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Not The Father

by Distraut and Confused
(Cleveland, Ohio)

I am in a funny situation. My situation is a little different, well it seems that way to me because I dont know where to begin to look for help. I am currently paying child support for a child that is not mine. My girlfriend at the time told me she was pregnant and that it was my child. I believed her of course because we had been together for awhile. Well after the baby was born and several years went by she came to me and said I was not the father and she had the real father tested and the test had positve results saying the other guy was the father. Since then I have not spoken or seen her and the child. I have no way of contacting them. Its seems as if she had vanished. But recently I got a letter from child support saying that I owe money for this child, and they have started paying her money. Well according to the law. I guess its my responsibility because I signed the birth certificate. So legally I am the father. But what bothers me the most is that she is taking my money to take care of her and the child and she is still with the real father. I don't agree with that at all. I have been trying to get this taken care of but for some reason I can't find her. Hopefully the courts will rule in my favor so that I can use my money to take care of my real family. If you can help me or have any advice please submit it.

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Aug 30, 2009
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farther rights
by: Anonymous

most women are liers and whores. all that want is a free ride, and take advantage of a honest hard working man. I know am one of them. there,s only a hand full of good women most of them is mostly trash. my ex wife is a n...r loving whore. I hate her gutts.

Jul 06, 2009
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my husban is paying child support
by: Anonymous

My husban was married to this girl and she had a child that is not his but he is now paying child support for the child. The child support where we live tell him that he has to pay the child support cause they where married. If there is any way that you have any advise for me please write me back.

Jun 11, 2009
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P.I. Advice
by: G. Young

I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. There are several ways to find a person. Online if you have any info on her such as a social security number or last known address but this takes massive amounts of search time but is realativly cheap for about $35-75. Or hire an investigator that can probably get you her contact info in about three days max but will cost you around $300. Swab the child's cheek and wait for your written evidence.

Second, once contacted and after you've seen the child on a visit, have gotten photos and the swab, call the mom. RECORD her comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court.

Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee.

We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx

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Jun 11, 2009
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I'm a former Private Investigator and the wife of a paternity fraud victim... First, get a mail-ordered DNA test (cheap around $65 for non-admissable to court type if you just want personal confirmation or heafty around $275 if you want the kind that you can use in court) then make nice with mom long enough to get a visit with the child. There are several ways to find a person. Online if you have any info on her such as a social security number or last known address but this takes massive amounts of search time but is realativly cheap for about $35-75. Or hire an investigator that can probably get you her contact info in about three days max but will cost you around $300. Swab the child's cheek and wait for your written evidence. Second, once contacted and after you've seen the child on a visit, have gotten photos and the swab, call the mom. RECORD her comments about the child not being yours. Get her mad over the phone, put the phone on speaker (if you don't have a built in digital) and use a recorder. It's not illegal to record your own conversatons within your own house and the tape is admissable in court. Third, hire an investigator before hiring an attorney. Find out who else knew what she did and have their full name and current contact info available for summons when you're ready to take the mom to court for fraud. Try to find the most religous based person close to the mom as they have the tendency not to lie on the stand. You gather as much info as possible before hiring the attorney because attorneys will hire investigators to obtain background on cases and charge you double the fee. We've been there - Good Luck - and please read my posting TWINS. I'm experimenting in volumn posts concerning paternity fraud as gathering massive victims could lead to a CLASS ACTION suit that could get the laws changed in this country. Leave some contact info if you're interested. Thnx

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Jun 10, 2009
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she's not even my little angel
by: Anonymous

Pennsylvania I am 20 yrs old and quit school to become a father. My girlfriend cheated on me many times with my best friend. We had broken up and I got word one day at work that I was going to be a dad. I wanted to make things right, but apparently that wasnt good enough. My angel was born march 2008. I am not paying child support . I heard all kinds of rumors and got a home paternity test and sent it away. The results came back that she isnt even mine. Domestic relations isnt interested in what i have to say cause they are getting 600.00 a month from me. I have nothing now, couldnt make my car payment, lost my apt and living in a friends basement. I would do anything for my daughter but she isnt mine. I dont have the money to fight this cause ive been bled dry. and as I said Domestic relations doesnt care cause they have my money. I dont know where to turn....help please

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