MOST WANTED DEADBEAT DAD

by DIANE TREVINO
(LUBBOCK, TEXAS USA)

I KNOW OF A DAD THAT HAS TWO BOYS IN THE STATE OF NEW MEXICO AND HAS REFUSED CHILD SUPPORT TO THEM BECAUSE HE WAS NOT IN AGREEMENT HOW THE MOTHER WAS RAISING THE CHILDREN. I WAS THE OTHER WOMAN IN THESE BOYS DAD'S LIFE AFTER HE AND THEIR MOM DIVORCED. I BECAME PRETTY INVOLVED WITH THE LIVES OF THESE TWO LITTLE BOYS WHENEVER THE PARENTS CAME TO AGREEMENT THAT THEY COULD STAY WITH US FOR A VISIT. I WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF ALL THE UGLINESS BETWEEN THE PARENTS. I WAS AROUND WHEN THIS MAN DECIDED NOT TO CONTINUE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT TO HIS SONS. BY THIS TIME HE AND I HAD A DAUGHTER TOGETHER. HE BECAME VERY ABUSIVE SOON AFTER SHE WAS BORN TO ME. NOT LONG AFTER I FOUND OUT FROM HIS EX THAT WAS THE REASON SHE HAD LEFT HIM. I ENDURED THE ABUSE FOR 14 YEARS THIS IS MY STORY WHY: WHEN I FIRST MET THIS MAN HE WAS GOING THROUGH HIS DIVORCE. WE GOT PRETTY CLOSE PRETTY FAST. DURING THE BEGINNING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP HE ASKED ME IF I WOULD HELP HIM KEEP ALL HIS POSSESIONS BY PUTTING EVERYTHING IN MY NAME INCLUDING THE CHIROPRATIC BUSINESS HE HAD AT THE TIME (YOU SEE HE WAS A BIG BUSINESS MAN...A DOCTOR). HE SOON CONVINCED ME, AND SOON AFTER I WAS SIGNING PAPERS THAT WOULD SHOW THAT EVERYTHING HE OWNED BEFORE NOW BELONGED TO ME. IN REALITY NOTHING EVER BELONGED TO ME NOT EVEN THE MONEY THAT WAS HELPED MADE BY ME. HE WOULD CONTROL EVERYTHING. YEARS DOWN THE LINE I WAS TIRED OF THE ABUSE TIRED OF BEING CONTROLED. I BECAME AS EVIL AND CONIVING AS HIM. BY THIS TIME I HAD ESTABLISHED REALLY GOOD CREDIT IN MY NAME. I DECIDED TO DESTROY MY GOOD STANDING OF CREDIT MY GOOD STANDING AS A BUSINESS WOMAN TO HELP DESTROY THIS INDIVIDUAL I WAS INVOLVED WITH. SLOWLY I STARTED NOT SENDING IN PAYMENTS FOR THINGS THAT NEEDED TO BE PAID ON..IT WAS MY CREDIT BUT IT WAS HIS GOOD STANDING I WAS GOING AFTER. IF SOMEONE CALLED FOR PAYMENT I REFUSED THEM WITHOUT HIM KNOWING. THE BANKS WERE GOING DOWN ON MONEY...I WAS HOLDING ON TO CHECKS AND NOT DEPOSITING.


HE WOULD HAVE ME WRITE CHECKS WHEN I WAS WITH HIM FOR LARGE EQUIPMENT HE WAS PURCHASING. THE CHECKS WERE BOUNCING LEFT AND RIGHT...I DID'NT CARE. I QUIT DOING HIS MONTHLY ACCOUNTING, I GOT NUMB TO THE BEATINGS AND CONTINUED FOR MONTHS UNDERMINDING HIM. I PAID THE PRICE FOR THE BOUNCED CHECKS AND PAID EVERY PENNY LATER BUT NOT UNTIL I FINISHED DESTROYING WHAT HE HAD. MEANWHILE HE WAS SCHIMMING ANOTHER WAY TO GET AWAY FROM THE LAW THAT WAS CHASING HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT.HE CAME UP WITH THE IDEA THAT WE WOULD MOVE TO FLORIDA. HE WOULD NOT GO BACK TO BEING A CHIROPRACTOR BUT WOULD GO INTO A LAWN AND TREE SERVICE WHERE HE COULD LAY LOW AND NO ONE WOULD FIND HIM THERE. WITH MY BAD NAME NOW I HAD NO CHOICE AT THIS TIME BUT TO MOVE AWAY WITH HIM ALL THE WAY FROM TEXAS TO FLORIDA. I DID LEGAL PROCEEDINGS WITH MY EX TO GIVE HIM CUSTODY MY OUR TWO CHILDREN BECAUSE I FELT THEY WOULD BE BETTER OFF WITH HIM THAN DRAGGING THEM AS TEENS ALL THE WAY SOMEWHERE WHERE THEY WOULD NOT BE HAPPY.

