My husband's in jail!!!

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My husband's in jail!!!

by Jennifer Penn
(Killeen, Bell County, Texas)

I totally get it that he owe's child support but what is the benefit of jail time exactly? He's been unable to find employment for about a year now and nevertheless the child support doesn't stop. So last week we are taking our kids to school and low and behold 6 cops show up to pick him up....SERIOUSLY??? 6 cops are necessary? He has yet to see a judge and has been there almost 7 days. I'm being told it's because we're in a smaller county. Uhhh ok, population >200,000 is small I guess. So finally I get an answer from the child support division stating he has a hearing Thursday. Whew! But who's to say he will get out. So he'll spend 6 months jail time, again accruing child support still, I'm having to move back home to Houston because I've got two kids that need after school care that I can't afford on one income. Not to mention the distress it's causing on the kids from not seeing or talking to their dad every day. So back to my original statement...whats the purpose of jail time? To screw up the rest of a person's life???

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stupid hoes
by: bullshit

so what about these stupid girls that know the guy has a family get confronted by the wife and still mess around with these guys. they get pregnate and want child support to keep the guy. thats bullshit..but he takes care of his real family..they should go to jail too for being stupid homewreckers who think a baby is going to keep a man.

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should we expect anything less
by: jerry

this is what we do in this good ole country of ours. we throw people (especially men) in prison for being in debt to child support. Once you become a part of the child fraud system, you become an indentured servant, pay or go to jail with rapists, killers and pedophiles; that really seems to be in the best interest of the child doesn't it. " WE ALL KNOW THE GOVERNMENT CARES SO MUCH ABOUT OUR CHILDREN." so lets throw their daddies and (VERY seldom the mommies too) in prison for not paying their debt, Because lets face it everyone, things in life never come up, we never loose our jobs or get laid off, and to some of you stupid ex wives or girlfriends or even husbands: what do you get out of seeing your ex sitting in jail for not giving you money. over an eighteen year period, people are gonig to loose their jobs and things are going to happen. how pathetic, its all about the money. how do some of you even sleep at night knowing your ex is in prison because of you. what do you mindless zombies tell your child(ren). do you tell them something along theses lines? " little johnny don,t cry, i had your daddy put in jail because he got laid off from his job he's had for 15 years. even though this is the first time he's ever really been late." Who sits around and thinks that these kinds of things are productive in our society. not only is he/she not paying child support, my tax dollars are paying to keep them in jail. Instead of throwing them in the slammer for child support fraud, help the men find jobs, oh but wait one minute; we won't do that in the draconian system that crooked judges and lawyers have helped create. what some of you stupid ass people ought to do is not get our corrupted ass government involved in how to raise your god damn kids. money is the root of all evil and its sad because you fucks will never understand that, cause you are all mindless pieces of shit.

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What about deadbeat moms
by: Anonymous

All of you that say a man needs to be put into jail because he is behind on his child support are idiots. A man needs to be involved fully in his child's life. That means so much more than any money and if anyone feels differently it is because you want a paycheck because you know how to have unsafe sex. Maybe you don't like the father, or whatever but you have to work together for what is best for the child. Women don't like to admit that you use your kids for a free payday or to manipulate the fathers. There is a difference between willful contempt and inability to comply. If he is doing all he can then the system (and usually the mother behind the whole case) is in the wrong. Work with him. Enjoy the time while the child is with the father. Enjoy the time you have with the child. Obviously, there are deadbeat PARENTS out there and even jail usually won't help. Also, consider the statistics of non custodial mothers who are non compliant with their own child support. Instead of blanketing all fathers who are behind on monetary child support as "deadbeat dads" each situation should be evaluated individually. In order for society to progress these stereotypes need to be destroyed.

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Parent that quits to avoid paying child support
by: Anonymous

What about the parent that quits their job every time their check gets garnished from the AG? EVERY TIME! Then they can show they have no income. But it was willfully every time. $22K in arrears. Has made 3 mths of payments in 5 years. HOW is that fair?

