Non-custodial parent

by Derrek
(Northglenn Co.)

Kaydee and Nevaeh (the baby isnt in this one)

Kaydee and Nevaeh (the baby isnt in this one)

I had my daughter when I was in high school with my girlfriend at the time. I worked 3 diffrent jobs and took night school classes to graduate early. I have always been there for my daughter Kaydee and I love her very much. Her mother on the other hand is one big ball of fun (NOT). Ive been paying child support ever sence I was eighteen, Iam twenty two now. I got married and had another little girl. Kaydee's mother stopped the child support ( they stopped garnishing my wadges) and for about a year I didnt pay child support. My wife and I still had Kaydee for a little over half of the time. I worked construction and was trying the best I could but was laid off.


I ended up signing up for the army and when I was in basic training Kaydee's mother turned the child support back on without me knowing. When I returned home Kaydee's mother wouldnt let me see her for the few weeks of leave I had. I was then deployed. I took leave again came home and was excited to see my kids and wife but yet again Kaydee's mother wouldnt let me see her. It brakes my heart to not see Kaydee. I still pay child support and it basically takes all of my base pay so Iam left with little in my pocket. My wife recently recieved a letter stating that I owe thousands of dollars in back child support for the one year she dropped it.

I feel screwed! Iam supporting my wife and two daughters also paying childsupport for Kaydee. I need help and dont know where to turn to. Iam at a dead end and time is ticking. Ive always tried my best and my hands are tied now. Its hard to provide and do your job as a father if child support support takes all your money. My two daughters and wife are suffering because child support takes what I make, yet her mother wont let me see Kaydee. Iam upset and need help, so please some one help me because this isnt right.

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NOT alone
by: Anonymous

Kinda difficult if in army but have wife look into group on internet or at self help center at family court house for groups (parenting classes something) they can help you file paper work and fight the system because their on your side and are cheaper than lawyers and if you find the right one can help find you cheaper attorney and go over your rights you do have some and you need to learn what they are you pay support you have a right to see your children modification request again and again until the court understands your not going away and show true concern for your children and in time may take a few years you will be atleast able to see your children again dont give up it's a long hard road but can be done, you can file for modifications as many times as you want and you don't need a lawyer to file the paperwork but will need help from groups that have your best interest at heart good luck

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child support is different from child visitations
by: Anonymous

Dear "Non-custodial parent,
I hear your pain and frustration, you are not alone there are many parents that are treated like you are, I will tell you from what I have read on the Child Support Laws, you must know that Child Support is different that child visitations, you have a right to see your child until the courts state you do not have visitation right. If you have visitations to see you daughter and the mother is refusing to allow the visits to take place she is the one that is actually in violation of your parental rights. I would advise that if you do not have a court order in place stating your visitation rights though to get one done. Even if you are paying child support you still have visitation rights.

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