NO GOOD DAD

by Tiana Minks
(Az)

I'm 20 years old with a 2 1/2 year old son by a guy I would never wish on my worst enemy. He believes he has all the rights in this world to his son. Thing is, he was ordered to pay child support 6 months ago. He has missed 5 out of 6 payments so far. I was 16 when I ended up pregnant and 4 months from being 18 when I had him on July, 12 2008. I then moved to Texas with the father, from Arizona, to start a life with him and my son. All he did was go to the bar every night and not come home until 4 every morning. Every wall in my house had holes in them as he was a very violent drunk as well. He wouldnt keep food in the house for either me or his son. I caught him cheating numerous times on me and I finally had enough of his lack of care for his own blood. While he was at work I packed my things and found my way back to Arizona. Now I am considered the biggest B**** to his whole family and everyone that knows him all because I wanted better for my son than to have to grow up in a house like that. I dont personally consider myself wrong for what I did, as it was in the interest for my son. Who wants to live like that? Not anyone I know. Anyways, the reason why I'm writing is because now the father of my son mother is fighting me for custody of my son. As the father is fighting me as well saying I'm not letting him see his son and he has the right. I don't feel he has any right to see his son since he isn't paying his child support and anytime he comes to see his son he is drunk and shows up with a case of beer also and pays no attention to his son what-so-ever. I'm a single mom and I now live with my dad and younger sister. I can't find a job out here. My son is very well taken care of by my dad. I just want a better life for him than what I am giving him. Im honestly scared the father's side of the family is going to get custody over my son since they have a lot of money, and I dont have near as much. I seriously dont know what to do, or if he does have a chance in this world to get custody. I need some help with this as I don't know all the laws. Losing my son would be the worst thing to ever happen to me. Does anyone think he has a chance with his past?

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Apr 18, 2012
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SAME SITUATION HERE IN TX
by: Anonymous

IM IN THE SAME SITUATION EXCEPT HE DON'T DRINK BUT USES DRUGS AND IN AND OUT OF JAIL.... HIS PARENTS ARE ABLE TO GET HIM THE BEST LAWYER IN TOWN AND EAT LUNCH WITH SEVERAL OF JUDGES AND HIGHER CLASS PEOPLE... THEY ALL ARE OLD HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLEGE FRIENDS... IM FROM A SMALL TOWN AND DNT KNOW ALOT OF PEOPLE HERE...
I STARTED A DATED NOTEBOOK AND HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH EVIDENCE BUT I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN... HE HAS AVOIDED 4 CONTROLLED SUBSTANCE FELONIES OVER THE PAST 3 YRS AND SPENT 180 DAYS OVERALL IN JAIL NOT TO MENTION HE WAS ON FELONY PAROLE AT THE TIME FOR TRYING TO SELL DRUGS TO HIS FRIEND IN PRISION OUT OF TOWN.
OUR DAUGHTER IS 7 AND HE WAS IN PRISON FOR THE FIRST 4 YEARS OF HER LIFE... IF HE CAN GET OFF ON THAT THEN WHAT CAN I EXPECT TO HAPPEN WHEN HE USES HIS RESOURCES ON ME. HE IS VERY CHARMING AND YOU WOULD NEVER THINK HE WAS THE WAY HE IS. I WAS FOOLED UNTIL THE DAY HE DIDNT COME HOME AND WOULDNT FOR 4 YEARS I NEVER KNEW HIS ALTERNATIVE LIFE STYLE... AND WAS EMBARRASSED AND FRIGHTENED THAT HIS ACTION WOULD ON REFLECT ME....
I DON'T KNOW BUT IM SCARED... IM TRYING TO WAIT AS LONG AS I CAN BUT HAVE A FEELING THAT THE FUTURE IS NEAR DUE TO HIS GIRLFRIEND AND HER DAUGHTER....


ANYBODY KNOW WHAT I NEED TO DO TOO.... OR HAVE A SIMILAR SITUATION...

Sep 01, 2011
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SNOW
by: Anonymous

Is like that saying, The Gov puts an innocent person in Jail or in Prison for a Crime that they NEVER had done nor DID, Just to see the OUTCOME of that Person?

Now we all know, Is NOT a good OUTCOME....etc

So, that's what the GOV is doing to US right now .... MEN'S, WOMEN'S ..... to all OF US !!!

Their USING and DOING the same thang/Experiment/Snow Balling Samplimg on us ......The Same Way.....LIKE


We're CRIMINALS!

THE MAIN FOCUS IS ON THE .. Direct Attorney ......Hell with the Jugde.

Apr 02, 2011
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REPLY TO A NO GOOD DAD
by: shelia

Hopefully not. Hopefully the judge will see that the in the best intrest of the child he belongs with his mother. I hate that some just do things pout of spite just to get back @ the mom because 9 times out of 10 they have no intrest in the child watsoever. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Mar 22, 2011
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Use you head
by: Anonymous

If everytime he visit he is drunk, then make sure you write all occasions down. If possible record the visit. Take him to court request supervised visitation if you want your son to see him. If the father shows up drunk believe the court will step in.

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