Not Helping At All??!!!

by Susan Lottig
(Spring, TX USA)

I have been trying to collect my monthly child support regularly from my exhusband for over 10 years now. He is behind over $21,000.00 and should pay $1,000.00 monthly.


Since he is self employed the Attorney General's office will not garnish wages. He has the money to pay but often does not for several periods of time. Everytime we go to court they allow him it seems like...just another 6 months and resets the case continually. This has now been going on for over 10 years. Initially, I was under the empression that it was the Law in the State of Texas if you did not pay your child support owned, especially over a period of time, and with such a large amount acrued you would sentenced to some jail time. When we finally got the date to appear before the Judge, they took both of us into a room, sitting right next to each other and asked me what I wanted to do. Did I want to put him in jail? That was very difficult for me to have to say sitting next to him and later while still in the building being verbally harrassed and no one even paying attention. I do not feel that it is my place to have to request that when it should already be the law. Isn't that the whole reason why we are coming downtown to go to court? Even after that hearing they continued to allow him more time with resets.

One time they told him that he would have to have Attorney the next time we came back to court and ofcourse he didn't and they just once again gave him another 6 months reset to hire an Attorney after he had already told. How can he pay for his private attorney when he can't even pay his support? Right?! In November 2010, we appeared before the Judge in the final hearing (so I thought) and the Judge had sentenced him to his jail time and licence suspension, etc. but only ordered $5,000.00 for him to pay as the amount for his arrearage which was $19,000.00 at the time and allowed him 3 more months and the court date was once again reset to Feb. 2010.

They told me that I did not have to appear for that hearing since it was already ordered by the Judge to seek his punishment if he did not comply. And he failed to comply once again. That day he made a one time payment of $1,000.00. So, I thought like they had explained to me that he finally now would be committed to the county jail for the 180 days and his license would be revoked on that day, Feb. 24, 2010 as stated in the papers on Nov. 20, 2010. And guess what...the case was reset to May 17, 2010. This case has gone on and on and on!!!!!! I am really disappointed with the State of Texas Attorney General's Office. Then, to top it off, I received a Certified Letter on Feb. 25, 2010 informing me of our next court date which is May 17, 2010 and the last paragraph of the letter reads as follows:
The Attorney General, pursuant to Texas Family Code Chapter 231, represents only the interest of the State of Texas and does not represent your interests. The interests of the State of Texas may be different from your interests.

You may hire a private attorney to represent your interest if you desire.

Now, just where did that come from??!!!
I have 2 daughters now 10 and 13. My exhusband is and always has been financially capable of making his payments on a regular basis but often chooses not to. (He says my parents have plenty of money) He lives in a two-story home and has owned a 4 wheel drive truck and a mustang sports car, a boat, and travels often playing softball and gambles alot. So, just where is the best interests at that is suppose to be for my 2 daughters? And the State of Texas??

Susan
Spring, Texas

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Wow, Mar 15th person, can you spell or think rationally??
by: Anonymous

Amazing! And NOT in a good way!! First of all, SEEM is spelled S-E-E-M. I think we all learned that in like, second grade. Shows a lot about how educated you are and what kind of stake anyone should put into your 2 cents - NONE!

A woman should just 'move on' and accept the mistake she made while SHE PAYS every penny to raise a child YOU contributed YOUR 3 minutes of glory to (lest we forget the DNA, moron)! Please!! YOU are the EXACT reason laws are as strict as they ARE. You ARE the pure definition of DEADBEAT dad. Who gave you the right to bring children into this world and walk away financially scot-free? NOBODY, that's who!! Get a clue you ignorant excuse for a man (or woman who's blinded by an ignorant man)!

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help or support?
by: Anonymous

Seems the man in question is a "dead beat dad". Some of us do pay our child support and get the raw end of the deal too! Kids being sent every year in the same clothes while mom rides around in a new expedition. Kids are sent with no shoes because "she forgot", but she wears $300 dollar sun glasses. Constantly get called to send more money for this acticity or that activity only to find out that kids never got to do those things. Most men pay a bigger percentage of child support than the mom does but by law do not get to claim the kids on taxes. Fair,I think not, but it happens everyday. Also, being taken back to court every 2-3 years for more support is ridiculous. Because I had the where withall to better myself and get a college degree, why should I have to give her more money? She sits at home with my kids, her other kids from another marriage and makes more than half of what I do in child support. That's a crime in my opinion. In many cases the das lose becaue they get less time with the kids, even thoughmany are more capable than the moms. The dads are overlooked during the initial process as unsuitable to be single parents, when in a lot of cases are the more responsible, driven and capable of the two to provide a stable life for the children. The problem is, teh child suppoprt laws were written for well to do peole who could afford to pay 25-30 percent of their net incomes and not really take a hit. There was a comment earlier abut women trying to punish men for mistakes made in the marriage. That's true to some extent. Why try to make he man's life hell just because he no longer loves you or vice versa. Take what you get and be happy. I would take my kids with no support from my ex because I can take care of my own. In my opinion, if you can't make it on your own, then the children should be with the one who can. provided there are no circumstances that would endanger the chld such as drug use, alcoholism, etc.

