Mother and Daughter- Violated by the System

by TinaMarie Little
(Springfield, PA)

Since filing for child support in 1987 in Delaware County, PA, I have followed every letter of the law. I made every single court hearing. My daughter's father did not.


There were several arrest warrants issued through out the years, his drivers license was suspended, and IRS checks were intercepted.

In July 2009, I received a Notice of Proposed Modification and I checked the "I do not agree" box the hearing was to dismiss the case.

On September 02, 2009, I appeared in front of the Master and she so ordered the following, "Proposed Modification is Denied".

In October 2009, I received another Notice of Proposed Termination 60-Day Case Closure.

Once again, I check the box that I did not agree.

In December 2009, I received a paper from the court that they closed my daughter's child support case. I received no notice of a scheduled hearing.

Please note that I have made every court hearing since 1987. Also note that two payments were made to the EPPICard - 07/20/2009 for $208.00 and 04/06/2009 for $951.00.

Therefore, the child support case was still active.

Is there anything I can do?

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Aug 18, 2011
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to give it a rest
by: Anonymous

many states allow for child support up to age 24 if the child goes to college. college is very pricey wouldn't any normal parent like help with that. or how bout that loan payment that she has to make because he never paid his child support. get ur head out ur arse. don't hate cause you took a boot from child support enforcement. cause you know you did.

Jul 17, 2011
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Give it a rest
by: Anonymous

I am appaled at what that person is saying about the mother trying to go after the father for revenge. I am also a single mother raising 3 children on my own. Their father does not calls them, has infrequient visits with them. It is very strapping, emotionally and finacially on a single mother out there. You sir, I believe you are a man because of how you are answering, are disgusting, attacking this good mother for doing whatshe is supposed to. She has right to go after him for all the backed owed money that he never paid. In most cases since the child is grown it would probably be given to the child for college expenses. My ex is over $8000 in back owed and to no avail becaue the court system sucks these days, he gets a slap on thw wrist and is told, just pay it back. That doesn't work when you deal with dead beat dads.

Jan 10, 2011
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a rebuttal to the anonymous one
by: AmyJane

I feel like I am hearing your heart saying that a father who fails to attribute value to his very own flesh and blood therefore doesn't have to contribute financially to the well being of the being he was an active member of creating.

Please, if you will, share with us here:
Who has ever gotten rich off of child support? Please show me your documentation. Include their contact information as I would like to interview them. Even if there is only one I would dearly appreciate the opportunity.

Dec 26, 2010
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Violated by the SYSTEM
by: Anonymous

Actually, if you read the title, it says the SYSTEM violated this woman. Yes, the father was brought up, but the system didn't follow through on anything it should have. All a good mother really wants is to be able to give her child a good home and someone to depend on. In my situation, at this point, it's not even about child support, putting someone in jail, getting revenge...it's about a fathers duty and not even financially speaking. If he will make sure to give her the things she needs from him (like actually spending time with her, telling her he's taking her somewhere and actually doing it, even if it's to the park!) then I'd be extremely content with our situation. I send my daughter to private school, make sure she has piano, sports, friends, ect. But, I want her to feel her dad in it all too, even if I am the one paying for it, financially.

Dec 22, 2010
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To give it a rest
by: Anonymous

If the father were to have died, the child would get social security benefits, which would be more than she gets now. Pretty sad when someone is worth more dead than alive.

Sep 16, 2010
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The child Support System
by: Lynnette

This is to the person who wrote the last comment. For you to say that people get rich off child support is very ignorant on your behave. It cost a lot of time and patience when raising children and yes money happens to be the major part. If a man can take time and patience to help produce a child then he should take the time and money to make sure the child has what he/or she needs physically and mentally. It should not fall on one parent, because you have no idea what a mother goes through raising a child alone. I know you don't because that statement would not have been made. I feel that little should grow up and assume the responsibilities for there children or they should be forced to get a vasectomy.

Sep 09, 2010
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Revenge is not the issue, Justice is...
by: Strong Mommy

I've had a similar problem, not as long, though. The father of my child hasn't paid child support in three years and I continue to follow my end of the court order. I have tried to get our case brought back into court for review but, as this poor woman has said, when you do what they ask and send it back, they act like they never received anything and drop your case. I do not feel this woman wants revenge or to put this man in jail, but how is it fair that no one is on her side? She has raised this poor child on her own all of these years and has done fine, yes, but is it fair to the child who may have had to go without things she may have WANTED but couldn't receive because her mother was doing everything on her own? I think the man should be in jail! People shouldn't procreate and then leave the other parent to do everything on their own. The justice system in this country is ridiculous and sickening. I wish you and your daughter all the luck in the world. Don't stress over things that out of our hands. You have raised your daughter on your own and I hope this has made you as well as her stronger.

Sep 02, 2010
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Give it a rest
by: Anonymous

well you have went all this time without the money sounds to me like you made it. So putting your daughters father in jail gonna make you feel better. What would you have done if he were to die, or went to jail or was in the hospital for life or crippled, you still would have done what you have always done, taken care of your daughter. Trying to put your ex in jail or causing him ill will is just wrong in its self. This is the father of your child not a bank he did not take a loan out with you. Everyone needs to realize these are children not means to a paychecks or retirement. Stop looking for a way to get back at him or how to get rich off your child. Your case was back in 1987 so that makes your child around 24 years old, get over it and get on about your life and stop bogging down the system. Your beef has nothing to do with supporting a child but only you wanting to get paid back for something you would have had to do anyway, with or without child support. But revenge is all they seem to realy want.

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