Never had a chance
(Columbus, OH, U.S.)
I first started having children at age 17. My firstborn was a boy, so I had a son. Me and my baby mama didn't even wait the whole 6 weeks to start having sex and she wound up getting pregnant, with my first little girl. It was an accidental pregnancy, but we dealt with it. Right after that we broke up for about a year. I was very immature at the time and I didn't take care of my responsibilities.
Right around that time I had a nervous breakdown and I moved 40 miles away to go live with my sister to try and start my life over. My sister took it upon herself to call up my baby's mother and got her to come over to her 1 bedroom apartment where I was trying to recuperate, and so she came and one thing lead to another and she got pregnant again.
The thing is I was trying to stay away from her and everyone else and she hunted me down just to wind up pregnant again. I wanted her to get an abortion, but she claimed that she didn't believe in abortions, so here came baby number 3 which was still not too much a big deal. We wound up breaking up again, and that's when the state forced her to put me on child support.
I was delinquent on child support payments and had a court date that I wound up missing, I eventually went to court around the time we had got back together, and the court temporarily dismissed the contempt and order of
child support. Well once again she wound up pregnant a fourth time, with twin girls, which does not run in my family, so I doubt the paternity for that fact and for the fact that they don't look like me at all. My point is is that the first two kids is all me, but the last 3 I would have aborted with no issue at all, but I'm being forced to deal with because as a man I have no rights or say so about anything.
Before you try to judge me, during the 3rd pregnancy my baby moms claimed she was on some type of birth control, so she blatantly lied about that. And the 4th pregnancy the twins were being put up for adoption because her and I both knew we couldn't take care of 5 children financially or emotionally and at the last minute she backed out of the adoption procedure (the twins were already placed with foster parents, and the agency had found them a good decent home which the new parents had agreed to keep us posted on the girls development and even agreed visitation on occasion) because some slick church members and preacher claimed they were going to help us, which they never did, thats a whole story in itself.
I need feedback on this situation, please tell me what you think. I love my kids and they love me, I just had too many at too young. P.S. I had 2 more girls with another woman, and have 1 more girl on the way with the woman I'm with now.