NEED OF CHANGE

by Gregory
(Texas)

Too much power

I understand that there are men who are not acting responsibly and not paying or even trying to pay child support, nor are they being a father to their children. But what about us men and fathers who do the absolute best we can? Should we be penalized just as those who aren't? I think that our justice system here is too much in the favor of a woman, has too much control and is not seeking out TRUE justice. I know that I am not the only father out there in this economy, struggling to get a job, income and take care of his responsibilities. I had a small business and can't collect unemployment or any other financial aid. I am having a hard time getting a job because I did my own business for the last 5-6 years, and because I have not been able to make any child support payments I can go to jail and for a few years? Folks, this just is not fair, I do not feel that men like me have committed any crime whatsoever. I would like others, men and women alike who want a true justice system in this country to start a petition to law makes in this country to take this kind of action out of the hands of a child support office, out of control of a judge and jailers.

Along with that the mother has continually denied the father the right to have his kids visit out of state, has talked in a negative fashion to the children causing great distance between the father and the children. The father has tried on several occasions to have the child support and parenting plan modified through arbitration as outlined in previous decree, but the mother refuses to accept or return calls from the Pierce County Dispute Resolution Center to schedule a date and time to resolve these issues. The father has filed these modifications with the Pierce County Superior Court, only to have the mother refuse to attend the mandated parenting class prior to the case being heard. In fact the mother has done everything she could from the time of separation from the father to interrupt the close relationship the father has with his children. The father meanwhile has tried to communicate and work agreements with the mother on parenting and all issues regarding the children and to be a proper father, but the mother just refuses to cooperate in any form whatsoever with the father.

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Start the petition
by: Sharmene

I am a woman of a man who has been recently locked up for the inability to pay all of his back child support even though he has tried with the various odd jobs that he has had. He loves his daughter and makes efforts to see her as well as pay his mandated child support. The system is so backwards. He had a good job and they threw him in jail so now he doesn't have the job that he needs to pay the child support. Meanwhile he is still racking up more back child support sitting in jail....what the heck?! This is is first time in jail ever and he isn't doing so well but this freaking state thinks that they are teaching him a lesson....so not fair!!!

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Exactly. It takes two parents, not three
by: Rany Righteous

I think it's pathetic that women get re-married and still collect child support from previous relationships or non-relationships. If you start a new family unit, have some integrity. That kid has a new father and that father has a new financial responsibility. And in too many cases, men get strapped with child support after consensual sex, no relationship, no marriage. These women weaken society on the whole in my opinion.

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Time for Law Changes in the Child Support System
by: Anonymous

I am a woman and a mother of 2 children. I believe that the child support laws are in favor of the custodial parents. I do understand that there are dead beats out there but there are also responsible parents who comply with their child support orders and visitation. It takes 2 to make a child and 2 to support and raise a child. I believe that child support laws in the state of TX should be more like those of New Mexico where the child support is base on both parents income not just the non-custodial parents. Both should be responsible. I also believe that if a parent has never been behind on child support and comply with the court orders for child support payments and visitation, they should be allowed to claim the child and/or children on their income tax. Also, if the non-custodial parent has fallen behind on child support do to loss of job, there should be breaks for them as well. I want to set up a website where all who are in favor of changing the child support laws in the State of Texas can log onto and state their complaints, opinions, ideas for new laws. With this, I would like to present to the State of Texas, the President if needed and anyone else who needs to be involved to be able to change the Law.

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My child has fallen thru the system's cracks
by: Anonymous

My child and I both live in Washington State. The father did too, until 7 years ago he moved to New York state.

I went and re-opened my child support case today here in Washington...the state the child and I have always resided in.

I explained my situation that the father has never given me a dime, and last time the support case was open for 2 years and the father never received the Order of Child Support because DCS (Division of Child Support) would only send the docs via Certified Mail .... and he's way smarter than that.

The front counter guy at DCS was intrigued at this point, and looked up my child support case on their computer. He confirmed they tried serving the father via Certified Mail, but it went unclaimed (NO SURPRISE TO ME)

He also said DCS tried to put a trace on the PO Box to get a physical address attached to it and there was none.

Isn't there some Homeland Security law where you have to have a physical address to rent a PO Box?????

I know the father is on the grid somewhere. He has a valid NY driver license, and has even had a DUI in New York, and of course multiple tickets, etc....

Anyway, the guy at the child support office said Washington State does not have long arm jurisdiction and all I can do is re-open the case, and wait for New York to decide what to do.

Is this true?

The original support order established a backsupport award of $75 and a monthly amount of $25, but it doesn't go into effect unless he is served the documents. Unfortunately, DCS believes he has been supporting me this whole time, hence the meager $75 backsupport award for all these years.

I sent the father a text message today saying I was re-opening for child support, and he responded that had I ever asked he would have helped.

Child Support won't accept that as evidence he has never paid me a dime, so the $25 per month and the backsupport award of $75 will most likely be what I am awarded.....IF they EVER serve him.

I am so angry, sad, confused. I just want him to be responsible.

How can I get his physical address when he has nothing in his name?

Thanks for reading this.

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GO PETITION GO PETITION
by: Anonymous

I agree! I am trying to figure out how to start a petition for a review on child support laws, they are definitely one sided and it's usually in the mothers favor. I would like to help the parents that try.

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You are so right men are being abused
by: Anonymous

Yes you are so right about, we need this child support system overhauled to be fair. Men are being abused in this country. GET the petition going I will sign it. good luck

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I'm sorry you're going through this
by: Anonymous

You're right it sucks. All they do is listen to the mother which is ridiculous. They should look at both sides and the responsibilities that both parties have and make a decision based off of that. My husband is in the military and we have 2 kids. He also has a daughter he had before we were married. She gets more than half of his base pay every month so all we have to live off of are allowances. Which isn't much since all of our housing allowance goes to housing. Now they say he owes a bunch of back pay so he isn't allowed to get a passport and they might take his license away. When he's not over seas he isn't even allowed to see his daughter because her mom is a nut. There should be something that we can do but of course they don't care about how it effects us.

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I am a woman and completely agree with those fathers outhere that are being strip by the system
by: MEVRAW

I am astonished to see how easy is for a woman go to the child support office and claim about money that were not paid and duly sworn to the court even though she was aware of they payments made for her daughter but she was ready to put all the power of the law on her ex-husband that no matter how terrible is the economy right now was doing her best and making the payments... so how it comes that the justice believe this people JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE WOMEN AND GO CRYING?? WHAT ABOUT REAL JUSTICE were men and women are equal?? I am planning to open a group of parents -- fathers that struggle with those issues in order to guide them about what they could do.. any help in welcome... contact to alegriatoapanta@hotmail.com

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not alone
by: Anonymous

I'll sign it been there done that n going thru it

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