No Justice in Rogers County

by Sizemore

I have always paid my child support ahead of when it is due. Our divorce was signed on 2/6/05. She remarried in another state on 2/10/05. Her year long affair was the reason for the divorce. Knowing I was experiencing burn out as a special education teacher and would eventually not be able to teach any longer, I paid child support in advance. In our divorce we had equal custody of the kids until the marrital house sold. Then she had custody. It wasn't the way it was agreed, but I was an idiot and beleived our agreement would be honored when she went to court with the agreement.

I paid 1/2 of the house mortgage, electric, and water bills until the house sold in June 06. But, due to my knowing I would experience a significant change in income, I agreed to direct deposit into her account all but $500 of my payroll. Any overage above the 1/2 of the bills relating to the home were to be applied to child support and my percentage of medical bills for the kids. However, for three years she has refused to provide an accounting. She has even stated that she refuses to do so because "it wasn't fair" that I made more money than her so she should be able to just keep all the money and none be applied to the child support or medical. The truth is that she did not include all of her income in this "do it yourself" divorce she talked me into. She lied. Now, she has spent the last three years practicing severe parental alienation. For the most part she has gotten away with it in spite of the testimony of the experts. For my expense and prooving my case, I was awarded "shared parenting" the only change to child support was supposed to be to allow me the shared parenting credit. What a crock! This judge didn't even read the file to see that he awarded shared custody, placing the child in a school he had never attended 70 miles (one-way) from my home. We travel 3000 miles a month for school (4 hours a day every other week). Also, I'm told now by the lawyers that even thought the child support was $550 per month for two children, (an agreed deviation) it is now going to go to nearly $700 for one child. What is going on with the system? The one who prevailed in court, proving the child would be better off not spending all his time with an abusive mother, is not being treated as a winner huh?