paying support that is more than half my income w/ no visitation
Hi I am a father of 2 who has been divorced and sinced remarried.. I was self employed when i first started paying child support and felt it was my obligation to support my children i was paying $1000.00 per week yes $1000.00 per week , but by the time my ex-wife was thru with me in court I was for sure a loser and a dead beat dad i had very limited income and when i tried to see my children on an off day the answer was always no. I proceeded to go to court to have my child support reduced when i lost my business due to the financial stress the divorce put on me and was laughed at and told no. when i could no longer afford the child support i paid what i could and of course went into arrears and was hauled back to court the support was eventually lowered but not before i was thousands of dollars in arrears, then one court date i appeared at, the judge locked me up because i was 2 days late paying 200.00 to my ex.. and when i was let out of jail the judge raised my support to 480.00 dollars and i was unemployed and my new wife was only working part time. finally the icing on the cake was my ex wife taking my children to virginia and allowing me to see them 2 times a year and thats only if she feels like it . I can definately see why fathers decide to job jump and not want to pay their support. Everyone always sides for the women there are good dads out there and we get no recognition whatsoever. I continue to work effortlessly and pay my support even though it is more than half of my income. thanks for the chance to have my story read by others
sincerely,
a desparate father