THAT WAS THE HARDEST THING I HAD TO DO. HE SOON MOVED US TO FLORIDA, AFTER I HAD TO SELL MY HOME AND THE BUSINESS (WHAT WAS LEFT OF IT). WE HAD SOME ROUGH YEARS. THEN ONE DAY HE TOLD ME THAT HE KNEW I WAS'NT HAPPY WITH HIM AND THAT IF I WANTED TO I COULD GET A JOB AND SAVE MY MONEY AND MOVE BACK TO TEXAS WITH OUR DAUGHTER. HIS ABUSE STOPPED LONG BEFORE (ABOUT A YEAR), BEFORE HE BROUGHT THIS IDEA TO ME. I OF COURSE COULD'NT INVISION NOTHING BUT TO COME HOME TO MY HOME STATE, SO I GOT A JOB AND STARTED SAVING TO COME HOME. MEANWHILE, WE TALKED ABOUT OUR PLANS. HE WAS GOING TO GO ON WITH LIFE WHERE HE WANTED TO BE AND I MINE. WE TALKED ABOUT OUR PRECIOUS LITTLE GIRL. SINCE WE HOME SCHOOLED HER, IT WAS GOING TO BE EASY TO KEEP HER WITH ME A FEW MONTHS, THEN HE KEEP HER A FEW MONTHS. SHE WAS 9 YEARS OLD WHEN WE CAME HOME TO TEXAS. SHE STAYED WITH ME FOR 5 MONTHS THEN THE DAY CAME FOR HER TO FLY BACK TO HIM FOR A FEW MONTHS.

WHEN IT CAME TIME FOR HER TO GET ON THAT PLANE SHE STARTED REALLY REALLY CRYING THAT SHE DID NOT WANT TO GO. I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY FEAR OF FLYING ALONE. WHEN THE FLIGHT ATTANTENT ASSURED ME SHE WOULD BE OK, I LET HER GO REASURING HER SHE WOULD BE FINE AND THAT WE WOULD SEE EACH OTHER SOON. 5 HOURS LATER AFTER HER ARRIVAL IN FLORIDA I GOT A CALL FROM HER. SHE WAS CRYING SAYING HER DAD HAD HER CALL ME TO TELL ME SHE WAS NEVER COMING HOME. I WAS DEVASTED AND WITHOUT HARDLY ANY MONEY I COULD'NT BOOK A FLIGHT OUT. MY HEART WAS SINKING FAST AND I STARTED HAVING PANIC ATTACKS AND REACHED A POINT OF HAVING A NERVOUS BREAK DOWN. I BEGIN RESEARCHING WITH ATTORNEYS IN TEXAS, IN FLORIDA AS TO WHAT I COULD DO. WITHOUT A LARGE AMOUNT OF MONEY TO MY POSSESION, MY HANDS WERE TIED. THERE WAS A TIME I THOUGHT I COULD FINALLY GO DOWN TO GET HER, BUT HE FOUND OUT, AND HER CALL ME WITH A THREAT THAT IF I CAME HE WOULD KILL ME.

SHE WAS CRYING HER EYES OUT, THE ONLY THING I COULD DO BECAUSE I FELT I NEEDED TO AIDE TO HER SAFETY, I CALLED THE POLICE AND THE CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES. BOTH GROUPS WENT DOWN. I RECIEVE A PHONE CALL FROM THE POLICE EXPLAINING THAT THEY TALKED TO HIM AND THEY SAW NOTHING WRONG(THEY NEVER SPOKE TO MY DAUGHTER). THE CHILD SERVICES GIVES ME A CALL THE NEXT DAY (THIS IS HOW LONG IT TOOK THEM TO GET TO HER) AND GAVE ME THIS MESSAGE: THAT THEY SAW NOTHING WRONG WHEN THEY SPOKE WITH HIM NOT HER. THIS WOMAN TELLS ME IF I EVER CALL ON A FALSE PRETENSE AGAIN SHE WOULD HAVE ME ARESTED. THE HOPE OF HAVING SOMEONE ON MY SIDE DRAINED THAT VERY MOMENT. MY HOPE THAT I WOULD SEE MY DAUGHTER BECAME MORE AND MORE SLIM.

