Sad Mom

by Jessica
(Warsaw, IN)

My daughter is almost 7 years old. Her father was ordered to pay $47 a week in child support, December 2004, when my daughter was 6 months old. Her father is behind over $5,000. He works for a few months, quits his job, then goes out and gets a job whenever he gets pressure from the mother of one of his 5 children. I work a low paying job and can hardly make it. I have no resources to fight him legally so I don't know what to do. He knows how to work the system. He and his wife run a home business but all of it is in his wife's name.......2 cars, 2 trucks, house, business, boat etc......It's sad that I have paid upwards of $80 a week for childcare for years and he isn't required to pay even that. Forget having money to provide my daughter with any extras. I lost my low paying job a month ago. I don't qualify for unemployment. I have several serious illnesses and now have no health insurance. I don't qualify for Medicaid. We are getting food stamps. I will lose my car, my home, everything I have worked for 10 years to have. If he had to pay the amount he is behind, we would have enough money to live on till I find another job. I am actively searching for a job that will pay enough to support me and my daughter. I don't expect much of any help from her father. He paid me $33.33 last week. First payment I've received in 7 months. He's starting the cycle over again. I bet he'll probably quit his job by June 1st and pay any support for another 6 months or more until one of the mothers of his children turn him in..........




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he's sorry
by: latisha

I read your story and I can relate. In the long. run you will be blessed. Its sad how the system allows these men to get away with this. You didn't make this child by yourself. If he do go to jail so what maybe he will start paying. Who wants to go to jail.then he want be with his wife or live his good life.

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Really???
by: Anonymous

I am on the other side of the situation. My husband has to pay, and even though I do not feel that it is my responsibility, we make sure that he pays what the court ordered him to pay.
It is sad to see when mother's ARE doing what they have to do to support their child and the father is shady about it.
So, first go to the court in your area and ask for a packet to file a motion to Enforce Litigant's Rights. You can represent yourself, even though it is better to have a lawyer. You can go to the court and they should provide a low income lawyer for you. So, once you fill out the paperwork, you will get a court date and the Judge should side with you and put the defendant (your ex)on strict probation, meaning that if he misses so many payments then he will go to jail.
Also, with the motion you can ask for the arrears to be paid and the Judge will come up with a plan about that as well. That happened with my husband. He owed over $2000 and the Judge ordered him to pay an extra $25 a week on top of what he already pays for child support.
You can ask for help at the family division at your local county courthouse.
I hope that this helps.

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learn to take care of yourself
by: Anonymous

The best advice that I can give to you is to do everything you can to find a way to take care of yourself. If this means taking out student loans and grants to go back to school, or finding other means of income, you will be happier in the long run by doing this. If you don't want to or can't go back to school, there are many earning opportunities online. You can take surveys for cash. There are also many writing sites where you can post articles for either upfront payments, adshare revenue or both. This will allow you to take better care of your child, and to feel better about yourself. As for your ex, if he pays, he pays. You can use the DA's office in your state to go after him, but that may or may not get you payment. If he's really that much against paying, it may only result in him being thrown in jail which is little to no help for you, but if you are able to take care of yourself, that is forever and will do both you and your chidl a world of good.

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