Just like all the rest....
by Chell
(Window Rock, AZ)
I am currently a single mom, my daughters "donar" i would like to call now. He left me while i was in my last stages of pregnancy. He ran off with a married woman, with a child. He is paying child support to his ex-wife, and the boys only get 300.00 a month. His ex-wife gets money, but not a whole lot, so he is most likely in the hole 4000.00. While with this other woman, the one he ran off to, he pays for her utilities, her (ex-husbands) vehical, her vehical, insurance, and apartment. So the nerve of him to tell Child support he is barely making ends meet. He is a very creative person, he is a stone mason, so he is very talented and gets paid alot for it. The woman on the other hand has a job, has her own bills to deal with yet she gets what is suppost to go to HIS KIDS.
When I had my daughter, we moved back into my moms house because we had no other place to go. I have been trying to collect from him since her birth. He has not even tried to help or make an effort in being supportive, yet he wants to be a part of her life and expect me to flip the bill when ever he feels he needs to come back and tries to be a "dad". Well, i got tired of if and cut off all communications between us. Went to Child Support office and told them they needed to speed up the process and get a court date. They continue to put me on hold, always setting a new court date and telling me that all i have to do is wait on my case worker. I contiue to do follow ups on my case and it does not seem to go anywhere or is just put aside.
I am fusterated, tired and just about ready to give up, i am the sole provider for my daughter, I am still at my mom's becuase we can not find a suitable place to live without it being expensive. Whatever he can dish up and start helping us out would really benifit her. I pay for Childcare and at the same time I am a part time student working on my degree. I feel that child support is just a waste of time, I have been over there more than I can count.
When I go over there or call they just tell me I am being mean, unprofessional, and not being respectable. I have just about run out of patience with them. So now the "donar" is in jail and i feel I have lost out on counting on him for Child Support. I feel that him being in jail is just a way of holding back again. He vollentarly put himself there too!! UGHH!!! It just makes me mad!!
