TAX PAYERS AND CUSTODIAL PARENTS UNITE! by: Anonymous
I'm very surpised by what I'm reading here. It is the responsibility of BOTH PARENTS to care for the children they create. PERIOD! Anyone who places the blame solely on one parent needs to keep their negative comments to themselves-its not helping anyone. It shouldn't matter if it is the mother or the father who has custody, they should both support and help to raise thier children. Grow up people, take responsibility for the things you do and the children you have. In the end it is the children that suffer the most. The fact is, in most cases, the tax payers will end up picking up the slack of the dead beat parent. Doesn't matter your opinon, fact remains- when you can't get help from the other parent, you're forced to get on welfare. So quit slingin' your negativity- unless you like that your tax dollars go to enable dead beat parents.
Melissa, I know how you feel, it has been an up hill battle for me to get support as well. I think that all the custodial parents in Illinois should band together to get laws put in place to help us get the support our kids need, but also protect the parents who are REALLY trying to help raise thier kids. LAWS NEED TO BE ENFORCED!!! I can't understand, if I can raise my kids, get a job, pay bills and care for them day to day, why is it that he can't pay his lousy $35.00 per week support. I keep hearing "If you have him held in contempt and put in jail, he can't work and you won't get your support." HELLO?! I'm not getting it anyway!! Illinois laws are very weak and they are not enforced- and most of the time it is the tax payers that pay for these kids because the custodial parents are forced to get on welfare. TAX PAYERS AND CUSTODIAL PARENTS UNITE!
Hang in there Melissa!!
Apr 07, 2009 Rating
R U KIDDING by: Anonymous
Have you ever heard the saying don't judge a book by its cover? Sometimes you have to read the whole book, and the ending took you in a completely different direction than you thought it would. Most men are true gentlemen in the beggining. Notice I said most? Its more fact than fiction that men plant the seed and then leave. Moms have to work two jobs to make ends meet when this happens, they have no choice! Have you ever been the custodial parent that doesn't recieve child support? It doesn't matter which state you live in, or which gender you are! The system is the system. And why is it the woman is always the one to blame? A child is the responsibilty of BOTH parents! Either way its the kids that suffer!
Jan 08, 2009 Rating
RU Kidding? by: Anonymous
Obviously,
You take no responsibility like all those other pityful women who are more to blame than the guy. It's your body and you allowed another person (a loser as you say) inside of it. Let me guess, I bet you think it's the tobacco companies fault when someone dies of lung cancer! Take the risks, take the consequences. When are you people going to stop whining about how someone owes you something.
You owe it to yourself to accept some responsibility for having a kid with a loser. Rest assured if you lived in the sorry state of Texas, you would get paid regardless if you deserve it or not.
Jan 04, 2009 Rating
Stop depending on a man by: Anonymous
My grandmother always told me if I want to have a child make sure it is for me and no one else because the man, be he a husband or not, can walk away from the child at any point and I could not. I pass this advice on to you. Forget about trying to get child support from him. All that does is weaken your energy. Your children will learn of your sacrifices when they are older and appreciate you more for it. I was raised in a single family home by my father who never pressed my mother for child support. Why? Because he decided that he would take on that role and come hell or high water we would make it. And guess what? We did. My advice to you is to focus on you and your children. Figure out a way to make your lives better without his assistance. You knew as we all do with our partners before you had children with him that he was a good provider. Why did you think things would change? Forget about him and focus on you.
Jan 02, 2009 Rating
To the mother of one by: maria az
I understand exactly what you are saying. The system is for the non-custodial parent. My ex owes me 80,000.00 in arreaRS and I get no where with the courts. They say he's trying now, they don't offer any kind of solution and god for bid you go to court. The average time for a court date is 6 months, unbelievable. To get anywhere you need a private attorney, which can't afford. Then all the time it takes for you to file on your own, they make it immpoissible to get what your kids have coming to them. You would think owing 80,000.00 woulde justify some kind of action for payment............not. The courts just amended my support because my kids are now 18 one is still in school get that. He now works for the city of phoenix making good money and they do everything to help him survive. What about what us mothers have to do to survive with no support for all those years? They say he is paying something now som that is good enough for them. Hang in there, in all reality we don't need them however the kids need support. Something mhas got to change within our state laws, when it does hope we are still alive to get some action for our cases. Hang in there, he will one day have to face up to his obligation. Do not give up, fight for your ids support, may seem like nothing is happening but it will. God Bless
Jan 02, 2009 Rating
GET A JOB by: Amy H
You had a choice as well as he!You should be able to support your child without his help and if not then you should have thought of that before having children.Why do you people act as if you can't survive without someone paying your bills?Having children does not give you a free ride through life!You should not risk your childs welfare on a loser dad maybe you should have gotten to know him better before having children?
You dont even work yourself yet you piss and moan because he wont give you 10,000.00.Get off your ass and get a job and forget about a free ride because you are not going to get it!Take resposibility for YOUR actions and take care of YOUR child.Get money from his mom,if she will give it to him then maybe she will give it to you.
Maybe he is mental and cant work and thats why he is on drugs.Be glad he wont see you or your kid and keep him out of your lives at ALL costs! If that dont work then give the kid up for adoption so it can have a life it deserves with a WORKING mom who is not looking for a free ride from a druggie father.
