NO GOOD DAD
by Tiana Minks
I'm 20 years old with a 2 1/2 year old son by a guy I would never wish on my worst enemy. He believes he has all the rights in this world to his son. Thing is, he was ordered to pay child support 6 months ago. He has missed 5 out of 6 payments so far. I was 16 when I ended up pregnant and 4 months from being 18 when I had him on July, 12 2008. I then moved to Texas with the father, from Arizona, to start a life with him and my son. All he did was go to the bar every night and not come home until 4 every morning. Every wall in my house had holes in them as he was a very violent drunk as well. He wouldnt keep food in the house for either me or his son. I caught him cheating numerous times on me and I finally had enough of his lack of care for his own blood. While he was at work I packed my things and found my way back to Arizona. Now I am considered the biggest B**** to his whole family and everyone that knows him all because I wanted better for my son than to have to grow up in a house like that. I dont personally consider myself wrong for what I did, as it was in the interest for my son. Who wants to live like that? Not anyone I know. Anyways, the reason why I'm writing is because now the father of my son mother is fighting me for custody of my son. As the father is fighting me as well saying I'm not letting him see his son and he has the right. I don't feel he has any right to see his son since he isn't paying his child support and anytime he comes to see his son he is drunk and shows up with a case of beer also and pays no attention to his son what-so-ever. I'm a single mom and I now live with my dad and younger sister. I can't find a job out here. My son is very well taken care of by my dad. I just want a better life for him than what I am giving him. Im honestly scared the father's side of the family is going to get custody over my son since they have a lot of money, and I dont have near as much. I seriously dont know what to do, or if he does have a chance in this world to get custody. I need some help with this as I don't know all the laws. Losing my son would be the worst thing to ever happen to me. Does anyone think he has a chance with his past?