by Julie Procell
(Shreveport, Louisian USA)
My story began when I divorced my ex husband about 5 years ago. We have 3 beautiful children together whom have lived with me for the past 5 years. I have fought for child support to be paid that of course is court ordered on our divorce decree through the state of Louisiana. As a single mother to be able to afford an attorney is absolutely asinine. So of course i have to go through the state for help. At first it was good. They were able garnish his wages to pay the child support and arrearage.
After he changed jobs, got married my ex husband decided other things were more important than paying child support. So this past November 2011 my ex lost his job and didnt tell me. So for the month of December I only got half of my child support. JANUARY I didnt receive anything. I called the state to find out why they are not doing anything? My case workers reply is he is in good standing because he paid off his arreage. I said he didnt pay that. The state garnished it from his checks!! They were not going to enforce a payment until he was 90 days late. My rent was due I had no way to pay that month so i took out a loan to pay Januarys rent. February comes along still no child support no food no rent. I take out another loan. March no child support no food no rent. WOULD YOU GUYS LIKE TO HEAR WHAT MY CASE WORKER FROM THE STATE OF LOUISIANA SAID TO ME? THAT I AM NOT HIS PROBLEM, SO SORRY I CANT BUY FOOD FOR MY KIDS HOPEFULLY I WILL FIND A PLACE. And how dare I demand that he help me and enforce my ex to pay the child support that he owes.
I called the DA office of child support division and an attorney of the state. I was then able to get in contact with the supervisor over my case. Well April comes along they finally get him to make a full payment. He was to pay everything he owed plus the monthly payments. As you well know this never happened. May gets here I get abt half a payment then June not even half. July i didnt even get child support. August i only about half.
In the meantime, while my ex has decided to keep not paying and the state keeps not helping I get evicted from my apartment. I do not have anywhere to go but mothers apartment. My children could not stay there so i had to take them to their fathers. So after my ex has not paid child support for almost a year he manages to get me evicted take my kids and not get arrested and be able to keep his drivers liscence after the state was supposed to have suspended it.
I was kicked out of my mothers apartment because she wanted her space. So now i am staying with good girlfriend of mine. I see the kids on the weekends. And still no child support. The state just told me he has a couple more days to go before he is in big trouble. WOW Really?
WHAT IS SO SAD IS I WENT TO THE STATE FOR HELP! THEY COULDNT EVEN HELP ME FEED MY KIDS. Apparently I make too much 100 dollars too much. So no assitance there so kids starve. No assistance for housing. AND NO HELP FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!! LOUISIANA IS THE WORST WHEN IT COMES TO HELPING SINGLE PARENTS!!! YOU LEAVE US DEFENSELESS!!! AND ON THE STREETS!! MAKES ME SICK.
AND WHO COMES OUT ON TOP? MY EX HUSBAND HE HAS MY KIDS NOT BECAUSE IT WAS COURT ORDERED BUT BECAUSE THEY HAD NO HOME WITH ME THEIR DAD TOOK IT AWAY. While he was spending the child support money on shopping sprees, a mercedes, a trip to Vegas and Florida and last but not least fertilitiy drugs. Cant pay for the three that he has so why not have another.
Where are my rights as a mother? He took everything away from me and the state did nothing to enforce payments. I lost everything.