LA producer/ Deadbeat father that continues to disappoint his daughter...

by Kay
(Phoenix, Az)

What a joke this guy is...and as I am reading all the other stories that sound oh too familiar on this site and others, I get more and more angry and realize the ones that TRULY lose here are the children.

My daughter and I live in Arizona now, she is 12 years old, and has a so called "wanna be" dad that has been failing from the get go. Never married (thank god) and from the day I told him I was pregnant, he wanted nothing to do with it until the issue of child support came up after he realized I actually had her and she was his. He has hurt her over and over and over by not showing up to visits, and now after getting a little older and smarter (all on her own I might add as I have never wanted to talk bad about him directly to her) has realized what a flake and liar he is. And you should hear some of the lies he comes up with...I can't tell you how many times I've heard he was in the hospital or somebody he knows died...at this point I would think everyone he knows is dead. LOL. My daughter actually said to me last night that she doesn't care anymore if she sees him or doesn't, because she can't handle hurting...how SAD is that!!! But to really put the icing on the cake, he drives a new Volvo, lives in LA as a producer, wears nice clothes, travels all over, parties it up, buys expensive clothes for her she doesn't need, but CAN'T afford child support!! He has intermittently paid over the past 12 years, sometimes not for 6 or more months, sometimes it?s $100/month, and rarely the $500 it?s supposed to be, but oddly enough some will go into my account the day or few before he is traveling out here to visit her. I have let it slide for 12 years, and given him chance after chance to prove himself both as an emotional and fiscal responsible father, because the energy and fighting I just don't have in me after spending years in court over custody and $75,000 in attorney's fees that my parents sold their house to help me pay for, BUT I am not going to let it slide anymore. I calculated that in arrears he owes with interest almost $100,000 (and both the state of CA and AZ are the toughest on deadbeat dad laws/child support) so I am officially filing for a new order to be assessed, as well as back child support, and the guy can sit in jail and have a job there until he can pay it off....it's what he deserves after not being a financially responsible parental party in his daughter's life, not to mention hurting my daughter for a dozen years. What a shame.

He is the epitome of a dead beat father, and I look forward to the system getting a hold of him! In addition to keeping my daughter safe from his lies and pain he causes her.....

karma comes around.

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by: Anonymous

Sound's like someone has issues because producer Dad is probably hooking up with much younger and hotter women. Do you think putting a guy in jail will resolve his not wanting to pay a court? What do think guy's in jail make a day? Try about $10... How is that going to help you and/or your daughter? Maybe try being less vindictive. You know most men respond very, very poorly to hostility. It's an ego and pride thing and a very important lesson for some women to understand. It's ALL about how we're addressed and most guys, will in fact listen if something is approached on an even keel. I realize I don't know your situation but "I'll just get his ass thrown in jail if he doesn't pay me" crap is the reason this system continues to rape people... Men and women alike... Not to mention it sounds like a bad Jerry Springer show when women throw that statement around. Have some dignity and self awareness. How do you want your daughter to view your behavior and what will she learn from the hostility exhibited toward her father? If men leave and continue to stay away, there is usually a fairly good reason for them doing so... Food for thought.
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by: Anonymous

From what I have heard you say it sams a lil contradicting ! You say in the beginning he did nothing at all for her and never came around and always had excuses and never paid any monies in support! Then you go on to say he would buy he expensive clothes that she didn't need and there was always some money paid to support right befor he shows up for a visit!Ok so no he may not b a perfect father but he is far frm being deadbeat father ! It seems you have the anger and frustration twowards him, he is paying something to child support ,he buys her clothes expensive or not I am sure she could always use clothing and guess what that is what a parent does buy them clothes !he obviously shows up and visits her whic you said he didn't and then later you say he does! Trust me he may not pay what he is orderd to pay but atleast he pays something and does buy her things and dos visit her ! He is not a deadbeat at all, Now in my situation my wifes two daughters father has not even bought a pencil ,pays no support and when the girls do go see him ,he forces them o kick the crap out of eachother for his own enjoyment and then doesn't take them to get the medical attention they need, and has them lie to their mother and say it was a bike accident! So when they return home and she takes them to the hospital the girls tell the doctor the truth and he has now been found in neglect by children sevices and she is fighting for him to have suppervised visits or none at all and maybe he will sign his rights away and I can adopted them! Trust me this guy does not buy them anything at all ,my wife and I do it all he doesnot call them to talk and he doesnt even want the for holidays unless it falls on his weekend ! He is worthless and a true deadbeat! Then the funny thing is he thinks he can control everyone and every situation! The girls call me dad and rightfully so I am the only father figure they have an they know who takes care of them anddoesn't hurt them! So you should be thankfull he even does the little it he does and realize you daughter will tell him how she really feels and that is the worse thing that could happn to him and then he can live with the guilt for the rest of his life and you can enjoy yours!!

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