Mothers not doing the right thing with our son

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Mothers not doing the right thing with our son

by elliott williams
(chicago. Illinois)

I been served papers today. I'm mad because I do love my son and I do give his mother mother when she calls me and tell me what he needs. I don't make a lot of money but, I do the best that I can. I keep him the whole summer and some holidyas when the mother let's me. I have two other childrens who lives with me and there mom. I asked my oldest son mother can he live with me because he's not doing well in school. When he with me he does great. He loves his brother and sister and they love him also. My lady also loves my sons and always doing for him when he's with us. I don't want to be label as a dad beat dad. I'm not.

I do for my sons but, I always sends her cash.When I go to court and my son mothers let them take child support from me. I feel like giving up all my right as his father I know they will take the money but, AI wouldn;t want any right to him any longer because his mothers had taken that away from me when she takes me to child support court.

I don't have receipts because I never thought she would do this to me. I gave her cash every time. Who do I turn to I can't afford a lawyer do fathers have right to there childrens? The same way she does me she can have him in the summer. I want him to get a good education and that means learning he's only nine and he hates school now. What going to happen to him after this court is over and I give up my rights? I feel that because I'm not with her and my son she wants to hurt me. You can't make someone love you. I love my childrens.

I want to be a fathers because mine wasn't there for me or my brothers just my mom and she did what she had to do. Wer\ ate, had a nice aprtments and good clothes and went to school with good grades she didn't have no child support nor did she force my father to help us. She use to say the bibke said man shall take care of his childrens or he would reap what he sowed. That's why I take care of my childrens I give them what they need not what they want along with love. I'm so mad now because this has interupted my live at home with my others childrens. We're a family with all my childrens. I need help?

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Dec 21, 2009
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the system need to be refurbished
by: Anonymous

i know what you mean. i have two beautiful children and my daughter 13 is getting very mouthy, just like the mother was for the whole 16 yrs we were together. i asked her to marry me thinking that would change things and now i'm glad she refused. she went to the landlord and drew up a lease with her name on it only so that she could receive section 8. i did'nt agree with her when we spoke about it and told her i had a job and it meant sacrifice and a change of lifestyle and saving to make it today, not hand outs. i got a letter from the state child services to talk to an agent. she then informed me that i was to pay child support. i explained that i live at the same residence and she did'nt investigate, she just let it slide. is'nt that a crime i thought? the state child protective services agent just wanted to get me into the system. now, she's left the house i bought for my kids to inheret and moved my children into the progects, city housing. we were not fighting, no police visits, no cheating (by me). she just felt that would do better by herself. i can understand that, but lets raise the children, i say. lets handle our priorities. the childern come first, i think thats why i was so happy i bought a home. now, she does'nt have to hide her true agenda. she explained to me she liked to party, dance and stuff... i say when you get over 40 with two children, the party is over. its now business and survival for the future of the children. i cant really understand the system these days. look at my history and look at hers. i'm a victom of the system, they need guys like me to keep the ball rolling, the agents need cases to keep their jobs and to keep the funding from the state and government. just keep the faith and keep making the lives of the children happy and memorable. one day they will grow and appreciate your efforts.

Oct 06, 2009
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We can't win
by: Larry of Tucson

I feel for you sooooooo much. My ex disappeared with my daughter for over 13 years. I love my children sooooo much but the courts systems sees us as incapible of loving like a mother. That is not the case with most fathers but we are labeled as dead beat dads. I feel for your situation but if I were you I wouldn't give up your fathers rights. It will not make any diference to the courts you will still be forced to pay and they will label you as a father who doesn't care and doesn't want anything to do with there child (dead beat dad). Then when your child gets older he will find out you gave away your fathers rights and didn't want anything to do with him or that might be the way it appears to him and you don't want that. Right now us men have very little that we can do to rectify the court systems but we must keep fighting the system, band together to have it changed, show the people of the USA that this is unfair, unjust and againt your contitutional rights for equal treatment. Don't let that women push you from your son I know it will be hard but in the long run your child will figure that most cutodial parents are driven by greed for the money not love for the child. Good Luck!!!!

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