Your ex can't be "forgiven" his arrears. There are eight major laws on the federal books. You were apparently being lied to to discourage you. His arrearages will only pile up with accompanying yearly judicial interest. Investigate Oregon's state laws on child support and your options in family law, there are plenty of them. Don't get discouraged or give up as the system wishes you to do. I've been at mine for 25+ years and the "sweet reward" that comes in the mail every week is so worth all the blood, sweat and tears. You can request a telephonic court appearance if the trip is over 100 miles I believe, I got one. All you can do is ask. You have fine looking boys there, God bless them and you!
Jul 25, 2008 Rating
You R Not Alone by: Lawanda
Kimberly,
You are not alone. I lived in Washington State and fought with Texas for years. Now I am owed over 40,000 and he keeps getting away with it. They send him to court and threaten to put him in jail for non-compliance when he returns to court,mind a say every three to four months. Then he pays the day or two before court and they slap his wrist. I live now in Texas and they keep putting off transferring the case to my area because he's over 10 hours away. Does it make sense that the money we spend to go to court to speak on our children's behalf is a waist of gas and needs to go to our children? I keep sending the Attorney general displeasing email's so we will only wait and see. Texas luch for my children is over 80.00 a month and this " loser" has a new truck, new house, and works for himself and his wife works and avoids paying taxes. I feel you and your children's pain. But I have been known for making it happen and now I am married to a wonderful man " a Preacher" and I am praying for you and myself and others and I will be doing the research to see how to change these unresponsive and irresponsible laws that help only the owing parents. Take care and remember you aren't alone.
