My Millionaire ex demanding money from me!

by Troy Howell
(Gilbert, AZ)

I am worried about the same thing. I am expected to pay $500 every month to my ex when I only make about $2000 at the most then my ex who makes more than twice the amount I do every month from trust funds and no job, her and her family are millionaires! I have fallen behind a few months but I pay as much as I can and I have my daughter for 2 days every week but I'm sure because of their wealth They can hire any attorney to hide her fortune. This same woman who has millions in education trusts and applies for FAFSA so she gets extra money that is intended for the poor to go to college! These laws need to be changed! It's time for all of us good fathers to raise hell! My daughter is on state funded health insurance because of my low income. If I came from fortunes I would be ashamed to know that. The problem is that these rich people can make justice a luxury that the rest of us can only dream about. Really if you think about it attorneys are expensive and that money could be used for the child, we are talking $2,000 to $10,000 per hearing! Very soon I will have to go to court again without an attorney to protect me from them.

I have no assets and no savings so maybe I can just give them a kidney and I can stop their attacks for a while. I never gave any thought to child support fraud but now I do! I understand that there are real cases of women that work hard and should be receiving some help, but I know I'm not the only father that has had to deal with this same thing. I understand that my situation is ass backwards but I know that there are other people who love their child more than life and are feeling the same hopelessness.

But on another note I spoke with a 19-year-old female the other day and she explained to me that she has great resentment for her mother because she found out about her father being financially crippled because of excessive financial demands by her mother. This girl explained that her mother squandered any money she received from her father and she never saw a dime. So, I guess the bright side of this is that maybe not now but when your child is older you will have a bond that no money or lies can tear apart. I know there are fathers out there like me. Please don't loose faith in who you are because you did nothing wrong except for wanting to be a part of you child’s life.

My family has received threats 2 years ago that if we ever tell the full truth in court that our lives will be made a living hell so, for now we must remain silent because they have the money and power to make threats a reality. I hope and pray that fathers some day have the same rights as the wealthy. But until then just be strong and keep your child in your heart. Times have changed and it's not the same as the 1950's Fathers are taking a more active role in their children’s lives and deserve the same respect as parents. I will never forget the evenings rocking my daughter till 3am and getting up for work the next day while the mother laid in bed with earplugs in. However I bonded with my daughter during that time my voice and heartbeat would calm her when she had colic.

Well I hope someone reads this and takes it to heart.

TH.


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crazy ex
by: Troy Howell

We have to ask ourselves what is "child support" In theory the system could work, however the system has been used to strong arm men into paying what they don't have. Caring for a child has nothing to do with paying for a women to go to a spa or pay country club dues. The child support system against all other financial institutions has no accountability. Where does the money go??? No one knows. And not to say this has anything to do with my daughters "mother", but what if the mom uses your money for drugs, on-line prostitution or other shit that spoiled trust fund women do??

Here's what happens, women who are wealthy and have no boundries, get bored! Big suprise!.. They have the time to waste court's time. DO NOT BE FOOLED! These little rasacals know just what they are doing. Using mob tactics to extort money is there game.

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i love my step kids
by: Anonymous

Well, I'm a step mom and I love my step child. Just because a biological mom is getting a ton of child support, doesn't mean she's a good mom. My step kids are left alone all of the time at their mothers house and they're all rilled up when they get to my house. my husband is broke supporting the natural mom. The system is messed up. Oh...i forgot to mention that she's another bipolar mom who doesn't want to work because she gets so much from my husband that she doesn't want to jeopardize it. So i work to support eveyrone, because my husband is too broke supporting her. Don't worry. She'll get what she deserves someday though.

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I feel for all of you!
by: Anonymous

I sympathize with all of you. I have a 22 month old daughter who gets squat from her dada. He is also supposed to pay $40 a week, and hasn't been consitant with that! Yet he has bought a house, and car, and is now renting two of the rooms in the house! this makes me so sick to my stomach!

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This is sad!!!
by: Anonymous

I can relate to this situation!!!! I am divorced from a man who refuses to pay $40 dollars a week in support, yes is said $40 dollars. He provides no health insurance for our four year old daughter, he does nothing!!!!!!!! I am now remarried to a man who pays $631 bi weekly to his ex, provides medical insurance, has payed for braces, glasses, car payments, and the list goes on. Due to his ex moving 600 miles away with his children he only gets to see them three times a year. This year we filed a joint tax return, and he just wrote her a check for $3000!!!!!!!!! She gets EVERYTHING AND STILL WANTS MORE. These laws need to be changed. It's pretty sad that dead beat dads stay ahead and good fathers get kicked down.

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TO MRS. I UNDERSTAND
by: Anonymous

I don't believe U do understand. You say your husband wont work because its taken away by Ms. Stingy(I guess you mean the mother of his kid(s)Remember Child Support is for a better life for Kids. Both Parents are responsible for their Kids. Now if a parent does not or cant pay child support, maybe its time that parent should help physically? You know: Filling up the gas tank and taking them to school, picking them up, taking them to activities, taking care of them when they are sick, taking care of them when there is no school, taking them to the doctor/dentist, taking them to birthday parties,movies,and church. Also cleaning,washing clothe, shopping for clothe and food. Oh also helping with their homework, tutoring, and any projects. Dont forget setting good habits like making sure they wake up for school, go to sleep on time, making sure to spend time together at breakfast and dinner. Oh Yeah! also cook those meals. Look don't try helping anyone get out of Child Support its not the KIDS fault. Help your husband help his children in other ways. Doesn't have to be only Monetary. What Ashame Your Comment!!! REMEMBER KIDS COME FIRST!!!

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I understand!!!
by: Anonymous

I'm a mother of four with a husband that can't get a good job because they take every penny from him. For a girl that is stingy. He never knew the child and the mother only cares about herself and she told me that herself. If there ever was a union started by non custodial parents to fight the system i would be right behind to help. But the only way for a person to stop one; is to stop many! Everyone who despises the exs and child support, needs to stand together to fight the injustice. All i can say is money can't win for all! Email me and we can chat more. I know how to beat the system!! starred192003@yahoo.com

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