Non Custodial Dad vs Massachusetts

My story began with the typical false allegation and restaining order. She used it to get the kids away from me after I found out she was cheating on us(from my 9 year old) and I do mean US because if the behavior affects the household dynamic, it affect the kids too, no matter what the courts say in their "expert" statments which have overwheming documentation that contradicts them and then moved them in with her lover. Of course I was found innocent, but not before the kids were gone and I had no recourse. That was 4 years ago. Since, I have been taken to court 3 times for increases in child support. 3 times it has increased due to her decrease in income. Folks, I make a lot of money and my kids are on state assistance, free shool lunch and all. Recently, I was taken to court again on another false charge of abuse, which was dropped after the support was raised and I was made to pay 10 months of arrears.

I had interest and penalties charged to me by the department of revenue before I even got the orders. I haven't seen my kids in a month. I used to see them all the time until the judge decided that every other weekend was enough and that mid week visits "are too confusing to children".

Well, the real result is that I have a great new girl, we have been together for over 2 years now and she has a daughter. I moved back to my native RI (best thing I ever did). We got a house together last year. Everyday, I look at the great life that her daughter has.

I am happy to be a part of all of it, but what about my kids? They never get to have the same life that my to be step daughter does. It is all for one reason. The Massachusetts family court just doesn't do it's job or care to even try. If you are male, you are all done from the start. In retrospect, just do your best, don't listen to the taunting, and stay away from the courts. Eventually, the support will end. Then you just live for the second half. I just hope I don't loose my kids along the way.