My ex is almost 10k in arrears

by V
(New Bern, NC)

Child support has been court ordered since July of '07. He fell behind. We went back to court, and he was told to make payments of $50 extra a month in order to repay the over 5k he was behind to begin with. He did fine until he lost his job in Feb '10. I told him he needed to go get an adjustment, and he didn't do it. So instead he would make a payment here or there. He is now, as of 11/1/11 $9,842.71 in arrears. Our first court date was in August to address this, and he has had three continuances, one of them due to hurricane Irene. The thing that bothers me most is he expects me to follow my side of the court order and let him have the kids even though they don't want to go, but he isn't keeping his side. We go back to court on 11/7/11 but more than likely it will get continued once again. When do the courts finally say when and make things happen? I take off work whenever my kids are sick, or need something. I have had to take off work for this court crap just to get continuance after continuance. Being in college full time, working full time and wondering how I'm going to make ends meet is ridiculous. This added stress is really killing me. The thing that bothers me most is he had 5 cars, one of them being a bmw and the other a custom chopper, a big screen tv, and a bunch of toys. He is supporting his live in girlfriend, but can't support his kids? I'm sitting here busting my tail, working 50+ hrs a week, doing 30hrs of school work a week and taking care of my two kids while he gets to live a life I could only dream of living. When do men like this get what they deserve?

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Nov 25, 2011
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i hear you
by: Anonymous

i understand where ur coming from my ex is almost 5gs behind im working my til off and child support ofice dose nothing. my daughter has a heart defect andi have to take alot of time off work i mak less then 8 an hour thats maybe 1000 a month and barley make it i get so pisses at times i think what if the shoe was on the other foot and i was the one not paying and he had all theese expenses. but then i return to reality and thank god i have my kids and get to raise them . he gets them in the summer but if he had them ful time my kids would grow up not knowing responsability. and when kids get older they will see the truth themselves and just love u that much more cause ur the one who gave up everything so they could have more

Nov 23, 2011
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Ignorance and Honesty
by: Anonymous

To the person who states that this mom is all about money obviously has never been owed a dime in your life. When your a mother, and you want to be able to provide for your children as well as be able to say YEs when they ask for certain things and contribute to a lifestyle anyone would want to have for their children, but yet noone else in contributing , that is a slap in the face. The mother has to be the bad guy and say no , sorry we can t afford that , not this time honey, and try not to bring up the fact that if the father paid his part , the child could live without worries. The mother would be able to be home a little more with her children and people like you could sit back and not worry about a thing , since abviously you are uneductated and completely ignorant.Its not about the money. Its about the face that its take more than one person to make a child,and although it may only take one to bring comfort,stabiity, love, and trust to them.. In today's society it takes two incomes to provide for a family. What are you going to do when your boyfriend knocks you up and leaves you stranded with all these responsibilites and the "not such a big deal" 10 grand in the whole! Good Luck with that!

Nov 06, 2011
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Thank you for telling us!
by: Anonymous

Some men are like dogs. Woof! Woof! And their girlfriends are like witches.

Nov 02, 2011
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grow up
by: Anonymous

ok first of all you said "he had 5 cars". HAD...there's a big difference that has!


You can not have your children not see hm because "they don't want to" thats VERY immature. Grow up and be a parent. So when your children say they dont want to read or do homework do you allow them not to? yeah i didnt think so. He is their father and if the parenting time says he gets to see them on curtain times then thats what has to be done regardless if he is paying or not. Dont make this all about money.

10 grand isn't a lot to be behind in. My boyfriend lost his job and wasn't able to pay for a year and fell behind 21 hundred. He worked out a deal and only had to pay back 8500 in 6 months. it wasn't a big deal.

You really need to relax with the courts. thats just the way it is. try to to get your panties up in a bunch!

really...working 50 hours and going to school for 30 hours and taking care of two kids? i find that really hard t believe. and how do you know that he is supporting his live in girlfriend?

you really sound like your all about the money. i disslike people like you. i really do.

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