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by Emily
(Washington)

My husband is Currently serving our country in the army about 3 years ago a girl he was sleeping with called him and told him that she was 7 weeks pregnant which was funny to him because he had only been sleeping with her for 5 weeks then she proceeded to tell him that it was possible that someone else was the father as well. That was the last he heard from her. He deployed to Iraq for 15 months and when he came home 2 months later he got papers saying he owed child support for a 15-month-old son. He never knew this child existed in fact he didn’t know the child was his until he requested a dna test. On April 17th he found out that he was indeed the father On April 30th he got mail saying that if he did not pay $8,456 by May 30th that the back owed child support was going to be referred to a collection agency My husband was giving a month to pay over $8000 very unfair... on top of that they calculated that the amount he owes in child support is based on his pay he received while he was in Iraq serving out country not knowing he had a child. When you are deployed your pay goes up and you do not get taxes taken out of your check so the amount they calculated is incorrect because he pays child support like he is still deployed and it is not accurate I don’t know what to do to help my husband fight the amount he owes and the amount he pays we are awaiting the arrival of our first child together and i want to make sure that this child is taken care of.

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Dec 23, 2008
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he has rights, call the AG office
by: Anonymous

Actually once the new baby is born, he can march right up to the AG office and request to have payment reduced, due to the new child, that is his right... they will reopen the case and review current wages and adjust accordingly. That will save you the cost of an attorney, but it will have to wait until your baby is born.

Oct 29, 2008
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Military Husband
by: David

There's an old saying men hate; "It's the screw we get, for the screw we got". All I can tell you is to request a modification to the order and show the judge a copy of his LES. The fact of the matter is that his pay increase was temporary based on his deployment. Charts that reflect pay based on rank and years of service should be considered as the norm. You will also need to show his housing and rations allowance. If you live in base housing and don't get the allowance, they will probably consider free housing as income based on fair market pricing. Regardless what state agency you deal with, most will not agree to a decrease because they receive federal funding based on money collected. It's a loss to them to reduce such amounts. So, you may need to get an attorney or simply file a case through the court against the state agency. It may be more money than you're willing to pay up front, but might save you several dollars down the road. Hell, you might even claimed that the woman entrapped him to secure financial support. Or, maybe he could fight for custody by showing she was an unfit mother. If you can show she has a promiscuous pattern of behavior, then that could be considered grounds to claim she is unfit to care for their child. Lastly, if this situation occurred while they both of you were married to each other---------GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOW! Let him deal with the situation on his own. It's not fair to you.

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Oct 29, 2008
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There's an old saying men hate; "It's the screw we get, for the screw we got". All I can tell you is to request a modification to the order and show the judge a copy of his LES. The fact of the matter is that his pay increase was temporary based on his deployment. Charts that reflect pay based on rank and years of service should be considered as the norm. You will also need to show his housing and rations allowance. If you live in base housing and don't get the allowance, they will probably consider free housing as income based on fair market pricing. Regardless what state agency you deal with, most will not agree to a decrease because they receive federal funding based on money collected. It's a loss to them to reduce such amounts. So, you may need to get an attorney or simply file a case through the court against the state agency. It may be more money than you're willing to pay up front, but might save you several dollars down the road. Hell, you might even claimed that the woman entrapped him to secure financial support. Or, maybe he could fight for custody by showing she was an unfit mother. If you can show she has a promiscuous pattern of behavior, then that could be considered grounds to claim she is unfit to care for their child. Lastly, if this situation occurred while they both of you were married to each other---------GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOW! Let him deal with the situation on his own. It's not fair to you.

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