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Screw the nazi child support sysytem
by: Anonymous

Well first off the courts have to prove that the noncustodial parent is able to pay support like he has a job or some other type of income before they can accuse theM of willfully not paying child support if they dont have a job or income then they can't get them for willfully not paying support, This is because they had no means to pay not because they were refusing, and if they are trying to pay their child support
then they can't really charge them for willfully not paying so the courts are actually breaking the law and once they know you know this they are likely to have a diffrent attitute about it.
The courts are not following the title 18 codes and they are actually violating the person's 14th amendment and 13th amendment if there forcing the person to seek employment so if your man is in jail and you think you can use this info you can actually have him file an appeal to get out of jail based on these laws, and since the court is breaking the law he can technically take the matter to federal court and file a civil lawsuit against the COURT who jailed him, because the court is breaking the laws and violating his civil rights if you want more info on these laws go to the Petition child support reform website look under CONTEMPT OF COURT.

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JAIL??? How does this help arrears??
by: Anonymous

My bf an I was living in Austin area where he had finally gotten a job after being without for 7 months. Even tho he didnt have a steady income for 7 months , the little jobs he could pick up was for child support, He may have not paid the full amount required by court,due to no job but he always sent in what he could. He has one child. My boyfriend was summons to court in Oct after he had been working steady for a month an was having his checks garnished tryin to play catch up,Court Day...My Boyfriend reached an agreement with child support attorneys, It was way more than he was already paying. But he did'nt want to go to jail so he agreed to this amount, Papers were signed, after recess he stood before the judge thinking it was a done deal with the agreement he ahd made with the chid support attorney's. The judge decided to throw in in jail. There goes the new job, there goes everything!! I never thought I would be homeless but it happen, he was the main provider in our home an I wasn't ready for this. I am still looking for a job, My boyfriend is half threw his 180 days, THIS IS STUPID!!!! When he gets out, we will be in the same situation!!How Does This Help Child Support?? How can a judge take your life knowing he was trying to get caught up an making every effort possible to pay what he owes, FOR THOSE OF YOU THAT DONT KNOW... JAILS ARE OVER CROWED AN NASTY.. NUECES COUNTY PUT HIM IN JAIL BECAUSE THATS WHAT THE EX WANTED AN THE LADY JUDGE HAD NO PROBLEM TAKING HIS LIFE AWAY AN GIVING HIM 180 IN A VERY OVER CROWDED JAIL!! GO FIGURE!! TEXAS LAWS ARE SO STUPID WHEN IT COMES TO CHILD SUPPORT!

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my husband's in jail
by: Anonymous

I definately understand, my husband and I paid the custodial parent 5,000.00 and she wrote us receipts, but since it was not through the department of child support it was considered a gift. So he has een in jail since August 19, 2009 and has to serve a year or come up with his arreages of 8,000.00. Its ridulous it does nothing but incur more interest and when he gets out he will be in a bigger bind, so what is the use.

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The child is the only victim
by: Anonymous

Men should be careful sleeping with women who can't afford a child! Women should be care not to sleep with broke no money having men! Be careful who you have a child with! They are not little pay checks or pawns to strike revenge when he leaves you! Yes the child needs support but you knew you and him could afford the child! Be realistic!! Be adults! Both need to be responsible!!! He was a deadbeat when you slept with him! The government gets most of the money your child doesn't get all the money he pays! I have children but take care of my own! If I couldn't I would have had thenm because it doesn't work they suffer!!! Like Micheal Jackson said plainly "If you can't feed your baby then don't have a baby!" You are selfish and sorry letting anybody get you pregnant. Most the time its seems its and outside child that should have be conceived but their here now!! So sad!!!!!!!

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absurd
by: Anonymous

It is completey absurd to put someone in jail for not paying child support! If you can't support your own children you shouldnt have had them, and dont expect the father to be the support of them. When will women realize having children is not a means of income!!!!

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get over the deadbeat dad excuse
by: Anonymous

I am a woman with a child and I am so sick of hearing women accuse their exes of being deadbeat dads and wanting them prosecuted for not paying child support. Reality check!!! A dad willing to give emotional support to a child is much more important than monetary support (if you truly have the CHILDS best interest at heart). And you are the ones that slept with him to make the babies, if he is such a deadbeat that means your judgement sucks. If you can't support a child you make then you shouldnt be expecting the other person to support it either. Maybe you shouldnt be reproducing if you cant take care of your children on your own. Give up the deadbeat dad copout and quit using your children to punish the fathers for your poor judgement in partners.

