Legally frustrated

by JL Smith
(Mississippi)

I got divorced in 2006. My ex-wife stole, lied and cheated. Then booted me out of my kids lives. I laid down during the divorce because I was sick of fighting. After divorce was final, she went completely nuts, neglected, abused and allowed her boyfriend to neglect and abuse my girls. I hired an attorney and unbeknownst to her and with the helo of her ex-boyfriends ex-wife, built an awesome custody case against her. I got remarried late 2006 amd simce then, she has done everything you can imagine, from garnishing my wages, denying me my children, debying my family the right to see my children, and trashing my wife and I to not only them but everyone they know. I am considered a dead beat dad to my daughters teachers, her principal, her coaches. I pay a hefty amount in child support although my income decreased significantly over 2 years ago. My wife and I have fought tooth and nail for not only full custody but for stricter guidelines for her to have to follow.

We have lost 2 court dates over the last year. The bad thing is, once we really started leaning on her, she cleaned up her act, got married, got really involved in community activities and church activities and it seems my kids have forgotten all the horrible things she has done to them.

Because of our lack of ability to ever get in front of a judge, we have lost precious time, and now I'm not sure that my girls even want to come live with me full time anymore. They love their mom and she has been able to win their loyalty and support back. I can be okay with this, but my fear is that she will go right back to the same behavior as before. Screwing around and refusing to let me see them. She is truly an evil person. It's one thing to want to punish your ex-husband, but to hurt your kids to get to him is unforgivable in my book.

She shoudl not be allowed to raise children, but I want my kids to be happy. I have 3 other children with my wife now and I'm starting to see that maybe we are all better off the way things are. That is, if and only if, she continues to fly right. It's not fair for her to continue to get away with the pain she's inflicted on ALL of us, but what can I do. I want them to be happy.
The true villain is my ex-wife, but a catalyst of this tragedy is the court system. It has taken us 2 years and we still haven't seen the inside of a court room.

That is inexcusable to me, because 2 little girls hang in the balance and that doesn't seem to mean anything to anyone. The laws and guidelines have got to change. There should be harsher consequences for those who take advantage of the system and it should be easier to get something done when something isnt being done right. You see, the ONLY casualty in this, is our children. We continue to fight each other and they get caught in the mix. I never should have had to nearly take her children from her to get her to act like a mother instead of a gold digging slut. But it is what it is. What can I do? I'm one guy and according to this site, I'm not alone.

My wife has an exhusband who owes her 18K in back support and he moved over seas to get beyond the governments reach. Where's the justice in any of this???????