MILITARY FATHER VS. GOLD DIGGER

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MILITARY FATHER VS. GOLD DIGGER

by Glenn
(Omaha, NE USA)

I was happily married until I deployed for a year. When I left for my deployment all I had was a truck payment. I came back form my deployment and I was $20,000 in debt because my wife had charged up credit cards. I received a phone call while I was deployed stating my wife had an STD. Upon returning home I found out through hacking my wife’s my space that she had been sleeping around and she was telling the guy she loved him. So upon returning home my wife tore my house apart and kidnapped my son and I flew home. When I went home I found out she had filed for divorce without me knowing, now I am stuck with all of the bills and I have to pay her child support because I do not have 5000 dollars for an attorney which leaves me 50 dollars a month spending money. I feel that it is unfair just because I don’t have money for a lawyer my son is automatically granted custody to the mother when the dissolution of marriage was her fault because she got caught. So everything I worked for in the past ten years has been destroyed. On top of that, I have to reward her by paying her monthly for cheating on me. I think the Nebraska court system is screwed up. That no fault law is crap and I have already wrote my congressman about it. I’m sick of calling attorneys and hearing, “well its going to be a about 10,000 dollars and you still probably wont get custody,” because they don’t even wont to try. Sorry this isn’t the best story but Im kind of toying in rage. I go from having a house, 900 dollar a month, car, and everything else that I wanted to 50 dollars a month while she’s sitting on her but living off of me.

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Nov 12, 2009
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military father vs gold digger
by: Anonymous

if u are still in the military. then under the soldier and salior act the state and the courts have to give u a lawyer

Oct 21, 2009
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strategy
by: Anonymous

One of the replies below makes some good points. The courts don't care about women cheating- or men, since this is about the kids. I would be as pissed as the next person about credit card debt dumped on you. You should get all the credit you can- give a lawyer or two retainer fees- and then declare bankruptcy as you take her to court. Fight for your rights as a parent!

Jun 20, 2009
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It's true
by: Anonymous

After a year of her dragging it along to get more money out of me, my divorce was finalized. I have two sons and my x wife also cheated when I was deployed to Iraq. Now, I am paying for half of her credit card debt and a whole paycheck to child support. She said she would fight me and not agree to joint custody and I couldnt afford to pay the courts any more money to drag it out further. She would not agree to joint physical custody due to being money hungry. I am also in Nebraska and feel that the child support laws and no fault clause need to be revamped. My lawyer told me there isnt really anything I could do about $918 a month and that it was just how the state calculated it off of your income,and, proceeded to tell me not to feel bad because another recent client is paying $1,200 a month. I thought,well, I guess it could be worse! The lawyer then told me that the other client makes $11,000 a month take home pay! This is also in Nebraska! Now, how do I end up paying half of my monthly income when this guy barely feels it when his is due if it is a strict "one size fits all" calculation?

Mar 03, 2009
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Woman in a different situation
by: Anonymous

This is not necessarily true... I am a woman and I have child support ordered to pay my x.....

I know it's not the norm..unless I was a deadbeat mom on drugs or had major problems...which isn't the case... WE share custody of our children & initially there was no support ordered since we would have the children 50/50..... But as my bills grew and I had lost my job and subsequently my home--I allowed my x to keep and care for the children (since I was /became homeless) and didn't want my children to be homeless as well. He and his faily has far more resouces than I do & IN FACT... IN FACT I AM PROBABLY THE ONLY WOMAN IN THE US THAT DIDN"T ASK FOR SuPPORT, ALIMONY, or take part of the savings or retirment (even though I was the primary care-giver and did ALL the household chores all while working outside the home as well and being the primary bread winner too!!!!! I just wanted free from my x and his family & left him the house & evrything in it I did want my children and got joint custody of them-------- But since I never really had enough money to make our living situation a home & couldn't do it on 1 income I LOST EVERYTHING AND BECAME HOMELESS---- And that's when he also started having the children more than the 50% of the time and he took me to court for child support THAT I CAN"T AFFORD......
I NO LONGER AM ABLE TO WORK IN THE FIELD I ONCE WAS IN AND HAVE SO MUCH DEBT THAT I STILL AM HOMELESS (living with my current b/f mother) & I GET TOLD BY CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT THAT I HAVE TO PAY THIS...... I have no problem paying for my kids (if I had it and they needed it) but he and his family have plenty and my kids are NOT SUFFERING... they get anything and evrything they want for the most part... & to make matters worse I WOULD GET THEM 50% of the time if I ONLY HAD A PLACE TO LIVE & COULD GET A JOB making reasonable amount of money.... But I can;'t seem to get NAYONE TO UNDERSTAND, CARE , LISTEN OR HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's alll a BUNCH of BS if you ask me

