Munchausen by proxy

by Rodney loophole Jerkins
(Saint Louis, MO)

My Fiance and I has been together since year of 1993 and his daughter was only 2 years old. (TRUE STORY).Before that, he was with the child's mother and was only 19 years old but was working as a security guard. She was 18 so they had their first apartment which was cheap around then $275.00 a month. She got pregnant on purpose to move out her house from her mother for whatever reason. She wanted to grow up fast.

So since my who is know my fiance was working then and he didn't act like an old man; she cheated on him. He comes home from work that day tired and a naked man runs from the their bedroom to the bathroom which was the preacher from her church. You are saying what this got to do with Child Support? Well, she determine by her friends to stay with this preacher because it was suppose to be good as it can get with this man. She skips town leave her daughter with my fiance at the the age of 2 years old.

I spend time with him for a year; didn't have any children yet by him but saw how he was a good damn father. So years go by and the mother calls from the town she skipped to wanted a bus ticket back home because the preacher use all her savings on another women. I answered that call and my fiance paid for her ticket to come back. So they shared visitation with the child. The mother keep complaining that she was sick with several illness.

First liver damage, second I forgot the other one, then lupus. Well, they worked everything out with finances and visitation he got job making about 30k a year when I had his first child 1996. He still took care of his first daughter bought her clothes, medical was taken care of , paid for activity classes and got every last thing for her for every Christmas.

Until she noticed he is not leaving me and one Christmas she wasn't satisfied with him spending about $300.00 let alone this custodial mother was still living with her mother committing welfare fraud. We reported her because she wanted more money and evilly said Christmas is not all that" He should of just gave me the money!" So she can spend my fiance's money with her new boyfriend who she had a second child with.

We was only at our third apartment and she decided to file child support. We didn't believe this but she did wanted my fiance to give her money to pay for her medication for her illness. So his money was cut to half but he stayed at the job 8YEARS OR MORE. He get's laid off but found a better job making just as much. Worked there 4 years then here comes recession.

He gets laid of with this second job and gets unemployment and was only getting $80 a week and we let alone have a kid together and she is 11 years old and his oldest is 16 going on 17 years old still paying child support. So we couldn't live off of an income o $80.00 a week in unemployment. So my father got him hired with his company because my father knows a good man when he see that he is a good man. Wondering when and why we are not married. because she would get some of my money whenever I work because they would put our two incomes together.

They need to change the laws on that. He started making less than 30k year which was only $8.00 hour but he had a job. He has been trying to get a modification since 2008 from when he was laid off with unemployment. When a non-custodial parent has a drastic change they should automatically should reduce this especially since he's been paying child support (non-stop)since 1998. While this is going on the mother has been on and off again sending the daughter to hospital with unknown illness until now while she's in college. Yes the mother made sure the daughter go right to college at the age of 17 because she graduated early for high school.

So the daughter got tired of school a dropped out got pregnant her mother made her get an abortion to keep getting child support and beat her for almost doing it. She made go back to school so some how the mother and child compromise. Instead of the University she was going to for free from her mother's income of never working/EVER
because she worked her way to getting a disability check with welfare fraud. Know they make more than we do.

They compromise, the mother and daughter instead of going to University to be a doctor; the daughter decided to leave state cause she couldn't get along with her mother got and apartment with food stamps in that state while let alone my husband is still paying $700.00 a month in child support for one child and is going towards the arrears because he can't get a modification. So well, the child decided to go to school for cosmetology to learn how to stay what they call it "G"ed up to get boyfriends. (Free cosmetics and stuff threw the school with her own apartment with videos of her on you tube smoking weed. We can't afford a lawyer to stop this but she drops out of cosmetology school moves home with the mother who is not on the lease and the child has a lease in another state.

The mother makes that daughter go in out the hospital before hearing for modification cause it's coming to an end. She is doing this for her excuse for her to keep getting child support while the daughter is not in college. Now she is 19 going on 20 and is trying to get the daughter to get a disability benefits to keep getting child support forever. What should we Do?

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your congressman
by: Anonymous

I am starting a campain for reform on child support for fathers. So If you want change. We need to contact your congressman with emails , letters & etc. I have a letter I want sent and I make copies and send one each day and I email each day. So If you want change start sending your congressman each day. They want to get reelected . You have to try to change the law. Anyone willing to help change the law contact me at ppierce@gvtc.com. Men are being abused in this country by the childsupport system. Good luck.

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Munchausen by proxy
by: Anonymous

What should you do. Well first when you post. Before you send reread your post. Because mostly I could not make a lot of since out of it. Secondly. Yes you should get a very good attorney. And yes it will cost. But if you dont you are screwed. With the right attorney you can get something done. But You will have to prove all you are saying. It will be worth it in the end.
Men in this country are being abused by the system. Until the public sees that men are not responsiable for all that go's wrong, nothing will change. The system is very flawed. This is true with all states some worse than others. But your husband is looking at childsupport for the rest of his daughters life. So What ever you have to do to get a lawyer. Do it. But shop Lawyers . They are not all the same. Do your home work. Trust me.

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