Preference of Child ignored by judge; wealthy father remains custodial parent

by Eliana
(Lubbock TX)

Rights of Mothers and Young Adult Children

Rights of Mothers and Young Adult Children

My son, who lives with his wealthy father in Lubbock, was denied his Preference of Child at age 15 when he went before a judge (no names, but he was a Lubbock judge and now in another city position. During the hearing, there was no attempt to discredit me as a mother. It would be a tough road to go if they had (I was a single parent for twelve years).


During the hearing, my son was (according to his account) talked "at" by the judge. Although I had requested (via my inexperienced and probably intimidated lawyer) that a guardian ad litem or other officer of the court be present during his meeting with the judge, no one was in chambers to hear what was said between the judge and my son.

My son, now age 17, is thinking about filing again but is fearful of what would happen if it is denied for the second time--his father retaliated the first time. Will it be worse the second time around? His father is a BIG fish in a SMALL pond--wealthy, powerful, and connected to "the university" where the last Judge was and still is affiliated (sits on boards, works with law school professors and students, etc).

I am fearful of what might happen if my son stays in Lubbock with a step-family (three step-siblings and a step-mother) and bio father that he doesn't love and barely tolerates. His father seems to give the step-children preferential treatment and it appears that he holds my son to a higher standard. His father makes the rules of the house and the step-mother is the enforcer. These are minor examples but I wonder what happens when a kid feels verbal and emotional abuse daily and doesn't feel loved by the people he lives with?

What would you do if your father, in a public forum with step-siblings in the conversation, declared "I never wanted to be your father?" I, myself, heard him say this in yet another public forum.

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