Get a bank account in your own name. Never put any assets in his name, including cars and your home. If you want to take it to the extreme. Get a divorce get a child support award of your own, she will then only get a percentage of the money and your kids will get their percentage owed. Take that money and support your own kids. Once your divoced who cares where he lives. With you or Moms
Jun 02, 2010 Rating
A Bit Harsh by: Terri
I think the others were a just a bit harsh on you. It may be due to that fact that you are in the military and my heart is soft for you right now.
But I have seen where they take ALL the money in a the bank for the husbands back support. They did that to my best friend a couple years ago. Sad thing is that the money they took was HER OWN child support and that is not allowed, but how could she prove it? Other sad thing, he was behind in his payments because he has a hard time finding a job after spending two years in IRAQ!
Anyway, it's a shame that they take the spouses money but having been on both ends of this, it's to be expected. However, to take ALL of it?? I was told that they wouldn't leave my ex broke. Ok, so it's alright that that I'm broke with the kids? Doesn't make any sense.
Jan 05, 2010 Rating
leave as fast as you can! by: Anonymous
You married him KNOWING he had a support obligation that he was behind on...sorry, lady although I respect you for being in the military I have no sympathy for you...you married the guy, you married his problems, too.
What about that custodial parent who is probably struggling?
Get a bank account with only your name on it so the state cannot touch it.
Oct 15, 2009 Rating
stop breeding if you can't afford the ones you already have... by: Anonymous
When you marry someone with children, it is inevitable that the financial aspect of those kids will be partially your responsibility.
Why should those other children have to suffer with no support from the father just because you two have 4 kids and he doesn't want to work?
You need to see this from another perspective - the other children's. He chose to have 4 MORE kids AND not work - and that's not their problem.
He needs to get a job that can pay enough to make his child support whether it be part time or a graveyard shift, or you need to stop complaining.
Aug 03, 2009 Rating
Sorry by: Anonymous
Sounds like you need to run or move out of the country. I am very sorry, especially if you love your husband. Your primary responsibility is to your kids and if his kids get the money you worked for, this is not fair to your children....