I SUDDENLY REMEMBERED THAT HE HAD NOT PAID CHILD SUPPORT TO NEW MEXICO AND FOUND A NUMBER ON-LINE TO CALL TO REPORT THAT I KNEW WHERE THIS MAN WAS (I WAS DESPERATE). WHEN THE PERSON HEARD THE NAME I WAS REPORTING SHE JUST ABOUT DROPPED THE PHONE, BECAUSE THE MAN I WAS REPORTING WAS ON THEIR MOST WANTED LIST OF DEAD BEAT DADS. DURING ALL THIS PROCESS OF GETTING ALL THE INFORMATION TO THIS PERSON, I WAS TOLD THAT SINCE NEW MEXICO HAD NO JURISDICTION IN THE STATE OF FLORIDA THAT ALL THEY COULD DO WOULD TO SEND ALL THIS INFORMATION TO FLORIDA AND WAIT FOR THEIR HELP. IT'S BEEN ALMOST 4 YEARS. RECENTLY HE HAS CONIVED THE SYSTEM AGAIN AND LED THE STATE OF FLORIDA TO THINK THAT HE'S IN TEXAS BY FORWARDING HIS MAIL FROM THE STATE OF FLORIDA CHILD SUPPORT TO ONE OF MY SISTERS ADDRESS. HERE'S MY PLEA TO WHOEVER READS THIS: WHEN IS THE SYSTEM GOING TO PICK HIM UP. I READ ABOUT A DAD THAT WENT TO PRISON FOR NON-PAYMENT OF CHILD SUPPORT UNTIL THE SYSTEM AGREED ON A DNA TEST TO FIND OUT HE WAS'NT EVEN THE FATHER. THIS MAN IS WITHIN ARMS REACH AND NO ONE HAS PICKED HIM UP YET. HE'S ON FRONT PAGE MOST WANTED AND STILL NO ONE GETS HIM BEHIND BARS. I WANT MY DAUGHTER AWAY FROM HIM BUT HOW? SHE WANTS TO COME HOME BUT HOW? WE WANT A NORMAL LIFE BUT HOW? THE MOTHER IN NEW MEXICO DESERVES TO GET HER DUE CHILD SUPPORT, I DESERVE MY LITTLE GIRL BACK HOME. PLEASE READ AND HELP ME PRAY FOR JUSTICE. I DON'T EXPECT EVERYONE TO UNDERSTAND WHY I SEND MY DAUGHTER TO HIM WHEN I KNEW HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME. AT THE TIME HE WAS NOT ABUSIVE TO OUR DAUGHTER, I HAVE A HEART, I WANTED MY DAUGHTER TO BE PART OF HER DADS LIFE. I THOUGHT WE WERE FINALLY GOING TO BE ABLE TO BE APART FROM EACH OTHER BUT WOULD BE ABLE TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH OUR DAUGHTER. WE WERE NEVER MARRIED, THEREFORE HIS NAME WAS NEVER PUT IN HER BIRTH CERTIFICATE. HE NOW IS ASKING FOR MONEY FROM ME BECAUSE HE CANNOT PROVIDE FOR HER AS MUCH. I JUST FOUND OUT HE HAS HAD NO HEALTH INSURANCE ON HER. WITH MY STILL BROKEN HEART I CONTINUE TO HOPE THAT I RECIEVE A PHONE CALL SAYING MY DAUGHTER IS FINALLY COMING HOME. MUST SHE CONTINUE TO GROW WITHOUT ME WHEN SHE AND I WERE PEAS AND CARROTS? I WANT TO CALL HER AND TELL HER MOMMY'S COMING. I WANT TO HOLD HER CLOSE TO ME, I WANT TO FEEL HER HEART BEAT AGAINST MINE. HONEY IT'S MOMMY, I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART

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by: Anonymous

have you gotten your daughter back yet?

