For years my husband struggled in his career in the an industry which has had it's ups and downs. His ex-wife made more money than both our incomes combined. Yet she repeatedly took us back to court for custody issues, though she already had custody, and child support. She tried to prevent my husband from seeing his son. My husband has always paid his child support, but during hard times was not always able to pay the full amount. Thank God through hard work times have improved and he is paid in full. My husband has made tremendous sacrifices to be there for his son, driving many miles round trip to uphold is visitation and has been a good and loving influence in his son's life. I have supported him all the way. All of this now shows in our relationship with him, which is good. My husband's ex had cosmetic surgery and bought two luxurious new homes but dropped dental insurance and did not take our son to the dentist for years, we recently learned. The courts gave her medical decision-making authority. She has abused drugs, married a felon, and no longer works. I know there are horror stories out there much worse than ours. But where is the accountability for custodial parents? Why are they allowed to use the child support paid to them for frivolous law suits? Why is there no concern for the children in the step families that follow divorce? The system needs an overhaul.
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Income of Both Parents Should Be Considered
I truly understand your fustration about this child-support ordeal. My fancee and i is dealing with the same issue regarding child support matter. I know in my heart that there is something that can be done to get these laws change. I think we all should come together and form a organization and get this laws change. Maybe we can go on some talk shows to get this information out to the world. maybe we can get sometime of funding from somewhere to ge this organization rolling. If anyone would like to contact me feel free cause i am highly upset and ready to put a end to this madest. Jackelhughes@hotmail.com
Sep 28, 2008 Rating
I agree by: Myla
Yes I also agree that the whole system needs to be corrected which takes time that many families do not have. Father's often get the worse end of it. There have been times when my husband & I couldn't afford to pay our rent because we had to pay for his daughter's cheerleading, dance & whatever his ex-wife decided that their daughter would take. Then instead of sending what we owed for her medical was held for a year or two until she had so much she knew we didn't have so she could have him put in jail. I cannot tell you how many jobs this ex-wife has cost him. Then she quit letting him have visits when his daughter was 10 & now that she's in college she believes that her dad didn't want to visit with her because that is what her mother told her over & over. They are know fighting over how much he owes for her college education & because he didn't have the $9600 she says he owes back in August they put him in jail again. We have court again this week & hopefully they will let him out since we do not have the money to get him out until we can get a new court date for a new trial. What makes it even worse is that she works for the courts & knows all the judges. Good luck to you & your husband. Let's fight hard to elect the right people who can change our laws. So we can fight in a court of law & not the good o'boys system.
Mar 24, 2010 Rating
Don't give in! by: Anonymous
My husband has been divorced for 16yrs and only has 2 more months left to pay child support, his youngest son turned 18 in December but does not graduate until June. My comment is...When ever the ex wife would call and say the kids need this or that he would say, "you get 400$ a month use that." When the kids would ask for something he would tell them, "go and ask your mother, she gets 400$ a month from me." Now the youngest son lives with us and has been for 2yrs now and she does not even pay us anything, yet she gave us the card with the money on it. We said why bother spending that money when he will be 18 soon and we probaly would not get anything from her anyway and did not want to argue. She put up an agrument when he said he wanted to come and live with us. As it was he was not living with her anyway, he was living with his uncle and he was not getting the support that was coming from his father. Then a week after she gave us the cs card, she calls and said she needs to pay for his cell phone that she wanted him to have. Then a few weeks later the son says he needs the cs card again to pay for his cell phone, his father said he is not paying for a cell phone and that is her responsibility since she is not paying anything. Anytime the son needs anything we tell him he needs to get it from his mother because she is not paying any child support and we cannot afford what it is he needs...we have 3 children of our own that needs things that we can barely afford to get then as it is. It has been hell these past 16yrs but the hell is almost over with.
