Why we or anyone had kids in the first place is not the issue. Dead beat owning up to their responsibilites is.
Sep 17, 2008 Rating
Research by: Bryna
I agree that something needs to be done!! I have found more information than my case worker has. I went to the CSE office and gave the case worker information and she told me that I have gotten farther on my case than she had and I always will because at the CSE agency they do not even do a simple internet search to locate the NCP. What a crock!! What are our tax dollars paying for then? If we do not do all of the research we are all screwed! Good luck
Sep 18, 2008 Rating
$100,000... and now a job? by: Anonymous
First let me start by saying that I do believe that your children should be taken care of.
$100,000 is a lot of money! I am a Dad that struggled to do the right thing. I felt like I was dragged through the system. My kids are grown now from that marriage. I love them. I respect their mother, but I don't feel that great about her either. She painted me as a Dad who didn't want to be around. That was a lie. I wanted to be around my kids but not around her. Her ways were just not mine. I tried to move on with my life but ran into other relationships that led to more bad decisions and circumstances.
I say all of this to say... We fathers hurt just as much as anyone. But our burden is to hide it and control it. To me its about being fair and civil on your own strength. That takes more guts and responsibility than subcribing to the decision of a judge. How rewarding will be that you keep the door open for their father to get it together himself. And if he can't work with him to keep it civil. Our mates sometimes become our enemies. But the better person rises from the ashes and still holds true to why you had kids in the first place. No court can replace that.
