Not a father, a concerned ex

Long story short my ex and I have 2 kids (2 and 10). He is very involved (kids stay with him during the school year to attend a better school) and he pays for 1/2 the cost of daycare in lieu of child support which we both agree upon.

A female we both know (who has 2 young kids) has always wanted what I had (my lifestyle and my man). Well, she got her wish one night and now has a 5 month old by my ex. He wanted nothing to do with her, and signed over all of his rights. She owns two successful businesses and makes double, maybe triple, what we make combined (she also gets $1,700 a month for her other 2). She has always told him that she does not want child support because she does not need it.

I ran into her at the grocery store two weeks ago (I was picking up birthday supplies for my daughter) and she apologized to me for being after my ex when I was with him. I told her that it's called karma and she'll get hers. I also told her that all she ever was to him was an easy fuck and that she will never have him. Well, I guess this set her off because she has been texting my ex relentlessly and gave him an ultimatum: either be with me or you'll pay through the nose (she wants $2,200 a month - I get $500 for 2 kids!). I told him he should just go be with her and make it work out, but he think she is crazy. She apparently said that he could stay home and be the "manny" and she would bring home the bacon. I told him to just send her $500 a month and leave it at that. He has been and she will not cash the checks because she claims that he makes more money than he does and that she is owed more. I have done his tax returns for 12 years, I know how much he makes and it is not even close to what she is claiming.

She is now starting to follow me and keep tabs on my whereabouts...what a nut job! My ex's attorney sent her attorney a letter asking her to stop bothering both of us, so I guess we will see. I suppose it makes her nuts that my ex and I can get along and not fight and work through our disagreements for the kids.

In all of this rambling, I want to say sorry to all of the fathers out there who deal with wackos and have to work like dogs to pay the support. Here is a novel idea...alimony is tax deductible, why isn't child support?