asks them if they want to live with ?mommy? which is not possible since she does not have a home.

They do not want to tell her No to her face when they have done this in the past she bursts into tears and goes to her room and kick and screams making a scene. Its emotionally drains the kids to see her. She talks about my husband and myself constantly when they visit her, to the point her 11 year old son has asked her, over and over, to change the subject, which she refuses. A couple of years ago she was giving her 10 year old daughter ?breast exams? every couple of days in the shower, which we reported and NOTHING was done about it. She speaks of us brainwashing the kids and how we are pushing her out of their lives EVERY time she speaks to them. The list goes on and on.

I have 5 years of her actions documented but we are concerned about sending them with her anymore. She has visitation this weekend and we are considering contacting SRS to get this stopped and report everything she has done to them. Recently she has moved from OK to KS immediately after the child support order was registered. She currently owes over $14,000, which doesnt include what has not been issued in FL for back child support, 2 years worth. We have lost patience with her and she is mentally abusing these kids every visit. What can we do? I do have other things documented some worse, some not as bad but we dont know where to go from here. We gained custody Pro Se in Florida after she took off with them during her afternoon visit and took them to OK from FL in the middle of the night. These kids have been through it all. Where do we go from here? We do not want to alienate her like others have been.