Just like all the rest....

by Chell
(Window Rock, AZ)

I am currently a single mom, my daughters "donar" i would like to call now. He left me while i was in my last stages of pregnancy. He ran off with a married woman, with a child. He is paying child support to his ex-wife, and the boys only get 300.00 a month. His ex-wife gets money, but not a whole lot, so he is most likely in the hole 4000.00. While with this other woman, the one he ran off to, he pays for her utilities, her (ex-husbands) vehical, her vehical, insurance, and apartment. So the nerve of him to tell Child support he is barely making ends meet. He is a very creative person, he is a stone mason, so he is very talented and gets paid alot for it. The woman on the other hand has a job, has her own bills to deal with yet she gets what is suppost to go to HIS KIDS.

When I had my daughter, we moved back into my moms house because we had no other place to go. I have been trying to collect from him since her birth. He has not even tried to help or make an effort in being supportive, yet he wants to be a part of her life and expect me to flip the bill when ever he feels he needs to come back and tries to be a "dad". Well, i got tired of if and cut off all communications between us. Went to Child Support office and told them they needed to speed up the process and get a court date. They continue to put me on hold, always setting a new court date and telling me that all i have to do is wait on my case worker. I contiue to do follow ups on my case and it does not seem to go anywhere or is just put aside.

I am fusterated, tired and just about ready to give up, i am the sole provider for my daughter, I am still at my mom's becuase we can not find a suitable place to live without it being expensive. Whatever he can dish up and start helping us out would really benifit her. I pay for Childcare and at the same time I am a part time student working on my degree. I feel that child support is just a waste of time, I have been over there more than I can count.

When I go over there or call they just tell me I am being mean, unprofessional, and not being respectable. I have just about run out of patience with them. So now the "donar" is in jail and i feel I have lost out on counting on him for Child Support. I feel that him being in jail is just a way of holding back again. He vollentarly put himself there too!! UGHH!!! It just makes me mad!!

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Women are worthless, My dog is more worthwile!
by: Anonymous

Just for not knowing how to spell, you shouldn't get a dime, Get a job, instead of sitting on your fat ass collecting free money. It takes two to make a baby, put in your share you dumb bitch.

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Morons who post without reading
by: Anonymous

It stuns me that the young, idiot, that posted anonymously above me is even making statements about someone they didn't even take the time to READ about. I am sorry you went through that with your child and ex-husband. I hope it all turns around for you.

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BEING A PARENT
by: micshelle x

CHILD SUPPORT?WHAT IS THAT?MY EX PAYS 65.12 WHENEVER.MY DAUGHTER IS 16.I WAS NOT ANGRY WHEN HE AND I DIVORCED.I WANTED THE DIVORCE TO BE FAIR ALL I WANTED WAS TO BE FAIR TO MY DAUGHTER AND HIM.BIG BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!I WAS AWARDED BENIFITS THAT I THOUGHT WASNT FAIR I DECLINED.ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE!!!!ALL I WANTED WAS JOINT CUSTODY AND MY freedom.FOR MY DAUGHTER AND HER DAD TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP.THE JUDGE ASK ME IF I THOUGHT IT WAS A GOOD IDEA FOR HIM TO HAVE JOINT I SAID YES.ANOTHER BAD IDEA!!!!I JUST WANTED TO BE HONEST AND FAIR.(IM THE ONE THAT WANTED THE DIVORCE)FOR YEARS AFTER HE WAS FINE.THE NEW GIRLFRIENDS WERE EVEN OK.NOW THE NEW WIFE THATS THE ISSUSE NOW.SHE HAS KIDS AND SOME OF HIS CHOICES HASNT BEEN ONE OF AN ADULT.SHES JEALOUS OF MY DAUGHTER AND HAS RUINED THEIR RELATIONSHIP.MY DAUGHTER WENT TO SPEND THE SUMMER WITH HIM AND HIS NEW FAMILY.ONLY DUE TO A RELOCATION BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER WAS A VICTIM OF A CRIME.A WEEK LATER HE PACKED HER BAGS AS IF SHE WAS HIS GIRLFRIEND NOT HIS DAUGHTER.TOOK HER BACK TO THE VERY PLACE WE RELOCATED AT 2:00 AM.NO PHONE CALLS WERE MADE TO ME.HE DROPPED HER OFF TOOK HER CELL PHONE AND LEFT.THE WIFE WAS PRESENT WHAT KIND OF WOMAN ALLOWS THAT AND YOU ARE A MOTHER ALSO?????????HE CURRENTLY FEELS HE DID NOTHING WRONG.I WAS MARRIED TO THIS MAN FOR 10 YRS NOWAY I WOULD HAVE ALLOWED SUCH BAHAVIOR...EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT SO WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE?(HOW LONG/WELL YOU KNOW A PERSON?)A SHORT RESPONSE TO A COMMENT

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maybe
by: Anonymous

Maybe you can get help from the state...the money part, the day care and whatever else they offer...it will be his responsibility to pay it back anyway.

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Be a little more responsible
by: Anonymous

And you knew this guy how long before you let him make a donation? Guess you reap what you sew and I hope like hell you aren't costing me more in tax dollars for welfare. Use a condom next time, or try being a leasbo! Less risky behavior that way.

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