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He is obviously supporting you and your children
by: Anonymous

It sounds like your ex is at least "being a parent" although not paying or behind in child support. What I want to know is: Did you press charges or did the state just decide to enforce on your behalf?

I feel for you and your children. Not only are they being denied the monetary support but they have (at least temporarily) lost one of their father who is active in their lives.

Child "support" is not just about money, it's about being there for our children as a parent.

Can you appeal to the courts to have him released so he will at least have a chance to gain employment and continue to provide support to you and your children in other ways?

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sorry
by: Anonymous

I do feel sorry for you and your hubby- In response to the comments about how he may have deserved it - It is high time bitter women get over the 'dead beat ' dad sentiment because - its equally absurd to think all of these women are just victims of mens desire - Fact is those women should bear as much responsibility of opening there legs TO A DEADBEAT - Women want to be able to claim vulnerability,stupidity etc when its convenient and thats exactly what our system allows them to do - the sad part as in your case it affects 'innocent' women as well because your man is being drug thru the ringer while some other women gets to claim naivety as a reason for having multiple kids with a so called deadbeat- As a person headed for divorce i can tell you it aint the kids I dont want to have anything to do with its the wife and these damned courts make it impossible for common sense to prevail its always about following the mandate whether it makes sense or not- contacting legislators is pointless because thats how they win votes-

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He probably deserves it!
by: Kristy in Winchester, Ky.

As a parent of a 16 year old son who's father owes me over 75000.00 in back support, I am all for capitol punishment for these deadbeats!. I have had to take time out of my life and go to court, only for him to serve 6 mos and then get out! I am an RN who busts my but to care for my son, why should he not! Your husband may be a good dad to your children, but his other children are obviously not priority, get 2 jobs or cut back, renegotiate amount based on unemployment, but he messed up, he did not care for his children so he's now paying the price! How would you feel without any support for your children? it is a 2way street! Too bad he decided to be a deadbeat, now all his children are suffering!

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Contacting Legistaters not enough
by: Anonymous

Most of the time contacting Your Local Representatives does nothing , the first thing they will do is ask you to sign a release so they can contact support enforcement and when they contact you back they say they can do nothing for you . First of this is a fight against both state Government and federal , to turn some of these laws around . I would like to seek a attorney that can help to get a petition passed to remove or repeal these laws , and Get many parents that have been mistreated by the support system , I live in Wa State and it seems support enforcement is its own entity not watched by anyone and they abuse the current laws to meet there need ,1st off support enforcement should not be a part of Dcs system , and Jailing and taking Licensing should only be done if all other collection procedures have been used , I personally have had my drivers license suspended by child support and recently found out this stays on your driving record for over 10 years . I was a commercial truck driver when my support was ordered originally yet with a suspen on my record i will never get to drive professionally again , and im still expected to pay the same amount i made when i was driving ,

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Jail Fail
by: Anonymous

Some proponents of the system will try to say that jail is a motivator, but let's look at how much damage it actually does to the individual:

-Employment: The individual will automatically be disqualified for many positions of employment, especially the better paying ones as they check for such things as imprisonment (regardless of the reasons or circumstances). If the individual can get a job, it will not be without a significant amount of scrutiny and of course the standard social stigma attached to "child support" proceedings.

-Rights: Usually, when you are imprisoned, many of your rights are permanently lost, such as owning a firearm.

-Support Due: The support due increases (in many cases with interest) while the individual is in jail. And then the individual still has to scramble to find a job (see "Employment" for why that may be difficult) to meet the arrearage.

Fact is, the child support system as it stands is seriously flawed and benefits only the State (who are its chief enforcers and beneficiaries). The only way to fix this system is not to fight the courts, but to get to your legislators. If there is a large enough movement, they may actually listen and take a good hard look at what can and should be changed. I wish you and your husband luck in these hard times.

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Glad he is there
by: Anonymous

Yup...he really deserves this. He's a deadbeat! all in all its not fair what these kids have to go through. don't be mad at the system, be mad at your husband for not doing the right thing, which is paying for his other kids. now all the kids have to suffer. and yup....the childsupport isnt put on hold. he knew he was supposed to pay for these kids, and he your husband, choose not to, and now he is paying the price, his kids are paying the price, and you are paying the price. he's a dead beat!

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