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Texas
by: Anonymous

Parents who willingly and knowlingly not pay child support should be in jail. They get away with breaking the law. People are in jail for much smaller crimes. It is a felony to not pay child support in Texas. Felons serve jail time and deal with the consequences after they get out.

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Women do it too
by: Anonymous

Our ex daughter in law is supposed to pay for health insurance as well as child support. It's going on 2 years now and nothing has happened. The Texas Attorney General takes 9 months to a year to review the case. It's absolutely stupid that Texas tax payers pay them to do nothing and the children suffer. My son works 2 jobs to provide for his children. His wife is a registered nurse and says she can't find a job. What do you do? She gets to see the children and yet she doesn't pay child support.

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Just My Opinon
by: Anonymous

I was raised in a Divorced home and fully understand the process from start to finish. Now if this Guy is truly a dead beat then he deserves whatever happens to him. You made the Children you pay for the Children. But I want to give a stern Warning to you Women out there that seek to use your children and the child support laws as weapons to destroy Dads for mistakes in the marriage, as my Mom did. "IT ALLWAYS BACKFIRES IN THE LONG RUN? Your kids will grow to resent you and see you as the obstacle that kept them from their Dad. Whether it?s true are not that?s what will happen. Trust me they are smarter than you think and forget nothing. Especially if he is trying to do for them

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It takes two
by: Anonymous

It does take two to concieve a child. However as soon as both parties have fulfilled their desires then "ALL" the decisions fall into the hands of the woman and that includes abortion. The man cannot insist on an abortion nor can he stop the woman if she chooses to have an abortion. This gives all the rights to the woman in making whatever decision she chooses but the man is still responsible without having any say in any part except for the sexual act. Hmm? Is that really equality?

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Where is YOUR head?!??!
by: Anonymous

To the gentleman that took the time to post a comment that stated the above, you obvisouly are a disgruntled Dead Beat Dad that thinks women THINK they are owed something! A child is made, as you are aware, by 2 people and if the father and mother decide to split, they should BOTH be financially responsible for the child and their well being! What makes you think it is ok to state that the woman who is owed over 20k in child suport is not obligated to collect and to tell her to get over it?! You're obviously ignorant as well! Men such as yourself seem to have the misconception that just becuse you are ordered to pay child support that the women that have custody of the children are more than capable of affording to do so. Not always the case! And to tell her she should have made better choices is a bunch of BS! The exhusband putting off his responsibility should make better choices and represent himself as a MAN and not some lame excuse for one. What a great example he is showing his kids that is ok to put off financial obligations. It's no wonder women grow up and end up with loosers when their father's are.

I have come to the conclusion that men totally resent the bad choice THEY made when asking a woman to marry them or lay with them b/c they just could't keep their pants on. So, we all know where YOUR head was....obviously. So get over it and accept the fact well, we ARE owed something and that is your end of the bargain buddy....pay up and be a responsible MAN!

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Relpying to "Where is Your Head"
by: Anonymous

You moron! That's besides the point! I'm sure she doesn't want him in jail, but she does want the State to enforce their laws, otherwise, the jerk will continue to pull his crap knowing that there are no real consequences! It's like raising children! If you are all talk, your kids will walk all over you, because they know that nothing is ever going to happen to them!
I've never heard such idiotic statements! "You women out their seam to think that a man owes you something." What the hell?!?! So men should be able make babies and not share in the financial responsibilities of caring for them??? You must be a real disgusting excuse for a human being, and I pray that you never reproduce!

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where is your head
by: Anonymous

You sound like you want to punish this man by putting him into jail. Dont you have the since to realize that in jail he could not pay anyway. And if in jail he will have a crimal record. Which makes him not to be able ever to pay and you children have to admit my father is a criminal. Get it to gether. If the man does not pay . Just get over it and make better choices next time. You women out their seam to think that a man owes you something . You have the same oppotunities to make if not better than he does today . Forget him and move on with your life. You made these children or child also. It was both dicisions.

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DEAD BEAT DAD'S NO HELP FROM COURTS
by: Anonymous

I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING IN NEBRASKA!! I DON'T KNOW IF ANYONE CAN HELP!! I HAVE A FEELING THAT IT IS NEVER IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF THE KIDS UNLESS THE KIDS ARE ON STATE ASSISTANCE. I HAVE REMARRIED AND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN SUPPORTING HIS AND OUR KIDS FOR THE LAST 10 YEARS EVEN BEFORE MARRIAGE BECAUSE MY EX NEVER PAID EVEN LEFT THE STATE FOR A WHILE. IF I WAS ON STATE ASSISTANCE THEN THE STATE WOULD BE RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF EVERY THING. I HAPPEN TO BE IN THE STATE OF NEBRASKA NOT TEXAS BUT I AM SERIOUSLY THINKING ABOUT GOING INTO LAW FURTHER AND MAKING SOME MORE LAWS. SOMEHOW THE JUDGES NEED TO FOLLOW THE LAWS!!

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