paying support that is more than half my income w/ no visitation
Hi I am a father of 2 who has been divorced and sinced remarried.. I was self employed when i first started paying child support and felt it was my obligation to support my children i was paying $1000.00 per week yes $1000.00 per week , but by the time my ex-wife was thru with me in court I was for sure a loser and a dead beat dad i had very limited income and when i tried to see my children on an off day the answer was always no. I proceeded to go to court to have my child support reduced when i lost my business due to the financial stress the divorce put on me and was laughed at and told no. when i could no longer afford the child support i paid what i could and of course went into arrears and was hauled back to court the support was eventually lowered but not before i was thousands of dollars in arrears, then one court date i appeared at, the judge locked me up because i was 2 days late paying 200.00 to my ex.. and when i was let out of jail the judge raised my support to 480.00 dollars and i was unemployed and my new wife was only working part time. finally the icing on the cake was my ex wife taking my children to virginia and allowing me to see them 2 times a year and thats only if she feels like it . I can definately see why fathers decide to job jump and not want to pay their support. Everyone always sides for the women there are good dads out there and we get no recognition whatsoever. I continue to work effortlessly and pay my support even though it is more than half of my income. thanks for the chance to have my story read by others sincerely, a desparate father
Comments for
paying support that is more than half my income w/ no visitation
It's really sad isn't it. If you were married and this happened there would be no court to throw you in jail because spouses can't be held responsible.
How ridiculous is this???????
Dec 11, 2008 Rating
WE NEED TO STAND TOGETHER! by: Anonymous
I agree with you and the one that left a comment. I beleive we should as non custiodial parents need to ban together so that we get treated =. I'm tired of the system and the ONES THAT DO THERE PART GETTING KICKED TO THE CURB! WE NEED TO BE HEARD!
Nov 17, 2008 Rating
Frustration by: Anonymous
Unfortunately,
You are not alone. The fact is that the courts and everyone else under that leagl umbrella go after the money. They make the law, and they own the law. As long as money flows through their system, they benefit from it through federal funding. Imagine how much attention non-custodial parents could get if they staged a HUGE protest like they do for equal rights. Can't say I have ever seen anything like it, but maybe it could get the attention it deserves. Right now, there are only three things a non-custodial parent can hope for: her death, his death, or the child's death! Isn't that sad?
