One night stand wants child support 3 years later.

by Anonymous
(RI)

I was in basic training 17 years old. I met a girl who was a "lesbian" whom wanted a child of her own. I lived in RI as she lived in FL. She wanted to "know me" better before she decided she wanted me as the sperm donor for my genes and such. Well we ended up in a hotel room hanging out and one thing lead to another. There was a condom used. Well my buddy knocks on the door and we never finished. A couple months later and that being the only time we did anything she told me she was pregnant. Even from then she didn't want me to be dad. She wanted her own lesbian life. We talked here and there but that was all untill we graduated basic training. I get back to RI and meet my new girlfriend. The one night stand randomly contacts me again a couple months later at 8 to 9 months pregnant saying she's doing well, has a loving girlfriend and asked me to visit them and knock her up. I was not going to do that and she knew so it was okay. She let me knew the month 'our' son was born and she still didn't want me to be a part of his life. Now my girlfriend was pregnant at that time also so all I cared about was my new family and not her who did not want me to be involved in any way. My sisters and mom still talked with her for a year about and she still did not want anything from me. Well right now I have a 19 month son with one on the way with my wife. This is three years after my one night stand who just contacted me wanting 500 a month in child support. I am having a hard time supporting my family and paying child support will leave me less than 200 a month to support my wife, baby, newborn to be, dog, cat, and myself. She wanted nothing untill now. She also has another son with her girlfriend. I also can't guarantee that child is even mine. What would the best way to appeal this shit she now wants to put me through? I'm already stressing enough with financial problems and now this is going to kill my family.





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Sorry!
by: Lesa

I am a Lesbian, and I have been with my partner for 8 years, and we both have children, although, our children are now grown. We were at one time thinking about having a baby together, but my daughter had a baby. Now we have two beautiful grandsons.

My point is that if she ask you to father a child for her, and she told you that you would not be held accountable, then you should not be held accountable. (I do not think you should have to pay child support). Hell, you were doing her a favor. This is how I would present my case to the judge. Let him know you were helping her. Now if they have a hard time understanding that, then that is their shit.(Judges and anyone else)

If you were in an agreement(verbal) it is binding. It's like having a written contract, only its verbal. Make sure they know that. God Bless!

Sincerely,
Lesamarie

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Seriously
by: Anonymous

First, DON'T SIGN ANYTHING!!! If you didn't sign the birth certificate, then in order for her to file for child support, you must get a paternity test. I have done lots of research on all of this. The paternity test can be court ordered. If you are determined to be the father, then you will probably have to pay. But don't sign anything. Tell the broad that she must provide you and the child with a paternity test. If she is serious, then she will do so.

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Get Proof
by: Anonymous

Get proof - Paternity Test and if it's positive your responsible. That's why it's always best to keep your pants zipped ;).. Hope it works out for you..

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ok!
by: rjamison331

Ok, got your Poroblem. Just a lot of holes in it, but I do believe you. I too am going trough something and this woman gave the child my last name with out me sighning a peternity paper, and get this she have never personaly step foot in court. The catch is they let her speak electronicaly on the phone, she also state she has an order of proection against me. Never seen, she has also stated to the court she do not want me to know the where about of her and the child because I'm a life and death threat for her and the child. And get this I have been paying child support for this child and fighting the court system Just for them to say o you can get him on a willfulness case. Now I'm fighting a woman in court for a child I never seen who is five years old have my last name with out my consent and to get kicked they know everything she did is slander and Defimation of character. So yes I believe you but tell the truth to many holes. this is how we get help

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Just your part
by: Anonymous

You owe it to yourself and the baby to just take a paternity test. The courts will decide the amount of financial obligation when the look into the incomes. I am and have been through this time and time again. I am presently owed over 57,000 and fighting to get what is owed through the attorney general with a arrest warrant for the non-custodial parent. I do the work and they still don't collect. Long story short.. back dated child support and will I see it, or will the really go after u.. Yeah right. Just do your part as a participant and as a parent waiting I feel you will get a A +++++ from me..

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oh man
by: Anonymous

Well if you didnt sign the birth certificate than i find it really hard that she is able to get you for 500 a month. unless there is something you are not telling us. Someone cant just go to the court house and say "this guy is the father an did want support" with no proof. If that is the case than hire a lawyer and "sign over your rights" so you dont have to pay support. only do that if you dont want this child in your life and dont care to know the child. But DEF get yourself a lawyer immediately!!!!

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