serving overseas when the mother of my child decided I couldnt be apart of our childs life

I was serving in Iraq. When the time was coming close to me coming home, my ex stopped taking my calls. She wouldnt let me speak to our daughter. I had been giving her money on a regualr basis. Upon coming home from Iraq I went to my ex's granparents to find her so I could see my daughter but they said they couldnt tell me where she was. I went to the police and asked if I could file a missing person report and was told no as me and the mother were never married and the child was with the mother.

I was told to hire a PI but was in no financial situation to do so because I had given my ex most of my money while I was deployed. My ex finally called me a few months later to tell me she was getting married and the new guy was a great dad to our daughter and that she only wished me to leave her alone as our daughter doesnt even know me due to being deployed for a year.

I told her no and that I wanted to see her and she hung up on me. She had called from a blocked number so I was unable to call her back. Shortly after all of this I was stationed in Germany where my legal office told me that I could not do anything from here. I would have to go to Texas where she is apparently living. But I dont know where. My wages are now being garnished and I never recieved any papers from any court or law office telling me to show for a hearing. I am being garnished almost $700 and it is hurting my family of four that I have now. I still dont know where she is and I have no case number so I am basically screwed.

So I am now in Afghanistan trying to get something done about this but it is next to impossible. I love my daughter very much and want nothing more than to be apart of her life but have been labeled as a dead beat even though I was doing everything right. My ex took her away from me while I was at war and theres nothing I can do. I find this to be a completly screwed up system.

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That's terrible!
by: Anonymous

Thank you brother for honorably serving our country. Like you, I'm a servicemember going through a divorce in Texas as well. I can tell you that if they are garnishing your wages, have all of your money put into an allotment. It is against the law for a child support agency to touch a servicemember's allotment (per Soldiers and Sailors relief act). I've seen this done many a times in my 23 year career and no one can't do anything about it. When you do that, she'll come knocking! LOL!
Our servicemembers need to be protected more from these "spouses" that prey on servicemembers. They're doing no more than what the Taliban or Al Qaeda is doing- Trying to destroy and hurt the image and character of the American servicemember emotionall, physically, and spirtiually. This is a crime that no one is doing anything about and its time that something should be done! These selfish harlots need to be held accountable for what they do in times such as these!

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A few suggestions.
by: stepmother of 3

Since you work for the the United States goverment you should be able to ask them about the withhold documents that the Texas Attorney Genral sends them every month to withhold for child support. When you get a copy of that it should have the cause number on it. An since she lives in Texas you have a right to see your child. But if you contact the office of the attorney genral an say you aren't getting visitation they won't help you. Once you have the cause number an the office it is going thru you can find out what county it is in an call the district clerk of that county with your cause number and ask for a copy of the Child support papers . When you get a copy it should have you ex address on it. I would go that route and hopfully you can get some answers.

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suck
by: Anonymous

this sure does suck

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