Military Father got the shaft.

by Morgan

I have been in the military for 8yrs and I have a 7yr old son. At the time of all this I was being deployed and my son's mother bailed on him in 2007. 3 day after I left. I had been asking for joint cutody with out going to court. My son was concieved out of wedlock and I had to apply for rights. Well during the deployment my son stayed with my parents while his mother went to CO. Now there was no legal paper work to cover my son while she was gone so he could recieve medical care of any kind or to enroll/disenroll him from school nothing. I couldn't come home to get him b/c by the military rules i had no rights and i couldn't do nothing while my son was juggled from his mother to a grandparent. what I find funny is the state of ohio will give the mother soul cutody of the child and make the father pay support,child care,and all medical benefits. But when a mother up and leave's her child the court doens't go for the next of kin..i.e myself. it will let the grandmother have custody over my son.

I had to spend over 5,000 and more time just to see my son. I was told I was unfit and could'nt see my son with out supervision, i was like hell. I had paid my support, and just didn't get the oppertunity to see my son as often as i liked since i was in VA,deployed in the navy, and in San diego for the better part of his life. then when I did get to see him it was alway under someone's eye's and not just me and him. Needless to say after i returned home in july and fighting with the court and the grandmother. I was able to get my son on sept of last year. and since I have no recieved a penny from his mother and she hasn't tried to see him since she left.

she even went out of her way to drive and extra 246 miles and 2 and 1/2 hour. Just so she didnt' have to stop. she also decided that driving back up for florida was too much to see him during christmas so I drove to just outside of ATL so my son could see his mother b/c that was the deal with my son and I. I almost didn't get him back. which was crazy. and since she has yet to see him, or try to. So it shows that ohio shouldn't always give full custody to the mother without first joint custody.