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Mar 03, 2009
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This is not necessarily true... I am a woman and I have child support ordered to pay my x..... I know it's not the norm..unless I was a deadbeat mom on drugs or had major problems...which isn't the case... WE share custody of our children & initially there was no support ordered since we would have the children 50/50..... But as my bills grew and I had lost my job and subsequently my home--I allowed my x to keep and care for the children (since I was /became homeless) and didn't want my children to be homeless as well. He and his faily has far more resouces than I do & IN FACT... IN FACT I AM PROBABLY THE ONLY WOMAN IN THE US THAT DIDN"T ASK FOR SuPPORT, ALIMONY, or take part of the savings or retirment (even though I was the primary care-giver and did ALL the household chores all while working outside the home as well and being the primary bread winner too!!!!! I just wanted free from my x and his family & left him the house & evrything in it I did want my children and got joint custody of them-------- But since I never really had enough money to make our living situation a home & couldn't do it on 1 income I LOST EVERYTHING AND BECAME HOMELESS---- And that's when he also started having the children more than the 50% of the time and he took me to court for child support THAT I CAN"T AFFORD...... I NO LONGER AM ABLE TO WORK IN THE FIELD I ONCE WAS IN AND HAVE SO MUCH DEBT THAT I STILL AM HOMELESS (living with my current b/f mother) & I GET TOLD BY CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT THAT I HAVE TO PAY THIS...... I have no problem paying for my kids (if I had it and they needed it) but he and his family have plenty and my kids are NOT SUFFERING... they get anything and evrything they want for the most part... & to make matters worse I WOULD GET THEM 50% of the time if I ONLY HAD A PLACE TO LIVE & COULD GET A JOB making reasonable amount of money.... But I can;'t seem to get NAYONE TO UNDERSTAND, CARE , LISTEN OR HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's alll a BUNCH of BS if you ask me

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Mar 02, 2009
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Total Discrimination !!
by: Christopher Verso

Try liberal NYC they will do any thing to accomadate women .I think it is outright discrimination PERIOD !! I wish there were some advocate to bring some light on the subject and get the media involved ,because people only listen to politicaly correct B.S. anyway. As for my story she could'nt be a worse parent if she tried .The woman is incredably spiteful and the courts just feed fire.But there is hope because myson just wants to live with me . Remember how strong men realy are we can support an entire family easely and never grovel at anyones feet for money like the "victomized single mother" . Just be the best father possible to your children and they will love you and see right through all of the non-sense.

Jan 16, 2009
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Don't Give Up
by: Anonymous

My ex cheated on me to several times. The court doesnt want to hear about it. In most cases the woman will always get custody because the state can usually get more money from the man than the woman. Not sure how you end up with 50.00 a month in your pocket unless that's all due to credit card bills. If so, might as well file for bankruptcy. Not something you really want to do, but you have to live! Don't think any lawyer or child support enforcement agency gives a rats ass about you. You have to be the one to get past it. This is the way women have become because the system allows them too and no accountability is enforced on anybody but the non-custodial parents (usually men).

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