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Hey you that said that about my mom lying
by: Anonymous

Who gives a shit. really!!!????? They are both wrong it ways. SOOOOOOOO WHATTTTT!!!!!!!!!!! GET OVER IT SERIOUSLY IM TIRED of them going back and forth. Neither am i is going to be able to see my half sister Adra.....Thanksss. Its bad enough that I cant see her.....But who is to blame is both the parents....Get it together come on!!!! All I care about is to see Adra...Thanks.

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Diane you're a lyin sack of shit!!
by: Anonymous

Hey Diane...the author of this...I happen to know your ex and you have made up quite a story there...I guess you are crazier than he said you ever were. I think you're a master sympathy seeker! You never had exclusive rights to her and you even admit you were/are evil. This man, while no angel, is a better parent than you and that child support situation was never fair. Who could pay $4000 a month in child support? You knew he could never pay that and he trusted you to try to keep his business going. And all you did was steal what little he had left. And now your daughter is suffering enormously! What goes round comes round and you are gettin just what you deserve!!!!

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Go Get Her
by: Anonymous

Go pick up your daughter you did not have to wait this long if you were never married he has to prove he is the father. Also list his name on photo on this page as well as your daughters It really help me with mine!

http://childrenofabsentparents.yolasite.com/

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BOUNTY HUNTER R U OUT THERE
by: Anonymous

I AM INTERESTED IN BOUNTY HUNTING. PLEASE WHOES OUT THERE STILL THAT CARES? I WROTE DEAD BEAT DAD. HELP!

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NFAA2010@GMAIL.COM
by: Anonymous

IF YOU READ THIS @ ANY POINT MR. SINCERE, PLEASE LET ME KNOW HOW I CAN CONTACT YOU SO I CAN TALK TO YOU ABOUT THE STORY I HAVE WRITTEN. THIS IS IN REFERENCE TO BOUNTY HUNTING. THANK YOU!

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Confused
by: Anonymous

I'm sorry but your story has confused me or is not adding up. First of all if you guys were never married then that means that there is NO custody order in place and neither of you have legal custody of this child on paper and you have just as much right to go take her as he does and after 4 years, if you could save up enough money to move back to Texas in a short time then I do believe that in 4 years you could of saved up enough money to fly to Florida and follow this guy around and take your daughter back from him just as he did you. Or in 4 years you could have hired Gloria Allred by now to go take her back. If you wanted your daughter you could go get her. I apologize for being so blunt but it's true.

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WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU
by: Anonymous

SORRY TO SAY THIS, BUT WHAT CAMES AROUND GOES AROUND. YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER HELPED HIM. HERE YOU ARE WITHOUT YOUR CHILD. ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT YOU SHOULD PRAY THAT HE GETS ARRESTED THEN HE WOULD HAVE TO RELINQUISH CHILD CUSTODY UNTO YOU.MAYBE YOU CAN TAKE HER BIRTH CERTIFICATE TO FLORIDA AND SHOW THE AUTHORITIES THAT YOU ARE HER MOTHER AND THAT HE HAS NO RIGHT TO CUSTODY BECAUSE HE IS NOT LEGALLY HER FATHER OR CUSTODIAN. I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN MY CHILD BACK LONG BEFORE 4 YEARS NO MATTER WHAT. I THINK SOMEONE SHOULD HELP YOUR CHILD I BET SHE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO IS SUFFERING. AS A MOTHER I FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE YOU WOULD LET YOUR CHILD LEAVE FOR 5 MONTHS WHEN SHE NEEDED HER MOTHER THE MOST.WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU

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BOUNTY HUNTERS WORKS
by: Anonymous

I have read your story and out of all of the stories I have ever read this one is the most heart touching for me, Im a father and I have never felt the pain Im feeling right now from reading your story. If his name isn't on the birth certificate then he has no rights, the other you can do is get in contact with a bail bonds man or bounty hunter and give them the info have them to ship him back to New Mexico and or just on a plan to a sister state that works with New Mexico and I think North Carolina Works New Mexico. Please contact me if you need any additional help. I will contact someone that i know that is a bounty hunter and see what can they do in a situation like this.
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