Paying Child Support for two Children who live with us!!!!

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Paying Child Support for two Children who live with us!!!!

by Nancy Olson
(Brentwood, CA)

Four years ago my two stepchildren decided to live with us. We live in California and my husband made an agreement with his ex to give her a certain amount each month.

This was not done through the courts and my husband had a court order to pay a certain amount of child support per month and it did not change based on his income or his two children coming to live with us. The state of Texas began garnishing his wages. Sometimes we would get a paycheck for $0. At the time, I had an 18 month old son and was pregnant with my second child. I was seven months pregnant looking for a job. Nobody would hire a pregnant woman. In the meantime, his ex-wife refused to work.

His ex-wife took this money, saying that he owed it to her. This was for ONE CHILD and we had two of her children living with us. My husband was paying for FOUR children, the oldest had moved in with her boyfriend's family.

The Attorney General's Office did NOTHING to aid my husband, saying that he could only change it through the courts. WE HAD NO MONEY...IT WAS ALL BEING TAKEN FROM US. There were six of us crammed in a dumpy two bedroom apartment. We had no money to pay for a lawyer. This went on for a year!!! My husband's parents finally gave him the money and he filed for custody and lowered his child support payments and had all of his past due amount forgiven.

Now, he has lost a huge chunk of his salary, we have ABSOLUTELY NO MONEY to pay a lawyer to change it. I have THREE SMALL children. All this time, my husband's ex has NOT BEEN REQUIRED to pay any child support. Our income tax return will be going to her. All this time she has had only one child who is now twelve. I need to go to work to help support HER CHILDREN.

So now, where does this leave us? My husband will not contact the Attorney General's office because of their rudeness to him the first time and their refusal to help the 'NON-CUSTODIAL' parent and hide behind the court order. Why will they not help my husband when they seemed to bend over backwards for his ex-wife? We can't even afford an airline ticket right now for him to fly out there. So tell me, with no money and the Attorney General's office stacking up his unpaid amounts, where does that leave us? We still live in California and now we are a family of seven with my two stepchildren still living with us.

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Stand up for fathers rights
by: Jim Beam

I find this ironic. Men have been getting raped by the court system for child support for years. Women have done little to change this being the primary beneficiaries. The other beneficiaries are the lawyers who promote a system when nothing is ever final until every last penny has been stripped from you in child support or fees.

The problem for women is you may just be with such a man who is being raped by the system. It may also take your money as well if you are on the wrong side of the fence. It may happen to your son, brother, or uncle who are not only ruined financially, but often isolated from their children through lack of funds, or risk to reputation or imprisonment.

I had no idea how prevalent a man being falsely accused of abuse by a woman seeing to gain full custody was until I started looking at the problem. The accusation is enough to ruin most people's career and finances. If he is found innocent, nothing is done to the accuser.

In recent years, the system has changed slightly to be more punitive to the more responsible party (often but not always the man), but the biggest factor in child support payments is the custody percentage which still favors the woman in a vast majority of cases.

On top of all of that, child support is independent of the costs to raise a child, depending only on income. If you are supporting additional children in your own house, tough luck. There?s no money for them in the equation. You have a mortgage to pay? Tough luck. You need to eat? Tough luck. Besides the IRS, it is the only way to be jailed for owing money. However, unlike tax evasion, you are not assumed to be making a full salary while you are imprisoned.

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Dito
by: Anonymous

I feel your pain! I'm married to a man that is paying child support to a girl like that, except they were never married and only new each other 4 months. Then he came back to TEXAS and has been given hell every since. Back in 2003 was when this happened. She called him one day out of the blue telling him she only got pregnant for child support. Well i had two children form a previous marriage and had everything a car a house everything. I have helped him so much since 06. now we have two sons together and when he lost his job last march she made sure to text and say "wheres my money?" but since 06 he had paid every penny of back pay AND FORWARD AND THEY DECIDED THEY WANTED $1800 DOLLARS MORE. These type of situations make me want to cry because i understand them. It is unfair and woman like us should stand together for the listless rejects of society. I understand what it's like to protect and work for them. because what is the point of working for 700 a month and only receiving 100 out of it. then in 07 they took my kids earned income credit and gave it to that hussy. All the while i found out she spent have of it on concert tickets. I want everyone to know there is a difference some woman righteously do deserve the money but then others don't. We need to stand together how do you think women got there rights in the first place. But in this case I'm for the man. It is not right.

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