My Ex-Mental Case

by Jodie Jones
(Paw Paw, Michigan)

My  children and I 4 years ago.

My children and I 4 years ago.

I am a 34 year old woman with 3 Beautiful children. 10, 8, and 5. I separated from "Mental Man"6 years ago. He hit me when I was pregnant with my first child and I take responsibility for that because I stayed, and I went to jail because I hit him back and he was bleeding. I tried to get out of the house but he is good at locking me in rooms or breaking into them, every door in my house is broke. Anyway, I went to call the police, I wanted to just get out of the house, I am not a fighter I would rather walk away and calm down, but he isn't, he makes me listen to him while I am stuck in a room and he just continues and continues therefore, I break down and fight back. When I went to use the phone I dialed and it rang, Asshole pulled the phone out of the wall so of course the emergency center called back and didn't get any answer so cops were sent. I went to jail because he had the blood, even though I was defending my self 5 months pregnant.


Well, that is just a preview of before, I got pregnant with my son during our separations so it made the divorce a bit longer. Anyway, during the divorce we finally came to an agreement on all things. He signed over physical custody to me having the children every other weekend, no Wednesday things but on his weekdays he can take them to school. I lowered his child support way below the formula because he said he was going to pay 1/2 for school cloths, medical bills that the insurance didn't cover, a payments of $234 for the second mortgage that paid for our business's down payment. I gave him the business that I paid off in 3 years, free and clear. He didn't make out bad. I just wanted him away from me. I never hold the kids back from seeing him if they want to. I have a sleep disorder that I have to take medicine to stay awake and when I sleep I am totally out, things can happen to you when you sleep like that, and my ex did those things. He went over 6 months without paying his child support, saying that the business wasn't making any money.

The friend of the court never ordered a show cause, I called and called left many messages with the so called my representative, finally I wrote our Governor a 3 page email about the situation, not only the child support, he hasn't done anything that was on our divorce judgment. He was suppose to take my name off everything holding me not responsible for any taxes payments or anything. Well, he didn't and the state has taken 4 years of state tax refunds for his bills unpaid. He has stalked me, attacked me, found a way to see my phone account on the computer to see who I was talking to, and he has broke into my house and stole papers. Anyway, I finally received a call from the Governors office, I talked with them about the situation and they called the FOA and the FOA called me with a show cause date. You think that would help, nope... 6 times we went in front of the judge that is my ex's friend and old lawyer and each time the judge said, Mr. Jones you have 30 days to pay so much on the back child support and to start paying regularly, or you WILL go to jail, no doubt about it, you will go to jail, and each time we went he didn't pay and the statement by the judge was the same. The 6th time my ex had paid $60.00 and the judge said ok, well since you paid recently we can stop these proceedings, just keep paying on time Mr. Jones.

My ex, that is making $2300.00 a week and I know for sure because I have a copy of his pay check stubs, after taxes, and after all his garnishments he brings home over a 1000.00. He is crazy, he live free in a house that he mooches off his ex old best friend, he is not friends with any of his friends that he has had for 35 years, he is paranoid that I have slept with them all. So he lives free, his truck that he drives is his works truck with a gas card, so no gas money taken from his pay, no truck payment, no insurance payment, no house payment, and no phone payment because it is through his jobs.

The father of my ex's best friend owns the house that my ex is living in told him that he either had to buy it or get out. He has lived there refusing to leave for 3 years, instead of listening to this owner he moved in 2 men and they pay my ex's rent. He hasn't paid anything in the divorce, so I went and filed for a modification just asking for it to go to whatever the Michigan State formula regulates. He hasn't kept any of his agreements and judgments so why should I. He retaliated with trying to get custody. This man is crazy he treats my oldest daughter badly, most times she comes home from his house on his weekend because of how he treats her, and my son is starting to come also. My ex buys them things to bribe them to stay.

This man needs counseling and I requested the court for an evaluation and I agreed to take one my self. My ex, needs help, it has been 6 years and he still is stalking and watching and hunting me down. He called my oldest daughter to her face that she was a Fck/n Spoiled Rotten Brat, long story but you don't do that to your child. If someone said to him I saw Jodie at Wal-Mart, in his head the story ends up being Jodie was AT WALMART WITH MANY DRUG DEALING BAD GUYS AND THAT I AM CRAZY. WHAT IS SCARY HE BELIEVES HIS STORIES THAT ARE MADE BELIEVE IN HIS HEAD. I don't know how much more I can take.

I understand that sometimes the non custodial parent gets the shaft but you know what, so do the people that are on the other side. My ex told the court in a response to modification orders that why should the support me altered, he has done everything that was the judgment in the divorce, and he believes he has, even though I have all the receipts that I have paid for everything and yet he still believes otherwise. He throws it in my face that the judge is his friend. I guarantee that if someone went through my records of all the dealings with this judge and my ex and came to the court date coming up, that the judge could have charges brought due to how he goes over the laws for his personal friends. It's crazy.

Sorry it was so long, I guess I needed to vent. This man has hit me, raped me while I was sleeping, I woke up as he was doing it and I just turned my head and cried with shame and disgust. He has made my life hell, he has treated my children badly, he is selfish and only thinks about hurting me, he is pissed that he isn't in control of me and the money. I use to tell people if I ended up dead, it was him and I still believe that.

My Ex-Mental Case is friends with the "Family Court Judge" and use to be his lawyer!!

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I Understand Where Your Coming From
by: Bryna

I understand everything you have, had, and will go through! My experience was very similiar; waking up in the middle of the night, my ex-husband believes his own lies as well,etc. I obtained a restraining order when he threatened to kill our children and it helped for a while but I agree with the post entitled "run". Leave the area as quickly as you can but do it leagally. Contact an official or attorney that will give your ex-husband no information and that will not tip him off, then run. There are crisis centers all over the U.S that can and will help you!! I say, pick a state that you want to live in and then get the hell out of dodge. If you need some help with researching an area/state, let me know.
brynas@mahaska.org

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RUN
by: MELISSA

I SAY YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR KIDS AND GET A FRESH START. DON'T TELL YOUR CHILDREN ONLY TELL THE PEOPLE THAT WELL HELP YOU. PACK UP WHEN THEY ARE AT SCHOOL AND AND GO PICK THEM UP AND LEAVE. I KNOW IT SOUNDS GOOD COMING FROM ME BUT DOING IT IS MUCH HARDER. I ONCE WAS THERE WERE YOU ARE AND NOW EVERY THREE YEARS I RUN. DON'T BE LIKE ME PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN AND YOURSELF. GET OUT OF THERE HE WILL HURT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN VERY BAD.

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So Sorry
by: Disabled Mom

You have beautiful children, no one deserves to vent more than you do. Have you considered a restraining order for yourself and your children? Have you considered moving far away or going into a secret shelter? The child support system is broken and overwhelmed and has been for years. My 24 year old case in CA. happened to be in the best state. Things get done here that don't anywhere else in the country. I have a state hearing on call if I need it. You will be in my prayers, you and your children deserve far more and better. Someone CAN help you.

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