IN REGARDS TO DUMB BROADS

by C. Anonymous
(USA)

APPARENTLY YOU ARE EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED WITH THE FACT THAT YOU WENT OUT AT SOME POINT AND PICKED UP A BAR FLY WOMAN AND MESSED AROUND WITH HER AND IT ENDED UP WITH HER GETTING PREGNANT. YOU ARE JUST AS MUCH RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT CHILD AS SHE IS WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT AND WHETHER OR NOT ANY OF THESE FATHERS ACTUALLY LISTEN TO YOUR UNEDUCATED ADVICE AND TRY TO FIGHT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW HARD YOU FIGHT, IF THESE CHILDREN ARE YOURS THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY THE CHILD SUPPORT. DON'T THINK THAT YOU CAN GET GO OUT AND PICK UP THESE WOMEN AND HAVE YOUR FUN, BUT GOD FORBID THEY GET PREGNANT AND NOW YOU ARE GOING TO TRY AND FIGHT TIL THE END TO NOT PAY FOR A CHILD THAT WAS CONCEIVED OUT OF A NIGHT WHERE I WOULD SAY THAT YOU ARE TECHNICALLY 85% RESPONSIBLE FOR SINCE YOU MOST LIKELY WORKED YOUR BUTT OFF JUST TO GET DOWN THAT BAR FLY'S PANTS.

I KNOW BOTH SIDES OF STORIES LIKE THIS BECAUSE MY HUSBAND NOW HAS AN EX-WIFE WHO HAS STRAIGHT OUT TOLD HIM THAT SHE WANTS HIM TO NEVER HAVE ANYTHING AND THAT SHE WILL DO EVERYTHING IN HER POWER TO MAKE SURE THAT HE DOESN'T AND SHE KEEPS TAKING HIM TO COURT SO THAT HE HAS TO SPEND TONS OF MONEY ON ATTORNEY'S AND SHE IS NOW TRYING TO RAISE HIS CHILD SUPPORT. THIS IS ALL BEING DONE BY A WOMAN WHO DOESN'T WORK BECAUSE SHE LIVES OFF OF A INHERITANCE OF 1 MILLION DOLLARS THAT HER GRANDMOTHER LEFT HER. SO SHE DOESN'T NEED THE EXTRA CHILD SUPPORT ANYWAY AND HE IS ALREADY PAYING HER $400 PER MONTH FOR CHILD SUPPORT FOR ONE CHILD.

ON THE OTHER HAND, I HAVE A DAUGHTER FROM A MAN I WAS WITH 17 YEARS AGO AND HE WAS ONLY COURT ORDERED TO PAY $132 A MONTH AND EVERYTIME THE STATE FINDS OUT WHERE HE IS WORKING, HE TAKES OFF TO THE NEXT JOB AND USUALLY THERE ARE LONG PERIODS OF TIME WHERE THEY DON'T LOCATE HIM BECAUSE HE GETS A LOT OF WORK UNDER THE TABLE. WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS AND HE WAS INTO DRUGS AND I WANTED MORE FOR MYSELF AND MY CHILDREN THEN TO CONTINUE TO LIVE THAT LIFE WITH HIM. SO WHEN MY DAUGHTER TURNED 1 1/2 YEARS OLD, I LEFT HIM AND WENT TO GET ME A COLLEGE DEGREE. I HAVE A REALLY GREAT JOB NOW AND I HAVE NO PROBLEM SUPPORTING MYSELF AND MY DAUGHTER, BUT MY DAUGHTER HAS ALSO HAD TO DO WITHOUT SOME THINGS THAT MAYBE SHE WOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO DO WITHOUT IF HE HAD BEEN A RESPONSIBLE FATHER AND JUST PAID HIS CHILD SUPPORT. HE HAS NEVER CARRIED HEALTH INSURANCE, DENTAL INSURANCE, VISION INSURANCE, BOUGHT HER A SINGLE STITCH OF CLOTHING, SHOES, ETC. I HAVE DONE ALL OF THESE THINGS FOR HER AND I HAPPILY KEEP DOING THEM FOR HER BECAUSE SHE IS MY DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER DEARLY.

MY POINT IS THE BIGGEST PORTION OF THE WOMEN WHO HAVE WRITTEN INTO THIS SITE, ARE NOT HERE TO TRY TO TAKE THE MAN FOR EVERYTHING HE HAS GOT, THEY JUST WOULD LIKE TO START GETTING SOME SORT OF STEADY FINANCIAL HELP THAT THEY CAN ACTUALLY COUNT ON TO HELP RAISE THEIR CHILD....EVEN IF AT FIRST IT ISN'T EVEN THE FULL CHILD SUPPORT AMOUNT THAT IS ORDERED...SOMETHING IS BETTER THAN NOT PAYING ANYTHING. ALSO WE AREN'T ON HERE TO TRY TO GET ANYONE TO PAY OUR BILLS FOR US...WE PAY OUR OWN BILLS AND WE ARE EVEN PAYING YOUR BILLS AS WELL WHEN HALF OF WHAT OUR CHILDREN NEED IS THE RESPONSIBILITY (OR BILL) THAT BELONGS TO THE FATHER AND WHEN WE PAY ALL 100%...WE ARE PAYING YOUR BILL FOR YOU! SO THE NEXT TIME THAT YOU WANT TO GET ON HERE AND GO CRAZY ABOUT SOME BAR FLY WOMAN....DON'T DIRECT YOUR COMMENTS TO ALL WOMEN AS IF WE ARE ALL THE WAY THE WOMAN IS THAT YOU APPARENTLY KNOW.

JUST FYI, I DON'T DRINK, I DON'T GO TO BARS, I DON'T SMOKE, AND I DON'T DO DRUGS. THE WORST THING THAT I DO IS EAT TOO MUCH CHOCOLATE. I WORK AND THEN GO HOME TO MY FAMILY AND I WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY.